{"id":18258,"date":"2020-05-06T11:16:24","date_gmt":"2020-05-06T11:16:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=18258"},"modified":"2022-10-17T15:54:37","modified_gmt":"2022-10-17T15:54:37","slug":"dejar-de-ser-una-relacion-complaciente","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/dejar-de-ser-una-relacion-complaciente\/","title":{"rendered":"5 maneras probadas de dejar de ser complaciente en una relaci\u00f3n"},"content":{"rendered":"

La gente suele decir que el amor se desvanece con el tiempo. Pero eso no es cierto. El amor no se desvanece por el tiempo; el amor se desvanece por la complacencia.<\/p>\n

It fades because we settle for good without trying harder to reach greatness. Love fades because it\u2019s se da por sentado.<\/a><\/p>\n

Al ser demasiado complaciente en una relaci\u00f3n, la gente la est\u00e1 matando lentamente y sin querer.<\/p>\n

They wake up one day and everything they have built, everything they have worked for, is gone and they don\u2019t know why. The simple truth is it\u2019s gone because they stopped building.<\/p>\n

Dejaron de esforzarse. Dejaron de compartir cosas con su pareja. Dejaron de demostrar que a\u00fan les importaba.<\/p>\n

La autocomplacencia suele afectar a las relaciones duraderas y a los matrimonios. A veces, la gente est\u00e1 bien como est\u00e1n las cosas y no tiene ning\u00fan impulso de mejorar nada.<\/p>\n

A veces, se quedan estancados en la rutina y aceptan la p\u00e9sima situaci\u00f3n en la que se encuentran. En ambas situaciones, no tienen necesidad de esforzarse un poco m\u00e1s, de poner algo de su parte, de probar algo nuevo y de estar realmente presentes en la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

But it\u2019s not just the lack of effort, even though that\u2019s the main issue. It\u2019s also failing to notice your partner and everything about him. It\u2019s a lack of affection, attention and communication.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s an emotional distance that\u2019s getting bigger by the minute, tearing your heart apart, and causando la ruptura de su relaci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/p>\n

The worst part is, more often than not, their behavior is unconscious. People don\u2019t see that their relationship is suffering and what they are inflicting on their partner.<\/p>\n

Para evitar que eso ocurra, primero hay que saber reconocer la complacencia en una relaci\u00f3n:<\/p>\n

Confundir comodidad con autocomplacencia<\/h2>\n

\"hombreThere is a thin line between complacency and comfort and it\u2019s easy to mix up the two.<\/p>\n

Comfort is a positive feeling. It usually means you feel relaxed with your partner and you can be yourself around him. You don\u2019t have the need to dress up because you know he will think you are also adorable in your PJs with messy hair.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t have to shave all the time because you love his three-day beard. And that\u2019s nice and loving.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, when you are being too complacent, you won\u2019t notice his beard and he won\u2019t notice how adorable you are when you are being yourself at home.<\/p>\n

Este es solo un ejemplo sencillo y hay muchos m\u00e1s similares. La cuesti\u00f3n aqu\u00ed es que te has vuelto demasiado c\u00f3modo.<\/p>\n

Hab\u00e9is dejado de veros. Han dejado de notar la peque\u00f1as cosas<\/a> que importa.<\/p>\n

En consecuencia, cuando los dos dejan de prestarse atenci\u00f3n, tambi\u00e9n dejan de esforzarse por seducirse mutuamente.<\/p>\n

Piensas que la otra persona ya es tuya y que no hay necesidad de intentar conquistarla porque tu trabajo ya est\u00e1 hecho.<\/p>\n

Falta de comunicaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"mujerA healthy relationship can never exist without healthy communication. You need to be able to trust your partner and to feel like he\u2019s the person you can tell your deepest secrets to, without the fear of being judged, if you plan for things between the two of you to work out.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, \u00e9ste ya no es el caso en su relaci\u00f3n. En alg\u00fan punto del camino, toda vuestra comunicaci\u00f3n ha desaparecido y, con el tiempo, los dos hab\u00e9is empezado a comportaros como completos extra\u00f1os.<\/p>\n

