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<\/p>\nMe encontraba en un ciclo interminable. Me hac\u00eda da\u00f1o d\u00eda tras d\u00eda y no pod\u00eda hacer nada al respecto. Luch\u00e9 e intent\u00e9 enfrentarme a \u00e9l, pero la cosa no hac\u00eda m\u00e1s que empeorar.<\/p>\n
Como mi estado emocional se deterioraba y mi nivel de estr\u00e9s era mayor, \u00e9l estaba m\u00e1s contento.<\/p>\n
Los narcisistas extraen energ\u00eda de sus v\u00edctimas cuando \u00e9stas se encuentran en sus estados m\u00e1s vulnerables. Tu miseria y tu agon\u00eda son lo que les mantiene vivos. Son como par\u00e1sitos que se alimentan de otros organismos sin hacer nada a cambio.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
That\u2019s what I was\u2014a source of emotional food. My every tear and anxiety attack made him stronger.<\/p>\n
Doubting in myself and thinking I\u2019m not good enough pushed his ego sky high. That was all he needed from me.<\/p>\n
Even when I dumped him, I couldn\u2019t get rid of him. He had some kind of power over me. He knew how to emotionally hook me and bring me back every time I tried to escape.<\/p>\n
He would turn on his irresistible charm, his goodie face and I thought he had changed. I thought he finally understood that he was acting like a piece of shit. But, psychopaths don\u2019t work that way and I didn\u2019t know that, so I foolishly tried to understand him.<\/p>\n
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\u00c9sas eran s\u00f3lo una de sus numerosas mentiras para conseguir lo que quer\u00eda, para usarme hasta que no quedara nada de m\u00ed que usar.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
No es f\u00e1cil liberarse de una relaci\u00f3n narcisista<\/a>. Como ya sabr\u00e1s, cuando quisiste irte, o si realmente te fuiste, tu adicci\u00f3n a los narc\u00f3ticos entr\u00f3 en acci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n You knew that you needed a dose of him. You couldn\u2019t just go on and live your life without him in it because he made sure that you missed him. He knew exactly how to manipulate you into staying.<\/p>\n He wasn\u2019t such an idiot all the time. There were times when you loved him so much\u2014when he appeared to be something completely different than what he really was.<\/p>\n Pero, todo eso era mentira, por supuesto. Y el problema apareci\u00f3 porque te aferraste a esa mentira y esperaste que pudiera ser verdad.<\/p>\n T\u00fa secretamente don\u2019t want to let go<\/a> because you hope it\u2019s not too late to turn things around. You still hope there is something good in him and you can take it out and change him. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Esperas que sea realmente considerado y cari\u00f1oso. Esperas que te convierta en su prioridad, pero la verdad es que s\u00f3lo mira por s\u00ed mismo.<\/p>\n Deep down inside, he is a poor little insecure boy who turned into a monster to hide his vulnerabilities and his shortcomings. And you\u2019re his victim, his tool to feel good about himself.<\/p>\n But listen, when you find yourself struggling with whether you\u2019ve made a good decision for leaving him or when you find yourself under his pressure of wanting you back, just remember that you are not in love with him but in something he pretende<\/i> to be, something that doesn\u2019t exist.<\/p>\n I know it\u2019s not easy to just walk away\u2014especially if you\u2019ve lived with him, have children with him or you have to keep seeing him because he is your boss\u2014or pretty much anyone you can\u2019t avoid in your life.<\/p>\n Relacionado: 18 se\u00f1ales de advertencia de un novio controlador<\/a><\/p>\n Todos los dem\u00e1s dicen que ning\u00fan contacto<\/a> es la forma m\u00e1s eficaz de deshacerse de un narcisista para siempre.<\/p>\n But what happens when you don\u2019t have that option? What happens when there are things that force you to keep seeing him and prolonging your pain? Then you use the Gray Rock method.<\/p>\n \u00bfQu\u00e9 es el m\u00e9todo Gray Rock?<\/b><\/p>\n The whole point is to really become a gray rock. A rock that is so boring and unattractive that no one would look at it twice. Using the grey rock method, you\u2019ll become completely unattractive for him to interact with.<\/p>\n Tu ex maltratador perder\u00e1 inter\u00e9s en ti y acabar\u00e1 por dejarte en paz.<\/p>\n Look at it this way. Imagine him being a small boy and small boys want toys to play with\u2014only a narc doesn\u2019t want toys because his toys are people.<\/p>\n Juega con las personas y sus sentimientos, y eso tiene graves consecuencias.<\/p>\n In a narc\u2019s eyes, you are the same as the toy. He knows he can do whatever he wants with you because he has the control. He can create scenarios he likes and make you dance to the music he plays. Narcs are in complete control over you.<\/p>\n \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 funciona este m\u00e9todo?