{"id":17478,"date":"2018-04-11T11:28:39","date_gmt":"2018-04-11T11:28:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=17478"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:14:47","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:14:47","slug":"si-tu-chico-hace-estas-10-cosas-es-un-adicto-al-sexo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/si-tu-chico-hace-estas-10-cosas-es-un-adicto-al-sexo\/","title":{"rendered":"Si tu chico hace estas 10 cosas, es un adicto al sexo"},"content":{"rendered":"

I won\u2019t be the one who will tell you that it is wrong to stay with a adicto al sexo<\/a> and try to solve the problems. I also won\u2019t try to open your eyes and show you what you are missing while he is leading you on. I won\u2019t because you already know that\u2014just like I knew it while I was living with a man like that.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

I just want to tell you my story so you could see that you are not alone and that no matter how you feel now, things can get better. They have to\u2014if you care, of course.<\/p>\n

Estaba casada con un adicto al sexo y cada d\u00eda de mi vida con \u00e9l, sent\u00eda que no era suficiente. No importaba cu\u00e1ntas cosas hiciera para complacerle, nunca era suficiente. Constantemente buscaba otra forma de divertirme.<\/p>\n

Su ordenador estaba lleno de porno duro, p\u00e1ginas de citas y un mont\u00f3n de mensajes guarros que intercambiaba con mujeres que ten\u00edan el mismo apetito sexual que \u00e9l. Y lo peor es que yo sab\u00eda todo eso, pero pensaba que era solo una fase y que cambiar\u00eda.<\/p>\n

Pens\u00e9 que cambiar\u00eda por m\u00ed y por nuestros hijos.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Pero nunca lo hizo. Se alimentaba viendo porno, flirteando con mujeres incluso delante de m\u00ed y masturb\u00e1ndose siempre que ten\u00eda tiempo. Todas estas cosas le alimentaban con dopamina y se sent\u00eda mejor por ello. Tal vez esa era su manera de sacudirse el estr\u00e9s y de superar el hecho de que ten\u00eda baja autoestima.<\/p>\n

But he couldn\u2019t even make an effort for us.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

He did all that just to please himself and he didn\u2019t think of me at any moment. For him, I was just a body he could have when he would get horny. I was there to satisfy his sick needs so he would feel powerful again. And no matter how much I tried, I never could leave him.<\/p>\n

Al principio me qued\u00e9 porque pens\u00e9 que no era tan grave y que cambiar\u00eda, pero se neg\u00f3 a hacerlo. Dec\u00eda que necesitaba el sexo tanto como el aire en los pulmones. Y cada vez que dec\u00eda eso... romperme el coraz\u00f3n<\/a> because I wasn\u2019t the woman who could satisfy all his needs.<\/p>\n

He didn\u2019t care if he was hurting me and breaking my heart.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

He wanted me to do things that I don\u2019t want to talk about, but all of them were extremely hurtful to me. Once, I told him that I don\u2019t want to do that.<\/p>\n

Me dijo que si no le iba a dar lo que necesitaba, lo encontrar\u00eda en otro sitio. Me sent\u00eda como una mierda, como si no fuera lo suficientemente buena y como si no valiera la pena.<\/p>\n

Entonces me di cuenta de que el objetivo del amor no es sentirse como una mierda.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

When you are in love, you will do everything to make your partner feel good. You won\u2019t hurt her and ask her to act like a slut just to satisfy your sick needs.<\/p>\n

When you are in love you don\u2019t fuck hard, but you make love. Because making love is full of feelings that make you feel special and getting fucked can\u2019t provide you with that.<\/p>\n

Ver\u00e1s, puedes tener relaciones sexuales<\/a> con cualquiera, pero s\u00f3lo puedes hacer el amor con la persona amada. Y hay una gran diferencia.<\/p>\n

Too bad that love wasn\u2019t the main priority for my ex.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

He just wanted to get laid to feel better. He didn\u2019t choose\u2014he would hit on other girls in front of me while I was sitting in front of him looking at him and asking why he was doing all that to me. And every time I wanted my voice to be heard, he would manipulate me by saying that it was all in my head and that he loves me.<\/p>\n

Y de nuevo, ca\u00eda en su red de mentiras, pensando que estaba exagerando.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

So I would keep living my shitty life with a shitty husband who didn\u2019t know how to keep his dick inside his pants. He was a serious sex addict, but he never wanted to admit that. And all my conversations with him about getting help were in vain because he couldn\u2019t and didn\u2019t want to get rid of the most important thing in his life.<\/p>\n

Todas las se\u00f1ales de su infidelidad gritaban a mi alrededor, pero, de alg\u00fan modo, me negaba a verlas. Tal vez puedan ayudarte a escapar a tiempo y evitar el dolor por el que yo pas\u00e9.<\/p>\n