Tu pareja ya no es tu confidente. Pasara lo que pasara, bueno o malo, sol\u00edas ser el primero en contarle las noticias, pero por desgracia ya no es as\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Su opini\u00f3n significaba mucho para ti y era el \u00fanico cuyo consejo siempre ten\u00edas en cuenta.<\/p>\n

This was the person you were never ashamed in front of and the person whose opinion you valued above everyone else\u2019s.<\/p>\n

You would talk for hours about everything and now you can\u2019t even remember when you guys had a decent conversation.<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, puede que sig\u00e1is hablando de cosas cotidianas y manteniendo alguna conversaci\u00f3n trivial, pero la comunicaci\u00f3n significativa queda descartada.<\/p>\n

Instead of actually living together as lovers, you started cohabitating more as friends and it\u2019s taking its toll on the entire relationship.<\/p>\n

The two of you are no longer lovers or even best friends\u2014you\u2019ve become nothing more than roommates who happen to share a living space. You\u2019ve started seeing them almost as a part of the furniture instead of a part of your life.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, hay muchas parejas que pasan de la comunicaci\u00f3n cero a comunicarse s\u00f3lo cuando est\u00e1n discutiendo<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Y aunque las peleas pueden ser beneficiosas y productivas para la relaci\u00f3n y ayudar a que las cosas cambien y mejoren, cuando aparece la autocomplacencia, las peleas se convierten en una serie de asuntos sin tratar ni resolver que s\u00f3lo dejan lugar al resentimiento.<\/p>\n

The problem is that you don\u2019t resolve your issues one at a time when they\u2019re actually happening.<\/p>\n

Instead, you pile up the things that bother you and you brush them under the carpet because you don\u2019t see a way of talking them through with your significant other.<\/p>\n

Later on, when a huge fight breaks out, everything you\u2019ve been holding back explodes and you guys end up without ever really resolving anything and without coming to a conclusion.<\/p>\n

Esfuerzos reducidos<\/h2>\n

\"elThis is definitely one of the biggest reasons complacency kills marriages and relationships. It\u2019s when people just stop trying.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1n tan metidos en la relaci\u00f3n que han dejado de esforzarse. Dejan las cosas como est\u00e1n.<\/p>\n

No sienten la necesidad de trabajar en las cosas para hacer algunos ajustes que las mejoren.<\/p>\n

Incluso cuando las cosas van extremadamente mal y cuando llega el momento de dar un paso al frente y arreglar la relaci\u00f3n, permanecen pasivos.<\/p>\n

Esto puede ocurrir porque, con el tiempo, simplemente te cansas demasiado.<\/p>\n

Both of you have fought for this relationship to work out up to now and when you\u2019ve finally succeeded in meeting halfway, you just lost all of your energy.<\/p>\n

Or maybe you and your partner started taking each other for granted. You\u2019ve become so certain of one another\u2019s love that you don\u2019t see a point in trying to deserve it.<\/p>\n

Ambos pens\u00e1is que no hay nada que pod\u00e1is hacer para que la otra persona deje de quereros y que siempre estar\u00e1 a vuestro lado, pase lo que pase. As\u00ed que, para qu\u00e9 molestarse.<\/p>\n

Forgetting to have some \u2018alone time\u2019<\/h2>\n

\"mujerLa gente se preocupa por sus hijos, los problemas familiares, el trabajo y todos los dem\u00e1s asuntos cotidianos. Se olvidan de lo importante que es pasar tiempo en pareja.<\/p>\n

Recuerde que adem\u00e1s de ser personas orientadas a la carrera o co-parents<\/a>Pero, por desgracia, esto es lo que la mayor\u00eda de la gente olvida. Sin embargo, por desgracia, esto es lo que la mayor\u00eda de la gente olvida.<\/p>\n

They emotionally drift apart and are unable to connect anymore. They don\u2019t go out, don\u2019t cuddle and watch movies, stop hugging and kissing and being affectionate.<\/p>\n

Olvidan aniversarios y cumplea\u00f1os y cada vez est\u00e1n m\u00e1s distantes.<\/p>\n

Al llevar una vida ajetreada, se olvidan de reservar algo de tiempo para s\u00ed mismos, sin que nadie ni nada les moleste o interfiera.<\/p>\n

