{"id":17493,"date":"2019-04-11T11:38:58","date_gmt":"2019-04-11T11:38:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=17493"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:18:19","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:18:19","slug":"a-la-chica-con-problemas-de-confianza-no-todos-los-hombres-son-iguales","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/a-la-chica-con-problemas-de-confianza-no-todos-los-hombres-son-iguales\/","title":{"rendered":"A la chica con problemas de confianza: No todos los hombres son iguales"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cAll men are the same.\u201d <\/span><\/i>es una frase que utilizo a menudo. Todos son encantadores y dulces al principio y t\u00f3xicos y destructivos hacia el final. <\/span><\/p>\n

Parece que todos han establecido ese patr\u00f3n y que no hay opci\u00f3n de que las cosas mejoren. Pero, \u00bfes realmente as\u00ed? <\/span><\/p>\n

Puedo decirlo, <\/span>\u201cAll men are the same.\u201d<\/span><\/i> \u00bfs\u00f3lo porque me encontr\u00e9 con algunos que eran, en mi opini\u00f3n, lo peor de lo peor? Por supuesto que no. <\/span><\/p>\n

But my past experiences and the experiences of people around me led me to form that belief, and it\u2019s really hard to shake that off and risk getting hurt again. <\/span><\/p>\n

Me volv\u00ed precavido. Me volv\u00ed demasiado cauto. Me volv\u00ed demasiado desconfiado de todo y de todos.<\/b>\u2014thinking that another disaster was just waiting to happen every time I went out with someone new. <\/span><\/p>\n

Y no ten\u00eda motivos para pensar as\u00ed, pero mi pasado me domin\u00f3 porque no me di cuenta de que no todos los hombres son mis ex. <\/span><\/p>\n

He tratado con hombres que pretend\u00edan ser algo que no son.<\/b> They were wolves in sheep\u2019s clothing until they showed their true faces. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mintieron,<\/span> enga\u00f1ado<\/span><\/a>, <\/span>maltratada<\/span><\/a> y <\/span>manipulado<\/span><\/a> me into thinking that it was love when all they cared about was themselves. It\u2019s no wonder I have major trust issues. <\/span><\/p>\n

And while there are men like that and that\u2019s the reality, I can\u2019t generalize and say that all men are the same. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

It\u2019s just isn\u2019t fair to all those good ones out there we often overlook or fail to see because we are stuck with those who are unworthy of our love. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

We are fighting for the ones that don\u2019t deserve us. <\/b>Les damos innumerables oportunidades, esperando un resultado mejor la pr\u00f3xima vez. <\/span><\/p>\n

But they fail us every time. I\u2019ve been there and I know we usually give up on them only when it\u2019s already too late, and we are so deeply disappointed and hurt. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9? \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 las mujeres tienen esa necesidad constante de enamorarse de hombres que s\u00f3lo les traer\u00e1n dolor?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que nos asustamos y nos sentimos heridos por nuestro pasado. <\/b>Tenemos miedo de volver a confiar. Nos<\/span> subir la guardia<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Estamos decididos a no volver a abrirnos al amor porque creemos que s\u00f3lo nos abrir\u00e1 al dolor. Esos mecanismos de defensa tambi\u00e9n nos impiden encontrar el amor. <\/span><\/p>\n

Porque no hay amor sin confianza.<\/b> La confianza es la base de cualquier relaci\u00f3n sana. Nuestro pasado hizo que esos cimientos se tambaleasen. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, we hit the wall when we want to start a new relationship\u2014a relationship with a man who has never harmed us or done something that proves that he is anything less than honest. <\/span><\/p>\n

No estamos tan dispuestos a concederle el beneficio de la duda, a confiar hasta que se demuestre lo contrario, porque tenemos demasiado miedo de que vuelva a ocurrir lo mismo. Y que tengamos que volver a pegar nuestros pedazos rotos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Lo que tenemos que hacer para no ahondar en nuestros problemas de confianza es dejar de depositar nuestra confianza en las manos equivocadas.<\/b> Tenemos que dejar de d\u00e1rsela a quienes han demostrado una y otra vez que no son de fiar. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tenemos que dejar de perdonar lo imperdonable porque volver\u00e1n a traicionar y explotar nuestra bondad. <\/span><\/p>\n

Si queremos una relaci\u00f3n amorosa, tenemos que esperar a alguien en quien podamos confiar. Lo reconoceremos porque ser\u00e1 todo lo contrario a todo lo que hemos conocido hasta ahora. <\/span><\/p>\n

Even though waiting is not always the easiest way, it\u2019s most certainly the best. Because there is a man out there who will find you when you find yourself<\/i><\/b>\u2014<\/span>el que no se puede precipitar porque vendr\u00e1 cuando tenga que venir.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Te encontrar\u00e1 cuando aprendas a<\/b> qui\u00e9rete a ti mismo<\/b><\/a>.<\/b> Te encontrar\u00e1 cuando aprendas que hay situaciones en las que tienes que exigir el respeto que mereces o alejarte. <\/span><\/p>\n

Te encontrar\u00e1 cuando por fin te des cuenta de que eres m\u00e1s fuerte que tus miedos y de que prefieres arriesgarte a que te hagan da\u00f1o antes que perderte el amor. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ese hombre <\/b>know your every fear and he won’t walk away, he will wrestle them along with you. <\/b>Comprender\u00e1 tu pasado y har\u00e1 que parezca peque\u00f1o. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9l NUNCA romper\u00e1 tu confianza y te destrozar\u00e1 como el anterior. Preferir\u00e1 ayudarte y permanecer a tu lado mientras te reparas.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sobre todo, tenemos que empezar a confiar en nosotros mismos.<\/b> We have to know that our past isn\u2019t something that defines us. <\/span><\/p>\n

It is just a lesson we have had to learn so we wouldn\u2019t repeat it\u2014because without those lessons we would never learn. We would ignore all the red flags in front of us and the same scenario would play itself out over and over again until the lesson is finally learned. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, don\u2019t be afraid of making a mistake. Be more afraid of not drawing a lesson from a bad experience.<\/b><\/p>\n

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