<\/b><\/p>\n Quiere jugar contigo y si te vuelves aburrida y poco atractiva a la vista, perder\u00e1 el inter\u00e9s, como hacen los chicos con los juguetes.<\/p>\n While the toys are brand new and while they have some attraction, the \u2018boys\u2019 will play with them because they get something back\u2014satisfaction\u2014and as long as they keep getting satisfaction, they will keep playing. But, when the toy becomes old and worn down, they will toss it because they get nothing in return.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why by using this method, you\u2019re turning yourself into a boring, unattractive, plain old toy he doesn\u2019t want to play with anymore. You become this gray rock that shows no feelings whatsoever.<\/p>\n Y donde no hay emociones, no hay narcisistas que las drenen.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n He wants all the attention he can get from you and once you become cold and indifferent and deny him that attention, love and affection, he will stop playing with you because he can\u2019t get anything from the game; he benefits nothing.<\/p>\n \u00bfC\u00f3mo utilizar el m\u00e9todo Gray Rock?<\/b><\/p>\n Don\u2019t create chaos or drama.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Narcissists feed off of chaos and drama. They will provoke you just to get that state because when you\u2019re an emotional wreck, they are the happiest they can be. To avoid this, try to talk about superficial things.<\/p>\n Talk about how you\u2019ve washed your car or how you had to run some errands. Talk about everything that sounds boring and unexciting, anything that won\u2019t give them a reason to create drama.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t talk about your personal life. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Don\u2019t talk about anything that has something to do with you or your accomplishments. It will give them material to suck your energy dry and turn your happiness into misery.<\/p>\n Narcisistas<\/a> are known to be jealous of anything they don\u2019t have and you do.<\/p>\n So, don\u2019t give them a chance to be jealous. Stay quiet and if he tries to talk about your life, steer the conversation in another direction. Smoothly avoid answering the question.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t react to his provocations.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Intentar\u00e1 provocarte cualquier tipo de emoci\u00f3n, normalmente s\u00f3lo las negativas. Te provocar\u00e1 e intentar\u00e1 molestarte.<\/p>\n But, whatever he does, you have to deny him seeing any reaction from you. It\u2019s hard to stay indifferent\u2014especially when something makes you sad or hurt\u2014but keep in mind that\u2019s exactly what he wants. He wants to see emotion, so he can use it.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t ask him questions.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Tienen una necesidad loca de atenci\u00f3n constante; son aut\u00e9nticos... buscadores de atenci\u00f3n.<\/a> Cuando les das lo que quieren, no hay forma de detenerlos.<\/p>\n So, when you meet with your narcissist, don\u2019t ever ask him anything about his life. If you do, it will give him a chance to rub his accomplishments (real or fake) right into your face.<\/p>\n He will use the situation and turn it around to make you feel worthless because he is doing so great and in his eyes, you\u2019re a complete failure.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t ever mention the past.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n They want you to relive those bad moments again (and again) because each time, it will provoke sadness and fear, and you\u2019re risking opening old wounds which have barely healed.<\/p>\n But, if this happens and it probably will, the best thing you can do it to accept responsibility for the end of your relationship (even if you don\u2019t since it wasn\u2019t your fault).<\/p>\n Si intentas negar que t\u00fa tienes la culpa de que vuestra relaci\u00f3n haya terminado, te atacar\u00e1 y te gritar\u00e1, lo que volver\u00e1 a provocar en ti sentimientos negativos de los que se alimentar\u00e1.<\/p>\n It\u2019s not easy to gray rock someone because they bring you to the point where you want to scream at them and practically strangle them. They provoke you and bring out the worst in you.<\/p>\n Pero en estas situaciones, si quieres una soluci\u00f3n a largo plazo, tienes que fingir que nada te afecta.<\/p>\n Tienes que ser tan poco interesante como una roca gris y con suerte, te dejar\u00e1 de nuevo y encontrar\u00e1 otra v\u00edctima<\/a> usar.<\/p>\n Los inconvenientes del m\u00e9todo de la roca gris<\/b><\/p>\n![\"pareja](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/couple-hugging-in-corn-field.jpg\")
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