{"id":17028,"date":"2018-03-28T08:24:15","date_gmt":"2018-03-28T08:24:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=17028"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:36:33","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:36:33","slug":"no-sucedera-de-la-noche-a-la-manana-pero-sanaras","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/no-sucedera-de-la-noche-a-la-manana-pero-sanaras\/","title":{"rendered":"No ocurrir\u00e1 de la noche a la ma\u00f1ana, pero te curar\u00e1s"},"content":{"rendered":"

S\u00e9 que si tuvieras un deseo ahora mismo ser\u00eda que todo este dolor acabara.<\/p>\n

You would wish for it to stop right now, at this moment, because it’s becoming unbearable. And even though you keep telling yourself it’s not the end of the world, as hearts break, people leave, and things happen, you know healing won’t happen overnight\u2014it will take time.<\/p>\n

I know it will take a lot more time than you think because I have been there. I have been where you are now. Crying myself to sleep. Crying on public transportation on my way to work, hoping nobody will see me. Crying when I would see something that reminded me of my ex. Crying behind the smile. Crying until one day I couldn’t cry anymore.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Mis l\u00e1grimas se secaron solas al cabo de un rato. Me limpiaron el alma. \u00bfY sabes qu\u00e9? Despu\u00e9s de llorar lo suficiente, las cosas se volvieron m\u00e1s f\u00e1ciles. Estaba lejos de curarme, pero estaba un paso m\u00e1s cerca. As\u00ed que cr\u00e9eme cuando te digo que t\u00fa tambi\u00e9n lo estar\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Cada pensamiento que tuve durante mucho tiempo giraba en torno a \u00e9l.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Segu\u00ed revisando mi tel\u00e9fono, esperando ver su texto<\/a>. I kept thinking he would walk in any minute now or I would see him walking past me on the street. It was almost like I wouldn’t face reality and I just kept waiting for him to come back.<\/p>\n

Pero nunca vino. As\u00ed que en un momento dado, dej\u00e9 de esperar.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I know it’s probably better that he didn’t come back. We were mismatched from the start. Still, I loved him like we fit perfectly together.<\/p>\n

\u00c9ramos dos polos opuestos que nunca coincid\u00edamos. Y era muy dif\u00edcil ponerse de acuerdo en algo con \u00e9l, cuando era el Sr. Sabelotodo. Lo ten\u00eda todo calculado. Quer\u00eda que viviera mi vida seg\u00fan sus reglas, porque \u00e9l sab\u00eda lo que era mejor para m\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Era tan bueno con las palabras que pod\u00eda tergiversar todo para que le beneficiara. Y cada vez que discut\u00edamos, siempre era yo la culpable y \u00e9l no hab\u00eda hecho nada malo.<\/p>\n

Empec\u00e9 a darme cuenta de esto y de muchas cosas m\u00e1s cuando \u00e9l ya no estaba a mi lado.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"No<\/p>\n

I guess sometimes you are too close to somebody and he is blocking your view. He is preventing you from seeing reality. He is preventing you from seeing how wrong and toxic he actually is for you and that things aren\u2019t working.<\/p>\n

The thing is, when a relationship ends, we go back in our mind to those happy moments. To moments of pure joy. We act like those bad, exhausting and sad ones don\u2019t exist and that\u2019s what\u2019s holding us back. That\u2019s what makes us wait for someone who was never the right one for us.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Al hacer eso, hacemos que nuestro proceso de curaci\u00f3n sea mucho m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil. Tenemos esta imagen ideal de nuestro ex en nuestra cabeza cuando en realidad est\u00e1 lejos de serlo. Y en cuanto dejamos de idealizarlo, subimos un pelda\u00f1o m\u00e1s en nuestra escalada hacia la recuperaci\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Y con cada paso que demos, empezaremos a sentirnos un poco mejor. Cada peque\u00f1o paso adelante significa que poco a poco va saliendo de nuestro sistema. Significa que por fin empezamos a cuidar de nosotros mismos para variar.<\/p>\n

Significa que avanzamos sin darnos cuenta. Significa que por fin estamos recuperando nuestra vida.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Recuper\u00e9 mi vida. Descubr\u00ed qui\u00e9n soy sin \u00e9l. I dej\u00f3 de obsesionarse<\/a> sobre lo que podr\u00eda haber sido y acept\u00e9 las cosas como son. Dej\u00e9 entrar el dolor para poder sanar. Hice las paces con el hecho de que ten\u00eda que ser alguien temporal en mi vida. Me sirvi\u00f3 como lecci\u00f3n que tuve que aprender por las malas.<\/p>\n

No ve\u00eda todo lo que pod\u00eda ser porque miraba hacia atr\u00e1s.<\/strong> Crec\u00ed gracias a mi experiencia. Me convirti\u00f3 en la mujer que soy hoy. Soy mejor y m\u00e1s fuerte que mi dolor y que todo lo que se interpon\u00eda en mi camino hacia la felicidad. Ahora soy feliz. Feliz conmigo misma, con mi vida y con el nuevo hombre de mi vida.<\/p>\n

So don\u2019t force yourself to heal. It\u2019s a process that takes time and it happens gradually. Lev\u00e1ntate. Llora. Trabaja. Sonr\u00ede. Vive. Respira.<\/em> Da esos peque\u00f1os pasos hacia adelante.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Hasta que un d\u00eda, llegas a tu destino. Hasta que un d\u00eda te despiertes y \u00e9l ya no forme parte de ti. Hasta que un d\u00eda, te curas. Hasta que un d\u00eda, la felicidad sea todo lo que puedas ver.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I know if you had one wish right now it would be for all this pain to stop. You would wish for it to stop right now, at this moment, because it’s becoming unbearable. And even though you keep telling yourself it’s not the end of the world, as hearts break, people leave, and things…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":17030,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17028","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/backlit-blonde-hair-clouds-694629.jpg",800,532,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17028","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17028"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17028\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/17030"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17028"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17028"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17028"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}