La verdad es que, a veces, esto parece misi\u00f3n imposible, pero es imprescindible para el \u00e9xito de la asociaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Esclavos de la costumbre<\/h2>\n

\"hombreLas parejas que caen en la trampa de volverse demasiado complaciente<\/a> hacen las cosas por defecto sin poner en ellas sus emociones.<\/p>\n

Sin ni siquiera ser conscientes de ello, se atascan en su zona de confort<\/a> sin el valor de salir de ella y hacer algunos cambios en su vida.<\/p>\n

Esto se ve mejor en la parte \u00edntima de una relaci\u00f3n. El sexo se convierte en algo que simplemente se hace y, con el tiempo, se empieza a ver como una obligaci\u00f3n, sin disfrutarlo al m\u00e1ximo.<\/p>\n

Empiezas a verlo como algo que tienes que hacer en lugar de algo que deber\u00edas desear hacer con tu ser querido. El sexo se convierte en una las actividades de relaci\u00f3n<\/a> que se espera de ti en lugar de que sea un acto \u00edntimo y de placer f\u00edsico.<\/p>\n

You get things done, without any special pleasure. It is good but it isn\u2019t great.<\/p>\n

No est\u00e1is del todo satisfechos, pero no est\u00e1is dispuestos a ponerle picante a la cosa. O, en el peor de los casos, el sexo es inexistente y os sent\u00eds m\u00e1s como compa\u00f1eros de piso que como pareja.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo evitar la complacencia en una relaci\u00f3n?<\/h2>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

Since you\u2019ve gotten this far, it is more than obvious that your relationship can be related to some or even most of the things mentioned above and that you have a problem.<\/p>\n

Well, after recognizing the signs and being aware that you and your partner have fallen into the trap of becoming too complacent in a relationship, it\u2019s about time to take some action to make things better and ultimately save your relationship because the situation you are in now isn\u2019t good.<\/p>\n

Puede que ninguno de los dos quiera admitirlo, pero la forma en que est\u00e1 vuestra relaci\u00f3n os est\u00e1 haciendo desgraciados a los dos.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re clearly not solving anything and it\u2019s time you bring the spark back into your relationship.<\/p>\n

Empieza a darte cuenta<\/h2>\n

\"mujerIf you\u2019re looking for ways to stop being complacent in a relationship, start by not taking your partner for granted and don\u2019t allow him to darte por sentado<\/a> tampoco.<\/p>\n

Acu\u00e9rdate de felicitarle cuando cambie algo de su aspecto o haga algo en casa.<\/p>\n

If he fails to notice something you believe he should, turn his attention to it. Ask him what he thinks and subtly imply how you wish that things like that didn\u2019t go unnoticed.<\/p>\n

La clave est\u00e1 en darse cuenta de las peque\u00f1as cosas y en demostrar que realmente se ven el uno al otro. Se trata de prestarse atenci\u00f3n el uno al otro como al principio de la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Hable abiertamente con su pareja<\/h2>\n

\"hombreLo siguiente que tienes que hacer en el proceso de no ser complaciente en una relaci\u00f3n es decirle a tu pareja honestamente cu\u00e1l es el problema.<\/p>\n

Dile lo que sientes por todo y que crees que ambos os hab\u00e9is vuelto complacientes en la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let him deny it and don\u2019t allow him to dismiss your words as unimportant or foolish.<\/p>\n

Expl\u00edcale que realmente ten\u00e9is un problema que hay que solucionar cuanto antes.<\/p>\n

Si quieres dejar de ser complaciente en una relaci\u00f3n, unid fuerzas y ved juntos qu\u00e9 pod\u00e9is hacer al respecto. Fija unos objetivos de la relaci\u00f3n<\/a> y avanzar hacia ellos.<\/p>\n

Puede que le venga bien tener algunas pautas sobre c\u00f3mo alcanzar esos objetivos.<\/p>\n

The most important thing here is that you both admit that you have a problem and that you are both willing to snap out of it and work hard to save your relationship because there is no point if you\u2019re the only one fighting and the only trying.<\/p>\n

Esfu\u00e9rzate m\u00e1s<\/h2>\n

\"fotoEsfu\u00e9rzate un poco<\/a>. Look at all the things you can improve and that both of you as a couple could do differently. Don\u2019t sleepwalk through your relationship. Be present.  <\/p>\n

