{"id":16900,"date":"2020-07-26T08:02:36","date_gmt":"2020-07-26T08:02:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=16900"},"modified":"2021-08-12T09:14:25","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T09:14:25","slug":"carta-abierta-de-la-chica-que-decidio-seguir-adelante","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/carta-abierta-de-la-chica-que-decidio-seguir-adelante\/","title":{"rendered":"Carta abierta de la chica que decidi\u00f3 seguir adelante"},"content":{"rendered":"

So, yet another letter from an abandoned girl. But I promise you, this time it\u2019s not a sad letter. In this letter, I won\u2019t curse fate or my destiny or even my bad luck with men. I won\u2019t cry my heart out.<\/p>\n

This is a different kind of letter and it\u2019s a different story.<\/p>\n

La historia es la siguiente:<\/p>\n

Me enamor\u00e9 de un tipo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t just fall for him, I was made to believe that it was mutual. There were clear and signos evidentes de atracci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Las chispas que surg\u00edan entre nosotros eran imposibles de ignorar o fingir. Fuimos paso a paso y nada parec\u00eda precipitado.<\/p>\n

Me hizo creer que \u00edbamos a alguna parte.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Never for a moment did I feel like we were stuck. Our random texting was replaced with long, deep conversations and then it all moved to late-night talks about literally everything. From just casual going out to going out together, it was only the two of us running away from everyone just so we\u2019d have time for ourselves.<\/p>\n

Cada paso que d\u00e1bamos, cada momento que pas\u00e1bamos juntos, cada caricia que sent\u00edamos, todo era una promesa silenciosa de que algo mejor, m\u00e1s grande y m\u00e1s serio se dirig\u00eda hacia nosotros.<\/p>\n

Estaba listo para el siguiente paso.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Todo lo que pasamos me hizo sentir preparada y segura de nuestro futuro juntos. Se\u00f1ales quiere algo serio<\/a> estaban escritas por todas partes.<\/p>\n

And honestly, I wanted it too. I thought it was finally time I stopped wandering around and committed myself to a single person. It felt cozy with him, it felt good. I could picture us together in life, holding each other\u2019s hands as we fought all the battles destiny threw at us.<\/p>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

While I couldn\u2019t have been more sure about us, he couldn\u2019t have been more scared.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Honestly, I don\u2019t know if it was fear of commitment or just his decision to keep his options open.<\/p>\n

After all that we shared together, he told me how he wasn\u2019t really ready for anything serious. He wasn\u2019t looking for anything that he could sink his teeth into.<\/p>\n

He wasn\u2019t interested in anything that would demand a lot of time, effort and communication from him. He didn\u2019t really want to be in a relationship, including with me.<\/p>\n

Lo que m\u00e1s me escoc\u00eda era el hecho de que realmente quer\u00eda todas esas cosas de \u00e9l. Quer\u00eda algo serio.<\/p>\n

I was interested in giving him my time and efforts and devoting myself to our relationship. I really wanted us to be in a place to which he said a firm \u2018no\u2019 and that\u2019s what hurt me the most.<\/p>\n

When he said he wasn\u2019t interested in moving on I was caught off guard. I didn\u2019t see that coming. There were no telltale signs, there was nothing to give me a hint of this outcome. Actually, everything I saw was directing me toward something completely opposite.<\/p>\n

\"la<\/p>\n

I guess I was wrong. I was so easily deceived and I let my assumptions get the best of me. The worst part is, I\u2019d still do everything the same if I could turn back time. I can\u2019t help it.<\/p>\n

Honestly, I don\u2019t like how things ended and I do wish for something different but I\u2019m going to have to respect his decision.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ten\u00eda tantas esperanzas y cre\u00eda tanto en nosotros que s\u00f3lo acab\u00e9 recibiendo frialdad en lugar del amor que cre\u00eda merecer. Me dej\u00e9 llevar tanto por mis sentimientos que nunca pens\u00e9 que existiera la posibilidad de un resultado diferente.<\/p>\n

Mientras yo daba un salto de fe hacia la oficialidad, \u00e9l se acobardaba. Mientras yo estaba lista para zarpar, \u00e9l prefiri\u00f3 quedarse en el puerto.<\/p>\n

Y lo que m\u00e1s me impresiona es la sensaci\u00f3n de que todo lo que hab\u00edamos vivido antes hab\u00eda sido en vano. Los momentos que yo ve\u00eda como unos de los m\u00e1s felices que hab\u00eda vivido en mi vida resultaron ser mentira. S\u00f3lo hab\u00eda sido d\u00e1ndome largas<\/a>.<\/p>\n

No tengo ni idea de por qu\u00e9 nos hizo vivir todo eso s\u00f3lo para quit\u00e1rmelo. Solo para destrozarlo todo y decirme que nada de eso era real.<\/p>\n

Be that as it may, I decided I\u2019m going to move on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to force things. I don\u2019t want a relationship I\u2019ll have to beg for. I don\u2019t want a guy if I have to beg him to choose me. And I don\u2019t want to stay undefined either. It\u2019s way more humiliating than I can take. And it’s more painful than moving on.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m choosing to love everything we should\u2019ve been, but I\u2019m also accepting that it won\u2019t happen.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019m a grown-up girl and despite the pain I\u2019m feeling, I won\u2019t allow it to get the best of me. Despite my desires, I know that we don\u2019t always get the things in life that we want and that\u2019s okay.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m ready to accept that life won\u2019t give me the person I want the most. I\u2019m accepting that we\u2019re only going to stay an unlived dream, an opportunity that never came to see the light of day.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m choosing to keep in my mind all our memories but I\u2019m accepting that there won\u2019t be any new ones.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In other words, I\u2019m choosing to leave us in the past. But I\u2019m choosing to look back at the past and be grateful for all the happy moments we shared instead of looking at it with a bitter taste in my mouth.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, the things that could\u2019ve been and should\u2019ve been don\u2019t really happen.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s when you need to choose to search for your own happiness and find love in some other place and accept that sometimes we all sail into our lives having to leave some people behind in the harbor and choose to move on.<\/p>\n

\"Carta<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

So, yet another letter from an abandoned girl. But I promise you, this time it\u2019s not a sad letter. In this letter, I won\u2019t curse fate or my destiny or even my bad luck with men. I won\u2019t cry my heart out. This is a different kind of letter and it\u2019s a different story. The…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":105017,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29618],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-16900","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moving-on"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29618,"label":"moving on"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/An-Open-Letter-From-The-Girl-Who-Decided-To-Move-On.jpeg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29618,"name":"moving on","slug":"moving-on","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29618,"taxonomy":"category","description":"When nothing else works - inspiring stories about moving on are bound to help you let go of people and situations you never thought you could live without.\r\n","parent":38,"count":200,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29618,"category_count":200,"category_description":"When nothing else works - inspiring stories about moving on are bound to help you let go of people and situations you never thought you could live without.\r\n","cat_name":"moving on","category_nicename":"moving-on","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16900","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16900"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16900\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/105017"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16900"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16900"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16900"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}