\"Si<\/p>\n

1. Estaba escondiendo su tel\u00e9fono<\/span><\/h2>\n

Cada vez que quer\u00eda coger su tel\u00e9fono para ver la hora o algo, saltaba desde la otra parte de la casa para decirme la respuesta \u00e9l solo. Era muy sensible a que yo tocara sus cosas personales.<\/p>\n

2. Nunca se conect\u00f3 a ninguna de sus cuentas<\/span><\/h2>\n

Ten\u00edamos un PC compartido. Todas mis cuentas eran gratuitas pero \u00e9l siempre cerraba la sesi\u00f3n de sus cuentas aunque s\u00f3lo fuera al ba\u00f1o. S\u00f3lo puedo imaginar qu\u00e9 tipo de cosas sucias que ten\u00eda all\u00ed.<\/p>\n

3. He couldn\u2019t explain the lack of money<\/span><\/h2>\n

We were spending more money than usual, but we didn\u2019t have all the things that we needed. And every time I would ask him about money, he would say that we spent it but that we forget where and I shouldn\u2019t make a fuss about that.<\/p>\n

4. Se masturbaba todo el tiempo<\/span><\/h2>\n

Lo peor fue tener sexo con \u00e9l y pensar que di 100% de m\u00ed para complacerlo y mientras ten\u00eda la bendita sonrisa en la cara, tratar de abrazar<\/a> con \u00e9l, ya empezar\u00eda a masturbarse en la cama a mi lado.<\/p>\n

5. Ment\u00eda todo el tiempo<\/span><\/h2>\n

Whenever he would say that he was somewhere, I knew that he was lying to me and that he was probably with another woman in bed. He would come home smelling like booze and cheap women\u2019s perfume, and drunk and smelly like that, he would want to have sex with me.<\/p>\n

6. Siempre quiso ser el dominante en la cama<\/span><\/h2>\n

I must admit that he was a really good-looking man, but that wasn\u2019t enough. He always had to be the dominant one in bed because that was turning him on. His sex craziness and even higher sex drive transformed him into a sex addict and he couldn\u2019t even do anything to prevent that.<\/p>\n

7. Coqueteaba con todo el mundo<\/span><\/h2>\n

I couldn\u2019t go to anywhere with him and feel good in my own skin. He would ruin every night out, every date and every friends\u2019 gathering. He was hitting on my best friend while I wasn\u2019t there and basically on every woman who was close to him.<\/p>\n

8. Era manipulador<\/span><\/h2>\n

The worst thing he did to me was that he tried to convince me that I am just overreacting and that it is all in my head. But I wasn\u2019t crazy. I knew what I saw. I knew him better than any person in his life and I could see when he was lying.<\/p>\n

9. Me hac\u00eda sentir inc\u00f3moda en la cama<\/span><\/h2>\n

Whenever I was in bed with him, it was like I was in a competition. I didn\u2019t get to enjoy myself, but he made me feel like I had to go the extra mile to make him feel good.<\/p>\n

Every time we would finish, I would feel like a piece of shit because of his ugly comments\u2014telling me that I should do some things better kept echoing in my head and because of that I lost my self-esteem.<\/p>\n

10. Siempre me trataba con recelo<\/span><\/h2>\n

He was the one who cheated, the one who couldn\u2019t get rid of his addiction, but he blamed me for everything. Just because he was in his \u2018sex world\u2019, he thought that I was cheating on him and that I have many men in my life besides him.<\/p>\n

And whatever I would say, he wouldn\u2019t change his mind and kept torturing me by telling me that I was just a slut and that I am not a good example for our kids. He wanted to put all the blame on me and no matter what I would say, I was never right to him.<\/p>\n

Esas son s\u00f3lo algunas de las cosas que mi ex me hizo y el resto es algo que estoy tratando de olvidar. Su mal comportamiento hacia m\u00ed me dej\u00f3 con baja autoestima, pregunt\u00e1ndome si soy lo suficientemente buena y si alguna vez atraer\u00e9 a un hombre que realmente me ame y me respete.<\/p>\n

Even though we are not together anymore, he still has an impact on me. Every time I meet a new man, I am trying to find red flags that he might be sex addict as well. And that\u2019s why every new relationship ends sooner than it actually begins.<\/p>\n

At times, I think that I should have done something to get away from him before. Yet, that is the easiest thing is to say. In reality, it takes a lot of courage to do\u2014to leave him, especially if you are financially dependent on him.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, I didn\u2019t want my kids to go through all that mockery of their dad being represented in that way. I just know that I put up with his crap for a long time, but I finally decided to break free from him and stop living in a hell he made just for me.<\/p>\n

Now, after so many years, I have been able to regain my self-esteem and to be the old me again. Now, I can see that the problem was with him and that I didn\u2019t want to see that. In fact, I was defending him for some reason. Maybe it was easier for me to neglect all my problems than to confront them. But I did and that was the best decision of my life.<\/p>\n

Ahora soy una mujer feliz y \u00e9l es el el mismo pedazo de mierda<\/a>. Supongo que algunas cosas nunca cambian.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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