{"id":18091,"date":"2020-04-26T15:51:44","date_gmt":"2020-04-26T15:51:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=18091"},"modified":"2021-08-11T21:02:58","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T21:02:58","slug":"finalmente-me-di-cuenta-de-que-nunca-ibamos-a-ser-nada-mas-que-una-cosa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/finalmente-me-di-cuenta-de-que-nunca-ibamos-a-ser-nada-mas-que-una-cosa\/","title":{"rendered":"Por fin me di cuenta de que nunca \u00edbamos a ser m\u00e1s que \"algo\"."},"content":{"rendered":"

It took me a while to take off my rose-colored glasses and look at him without any prejudice. At first, I let other things cloud my judgment and I was led to believe that we were heading toward something that could possibly be the greatest thing in our lives. I thought it was love and that I\u2019d got my person for life. But I couldn\u2019t have been more wrong. <\/span><\/p>\n

He was never gonna be my person for life. We were never gonna be anything more than just \u2018<\/b>una cosa<\/i><\/b>\u2019. <\/b><\/p>\n

Cuando la gente me preguntaba por \u00e9l, no ten\u00eda otra respuesta que decirles que \u00e9ramos <\/span>una cosa<\/span><\/i>. But what does that even mean? What the hell does, \u201c<\/span>Yeah, we\u2019re a thing<\/span><\/i>,\u201d mean? It means that we\u2019re in each other lives and that we\u2019re more than friends, but that we\u2019re still undefined. It\u2019s like you\u2019re trapped in limbo, you\u2019re somewhere between life and death, and there are no clear signs you\u2019ll get anywhere away from that. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tard\u00e9 un tiempo en darme cuenta de que no se compromet\u00eda conmigo, ni entonces ni nunca. <\/b><\/p>\n

Deseaba tanto el compromiso que no vi las se\u00f1ales de que estaba <\/span>no est\u00e1 listo para comprometerse<\/span><\/a>. Honestly, I\u2019m no longer sure whether the problem was in his inability to commit or if it was more his unwillingness. Either way, I figured I was waiting to get something from him he never intended to give me. He was never ready to give himself completely to our \u2018relationship\u2019, he was never ready to cross others off his list, he was never willing to make it just about the two of us. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sus esfuerzos, su tiempo, su coraz\u00f3n nunca me pertenecieron, nunca fui su prioridad. <\/b><\/p>\n

Tard\u00e9 un tiempo en darme cuenta de lo est\u00fapida que era.<\/b><\/p>\n

Cre\u00eda que era su pasado lo que le hab\u00eda hecho <\/span>emocionalmente no disponible<\/span><\/a>. Estaba convencida de que, debido a su pasado, ten\u00eda que esforzarme un poco m\u00e1s para conquistarle. Pero cuanto m\u00e1s lo intentaba, m\u00e1s me daba cuenta de que lo hac\u00eda en vano. <\/span><\/p>\n

Hay otras personas que tuvieron una infancia dura o padres divorciados o una pareja infiel o problemas de confianza. Esas personas merecen que alguien se esfuerce por ellas tanto como yo me esforc\u00e9 por \u00e9l, porque est\u00e1n dispuestas a trabajar en sus problemas. \u00bfY \u00e9l? Bueno, \u00e9l era todo excusas.<\/span><\/p>\n

See, if other people had someone to try for them as much as I was trying for him, they\u2019d take it eagerly. But he just took it for granted and <\/b>jug\u00f3 conmigo<\/b><\/a>. Me hizo creer que \u00edbamos hacia algo m\u00e1s grande, cuando en realidad \u00e9ramos algo indefinido y nada m\u00e1s que eso. Nunca \u00edbamos a ser nada m\u00e1s que eso. <\/b><\/p>\n

Well, I\u2019m finally ready to see the things the way they truly are. He just doesn\u2019t want me. It\u2019s not me. I\u2019m not the one. And I\u2019m not sure any other will ever be seen as worthy of him since I, who gave him all of me and went the extra mile more than any sane person would, was not enough. <\/span><\/p>\n

Be that as it may, he\u2019s no longer my problem. Nothing that happens to him is my problem anymore. Because I gave my best and it didn’t work out. And regardless of how much it broke me, with everything I went through, I still, from the bottom of my heart, wish him all the best and the best of luck in his life. <\/span><\/p>\n

It became clear to me that I was just wasting my time, my efforts, my love and everything else I could give to a man who couldn\u2019t be moved. But I learned a lesson. <\/span><\/p>\n

You know how they say when you give all your love and your trust to someone, you either get a person for life or a lesson in life? Well, he was my life\u2019s lesson. You can\u2019t fix a man who doesn\u2019t think there is something wrong with him. It took me a while to get that.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It took me a while to take off my rose-colored glasses and look at him without any prejudice. At first, I let other things cloud my judgment and I was led to believe that we were heading toward something that could possibly be the greatest thing in our lives. I thought it was love and…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":18094,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18091","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/huyen-nguyen-561863-unsplash.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. If you need advice on when and how to break up, you'll find it all here.\r\n","parent":29627,"count":263,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29628,"category_count":263,"category_description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. If you need advice on when and how to break up, you'll find it all here.\r\n","cat_name":"dealing with breakup","category_nicename":"dealing-with-breakup","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18091","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/13"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=18091"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18091\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/18094"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=18091"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=18091"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=18091"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}