{"id":17357,"date":"2018-04-06T07:24:58","date_gmt":"2018-04-06T07:24:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=17357"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:18:07","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:18:07","slug":"respondiendo-a-la-pregunta-mas-dificil-como-dejar-ir-a-alguien-que-ni-siquiera-era-tuyo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/respondiendo-a-la-pregunta-mas-dificil-como-dejar-ir-a-alguien-que-ni-siquiera-era-tuyo\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo responder a la pregunta m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil: \u00bfC\u00f3mo dejar ir a alguien que ni siquiera era tuyo?"},"content":{"rendered":"

We\u2019ve all had those ‘casi relaciones<\/a>‘ that start with a fire burning in our chest but end up burning us alive. I\u2019ve had one too many of these relationships in which I didn’t even know where I was at. We started with a flirt that soon turned into coffee dates and texting, making out and hoping that it will turn into something wonderful, something real. At that time, I was convinced that he meant business. In my head, he was all over me because he would shower me with compliments and little acts of kindness. Every time we would go out, I would get a little flower from him that made me smile a little wider and laugh a little louder.<\/p>\n

Pero en un momento dado, se fue. Simplemente desapareci\u00f3 de mi vida. Me qued\u00e9 pregunt\u00e1ndome qu\u00e9 hab\u00eda pasado porque nunca me explicaron qu\u00e9 hab\u00eda ido mal. Todo lo que pude hacer entonces fue recordar esa dulce sonrisa, esos ojos verdes y esa voz profunda. No me qued\u00f3 m\u00e1s que un coraz\u00f3n roto y l\u00e1grimas en los ojos.<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de haberme hartado de la miseria que me hizo pasar porque se fuera, decid\u00ed dejar ir al hombre que, para empezar, nunca fue m\u00edo. Pero, \u00bfc\u00f3mo se hace eso?<\/p>\n

1. Realise that it’s not your mistake<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

If you’re going through this same experience, please be aware that it’s not your mistake! You are one wonderful woman that needs to gain her confidence back. You need to realise that you did everything you could to maintain the relationship. All the effort and all the wonderful time you dedicated into making him happy and more in love with you simply didn’t work out. It’s their loss, not yours.<\/p>\n

2. T\u00f3mate tiempo para estar solo<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Take all the time you need in order to be better. Let those memories hurt for a little while longer and let your tears flow. There’s nothing bad about it. Go through everything that happened in your mind because that’s the only way you can realise that it was never meant to be. Take time to shatter because you are strong enough to put yourself back together again.<\/p>\n

3. Don’t let him know<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

This one hurts the most. You are the only one hurt right now. You wanted them to stay in your life, but all they did was wanish without leaving a trace \u2013 except the one on your heart. He left and he simply didn’t want to see your wonderful soul and tender heart. Why would you want to give him the pleasure of knowing that you miss him? After you have cried all your tears out, it’s time to jump up and conquer the world again. Don’t let him know that he broke you.<\/p>\n

4. Cortar la comunicaci\u00f3n<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

You’ve been in contact for quite some time now, right? You’ve texted in the morning and right before you went to bed. Sometimes, he would even call you to talk to you. But in order to heal after he broke your heart, it’s crucial to cortar cualquier tipo de comunicaci\u00f3n<\/a> you two had. Delete his number. Block him on all the social media there is. Don’t even say \u201chi\u201d to him when you meet him.<\/p>\n

5. Te mereces algo mejor<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Just stop for a moment and think about it: you deserve way better than to be with someone who doesn’t love you wholeheartedly. You deserve so much more in life in general. You were not the one who let go of all that and for some reason, that guy simply decided to move on in life without you. You deserve someone who knows how to cherish and appreciate you.<\/p>\n

6. No estar disponible<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Don’t worry about being mean. If he texts you wanting to start dating again, be unavailable for him. What does he think: he can come back at any given time because you’ll be waiting for him? No. That’s not an option. If he calls you to hang out together, just ignore it. He was the one to end the communication the first time. Now just follow his lead.<\/p>\n

7. Don’t fool yourself<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Remember that what you had wasn’t a real relationship. It wasn’t something serious, so it’s not something to mourn about forever. You can’t allow yourself to think that it was something serious and real because if you do, there’s a high possibility that you are going to start it all over again.<\/p>\n

In the end, as an option, you can start dating again. I’m putting this at the end because it’s up to you if you’re ready for that or not. We tend to go out into the dating world when we simply want to take revenge on someone, but that’s not a solution and you know it.<\/p>\n

You need to be kind to yourself. You need to follow your own instincts. If you’re not ready to date again it’s totally fine.<\/p>\n

T\u00f3mate todo el tiempo que necesites para curarte porque Sr. Correcto<\/a> will be waiting for you no matter what. And what makes him different? He will never let go of you\u2014no matter what happens.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

We\u2019ve all had those ‘almost relationships‘ that start with a fire burning in our chest but end up burning us alive. I\u2019ve had one too many of these relationships in which I didn’t even know where I was at. We started with a flirt that soon turned into coffee dates and texting, making out and…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":17358,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17357","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/cosmic-timetraveler-603453-unsplash.jpg",800,532,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. If you need advice on when and how to break up, you'll find it all here.\r\n","parent":29627,"count":263,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29628,"category_count":263,"category_description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. If you need advice on when and how to break up, you'll find it all here.\r\n","cat_name":"dealing with breakup","category_nicename":"dealing-with-breakup","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17357","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/13"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17357"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17357\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/17358"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17357"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17357"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17357"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}