Ask things. Support. Talk openly about anything and everything\u2014communication is vital. Show interest.<\/p>\n

Intentad juntos algo nuevo y emocionante. Al final, todos los peque\u00f1os esfuerzos se traducir\u00e1n en algo grande.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s never too late to start being better to one another and to start working on the fact that you\u2019ve become complacent in the relationship. Simple acts of kindness should never be underestimated.<\/p>\n

You both need to feel appreciated and loved. You both need to work on things because relationships are always about two. One-sided efforts won\u2019t suffice.<\/p>\n

Encuentre tiempo para ustedes dos solos<\/h2>\n

\"parejaUna de las cosas m\u00e1s importantes que te ayudar\u00e1n a salir de la trampa de ser demasiado complaciente en una relaci\u00f3n es encontrar tiempo que los dos pas\u00e9is a solas, como pareja, sin nadie m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Yes, time spent apart or with friends and family is also beneficial for your relationship but it\u2019s time you focus on the two of you.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow everything else to be more important than the two of you.<\/p>\n

Por supuesto, te encanta tu trabajo y quieres salir adelante. Naturalmente, quieres a tus hijos m\u00e1s que a nada y tienen toda tu atenci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

However, work or money won\u2019t hug you at night. Your children will grow up and have lives of their own and in the end, it\u2019s going to be just the two of you.<\/p>\n

And it\u2019s never really \u2018either\/or\u2019. If you work at it, you can have the best of everything.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important to make time for each other ahora <\/i>antes de que sea demasiado tarde, <\/i>para trabajar en su relaci\u00f3n y hacerla m\u00e1s satisfactoria y plena.<\/p>\n

Remember to manage your time wisely so you have time for all the people and everything else that\u2019s important in your life but it\u2019s important that you and your partner learn to enjoy each other\u2019s company all over again.<\/p>\n

Anima un poco las cosas<\/h2>\n

\"unaWhile sex might not be the most important part of the relationship, it\u2019s equally as important as all the other parts.<\/p>\n

Sobre todo si el sexo es malo o, peor a\u00fan, inexistente, porque es entonces cuando sientes lo crucial que es en realidad para una relaci\u00f3n sana.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s what distinguishes friendship from love. And it\u2019s important that you have your best friend and lover in one person.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not talking about physical pleasure connected with sex here only\u2014I\u2019m talking about the intimacy connected to it.<\/p>\n

El sexo te acerca a tu pareja. Crea v\u00ednculos emocionales que influyen profundamente en tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

So don\u2019t let the passion die. Anima tu vida sexual<\/a> un poco, prueba cosas nuevas. Coquetea. Env\u00eda sexts.<\/p>\n

Make an effort in this aspect of your relationship, too. Don\u2019t allow sex to be just one more of your daily chores or something you have to get over with. Bring back all the sparks you had when you first started.<\/p>\n

Lo esencial es que las relaciones requieren un trabajo constante. Necesitan esfuerzos mutuos y mejoras constantes.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s what makes them last. That\u2019s why you should never take your partner for granted.<\/p>\n

Nunca debes dar por sentado que por el mero hecho de tener una pareja o un matrimonio de larga duraci\u00f3n debes dejar de intentarlo y volverte demasiado complaciente en la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

There is a big difference between feeling comfortable around each other and acting like you don\u2019t care. If you act like you don\u2019t care, your partner will start to believe that.<\/p>\n

Actions speak louder than words. And if there are no actions, there is nothing that\u2019s going to prove to your partner that you genuinely care. It will push them away. That\u2019s why you should never risk making somebody you truly love feel like they are not important anymore.  <\/p>\n

React immediately, don\u2019t let things get too far. When there is love, understanding and the enormous wish of both partners for something to last, they will make it work.<\/p>\n

Har\u00e1n todos los cambios necesarios. Se esforzar\u00e1n e ir\u00e1n m\u00e1s all\u00e1 para que las cosas funcionen.<\/p>\n

If that\u2019s the case, complacency will be just a rough patch they managed to overcome and their relationship will grow stronger because of it.<\/p>\n

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