{"id":17186,"date":"2020-04-02T08:44:44","date_gmt":"2020-04-02T08:44:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=17186"},"modified":"2022-02-27T12:30:26","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T12:30:26","slug":"por-eso-ya-no-finge-que-esta-bien","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/por-eso-ya-no-finge-que-esta-bien\/","title":{"rendered":"Esta es la raz\u00f3n por la que ya no finge estar bien"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00bfSabes lo que es ser constantemente el que lleva la peor parte en la vida? <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfSabes lo que es estar siempre <\/span>el que m\u00e1s ama<\/span><\/a>, to be the one who gives more and to be the one who\u2019s always there for people but never to have anyone to hold you when you\u2019re breaking? Well, this girl does. <\/span><\/p>\n

This girl has been through so much in life. If you lived a heartbreak, she had three of those. If you cried yourself to sleep once, she\u2019s done it a thousand times before. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you felt lonely and how you have no one in your life to guard your back, she\u2019s been feeling like this a lot lately. <\/span><\/p>\n

Yet, she never let anyone know how much she\u2019s hurting. She never did that. <\/span><\/p>\n

When someone remembered to ask how she was doing, despite the pain she felt, she\u2019d always smile and offer the one, the <\/span>s\u00f3lo<\/span><\/i> acceptable answer\u2014fine.<\/span><\/p>\n

From the time we are little, we\u2019re taught that we need to be polite and how the only appropriate answer to question about how you are is, \u201cI am fine.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n

Al diablo con lo educado y lo apropiado y, sobre todo, \u00a1al diablo con lo bueno! Nadie deber\u00eda sentirse obligado a mentir sobre sus sentimientos ni a reprimirlos.<\/span><\/p>\n

She\u2019s a sensitive human being. I don\u2019t know what others thought about how much pain she can take, but she was brought to the breaking point. <\/b><\/p>\n

Actions of others broke her sensitive heart and everything everything that was bottled inside\u2014it all started pouring out. The avalanche was started.<\/b><\/p>\n

You know, when you\u2019ve been shaking off the tears in your eyes for a long time, when you\u2019ve been constantly on the edge of falling into the abyss but pulling yourself back, when you were one second away from screaming from the top of your lungs but you felt you had no other choice besides smiling, then it doesn\u2019t take much to launch the avalanche and to show how you feel, how you\u2019ve actually been feeling for a while.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bien nunca es una respuesta apropiada. Bien tampoco es como ella se siente. <\/b><\/p>\n

Bien no es lo que quiere responder cuando otros preg\u00fantale c\u00f3mo se siente<\/a>. She is not fine and she\u2019s done pretending that she is. <\/b><\/p>\n

How about we start being honest with each other? How about we start asking people how they\u2019ve been and actually be interested in hearing a genuine answer? <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 tal si empezamos a ver a los que no est\u00e1n bien y les llamamos la atenci\u00f3n? \u00bfQu\u00e9 tal si atrapamos a los que empiezan a romper?<\/p>\n

Can we start being more human again and start being less robotic, please? That\u2019s exactly what she needs. <\/span><\/p>\n

She is tired of pretending she\u2019s fine. She\u2019s tired of smiling when her heart is breaking.<\/p>\n

She is exhausted from listening to other people\u2019s problems, being there for them and then going back home to a cold bed with having no one who\u2019d want to hear her problems or hold her while she cries. <\/span><\/p>\n

She stopped convincing herself how she\u2019s fine, too. She stopped telling herself how everything is okay and how she is not broken. <\/span><\/p>\n

How her heart is not aching. How she is happy. How it\u2019s all okay and how it will disappear when she wakes up. <\/span><\/p>\n

She stopped pretending she\u2019s whole when she\u2019s not. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ya no quiere mentir. Ya no quiere aparentar que est\u00e1 bien, pero desmoronarse por dentro. Quiere gritar y llorar. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quiere derrumbarse. Quiere desahogarse. <\/span><\/p>\n

You know why? Because she\u2019s been holding it in for too long. <\/span><\/p>\n

She didn\u2019t want to burden other people with her troubles. She didn\u2019t want to bore others or make them worry about her. She didn\u2019t want them to be hurting because of her. <\/span><\/p>\n

T<\/span>hat\u2019s how selfless she is. But the time has come for her to take care of herself. <\/span><\/p>\n

The time has come to pause everything else and make sure she is really okay. That\u2019s why she no longer pretends she\u2019s fine. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quiere estar bien y quiere volver a ser feliz. <\/b><\/p>\n

And admitting to yourself you\u2019re not is the first step towards healing. She is not fine now, but she will be again one day.<\/b><\/p>\n

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Do you know what it\u2019s like to constantly be the one who pulls the shorter end of the stick in life? Do you know how it is to always to be the one who loves more, to be the one who gives more and to be the one who\u2019s always there for people but never…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":17187,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17186","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/kinga-cichewicz-515603-unsplash.jpg",800,571,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. That's why I've decided to collect different stories of heartbreak - to help everyone going through the same.","parent":38,"count":146,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29617,"category_count":146,"category_description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. That's why I've decided to collect different stories of heartbreak - to help everyone going through the same.","cat_name":"heartbreak","category_nicename":"heartbreak","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17186","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17186"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17186\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/17187"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17186"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17186"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17186"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}