{"id":18558,"date":"2020-02-11T11:12:04","date_gmt":"2020-02-11T11:12:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=18558"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:15:20","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:15:20","slug":"que-hacer-cuando-el-narcisista-vuelve-y-como-hacer-que-se-vaya","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/que-hacer-cuando-el-narcisista-vuelve-y-como-hacer-que-se-vaya\/","title":{"rendered":"Qu\u00e9 hacer cuando el narcisista vuelve (y c\u00f3mo hacer que se vaya)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Muchas mujeres cometen el mismo error cuando el narcisista con el que han roto vuelve, especialmente si est\u00e1n reci\u00e9n salidas de la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Todos cometemos ese error porque, francamente, seguimos enamorados de nuestro narcisista.<\/p>\n

Although we know they are bad for us and we\u2019re only going to be miserable, something draws us back to them.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s their lies and their false epiphany, their empty promises that they will change and that things are going to be different.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s when we make the mistake and take them back, instead of chasing them as far away from us as possible.<\/b><\/em><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Pero la verdad detr\u00e1s de su regreso es que algo en su vida no va como ellos quer\u00edan. Algo no va bien.<\/p>\n

Some other source of energetic supply has been compromised and they are coming back to their regular source of energy that kept them happy and \u2018well-fed\u2019 for a long time.<\/p>\n

They are not coming back because they have realized their behavior was hurtful and mean, they are coming back because they have no one to dry the energy out. They don\u2019t love you, they just want to use you.<\/em><\/p>\n

El narcisista<\/a> doesn\u2019t care for you as a person. They don\u2019t care for your virtues or for who you really are.<\/p>\n

They have a desire for something that you provided them with and they want it. That\u2019s why they come back to you.<\/p>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Ven a las personas como objetos, cosas que pueden cambiar, usar y tirar cuando han terminado con ellas y pasan al siguiente objeto.<\/p>\n

Just please remember, they won\u2019t be coming back because they love you.<\/p>\n

Volver\u00e1n porque t\u00fa tienes algo que ellos necesitan y t\u00fa te enga\u00f1as pensando que han vuelto para enmendarse y disculparse.<\/p>\n

Crees que van a cambiar, pero eso nunca ocurre, lo que te deja roto y decepcionado. Te sientes utilizado porque te est\u00e1n utilizando.<\/p>\n

Qu\u00e9 hacer cuando el narcisista vuelve y c\u00f3mo ahuyentarlo para siempre<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Le pedir\u00e1 disculpas<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Volver\u00e1 arrastr\u00e1ndose hacia ti, fingiendo estar arrepentido. Parecer\u00e1 devastado y roto como si todo su mundo se hubiera derrumbado.<\/p>\n

He will look like he feels bad for his actions and regrets them. But the thing is, it\u2019s ridiculous to talk about apologizing when someone has done something on purpose.<\/p>\n

An apology can only be true and sincere when you\u2019re apologizing for something that happens by accident.<\/p>\n

Los narcisistas son conscientes de que lo que hacen est\u00e1 mal. Saben que te est\u00e1n rompiendo el coraz\u00f3n y que te est\u00e1n haciendo sentir como una mierda, pero lo hacen de todos modos.<\/p>\n

So how can an apology be sincere if you know the thing he is apologizing for is intentional? You just can\u2019t match one little sorry with all the horrible things they have done to you.<\/p>\n

2. Te acechar\u00e1<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Suddenly, you\u2019ll see him all over the place. If you go for a walk, if you go to the gym, if you go to the market, you\u2019ll see him and believe me, that is not an accident.<\/p>\n

That is happening for a reason. It\u2019s all a part of his hovering tactics, with which he wants to pull you back to him. Probably because te echa de menos<\/a> pero no de forma normal.<\/p>\n

Echa de menos drenar toda la energ\u00eda de ti y sentirse satisfecho y feliz.<\/p>\n

Te acechar\u00e1 en las redes sociales y observar\u00e1 atentamente cada movimiento que hagas.<\/p>\n

He wants to be sure that you are all alone and miserable without him and while he\u2019s waiting for your weak moment, he\u2019ll try to make you see him in the best possible light. Don\u2019t fall for those kinds of tricks.<\/p>\n

The best thing you could do is to ignore him completely. Don\u2019t let him get inside your head. He has not changed and he never will.<\/p>\n

He is still the same old manipulative asshole who\u2019ll drain you and spit you out once again. Spare yourself the pain and chase him away.<\/p>\n

3. You\u2019re his safety net<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Cuando el narcisista vuelve, sabe que usted estar\u00e1 all\u00ed para \u00e9l. \u00c9l sabe que usted va a ser su red de seguridad.<\/p>\n

As long as you\u2019re there to catch him, he is going to keep doing what he is doing because there are no consequences.<\/p>\n

\u00c9l siempre consigue lo que quiere y t\u00fa siempre sales perjudicada. \u00bfTe parece justo?<\/p>\n

By taking him back over and over again, you\u2019re just proving to him that his behavior is working.<\/p>\n

It might not be right, he knows it\u2019s not, but you keep giving him second chances, so he keeps using them.<\/p>\n

You have to be strong enough to cut him off. You have to make him aware that you\u2019ve had enough and that your energy source is no longer available for him to exploit.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that this should do it but it will definitely keep him at a distance for a while until he becomes desperate again.<\/p>\n

4. Intenta no tener contacto<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

La regla del no contacto<\/a> es lo mejor. Pero a veces es imposible mantener el contacto.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s impossible if the guy, your narcissist, is someone you\u2019re working with or your ex-husband whom you have kids with.<\/p>\n

But let\u2019s say there is nothing out there keeping you close to him, then you can easily let him go and block him out of your life.<\/p>\n

But you have to want it. Because there will be times when you\u2019re going to miss him. No matter how big of an ass he was, there were times when he was even good to you.<\/p>\n

Quiero decir que era simp\u00e1tico y amable contigo porque necesitaba algo de ti, era s\u00f3lo otro medio de manipulaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

But you\u2019re not going to miss him as a person, you\u2019re going to miss the feeling of affection.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re going to miss having someone by your side in the moments when you are going to be depressed and alone.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re going to miss having anyone by your side and that is when the biggest danger of going back to him occurs.<\/p>\n

Se aprovechar\u00e1 de eso y volver\u00e1 a ti. Intenta no contactar con \u00e9l. Mant\u00e9n la regla del no contacto, no importa lo triste y sola que te sientas.<\/p>\n

Try to talk to a friend or sleep on it and don\u2019t make decisions you\u2019re going to regret.<\/p>\n

5. Tienes que ser indiferente<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

You have to make yourself as less interesting as you can. You have to be so boring that he doesn\u2019t want to be close to you.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t respond to his provocations, and there will be plenty, just be boring.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t talk to him about anything except the things you have to talk about.<\/p>\n

Esta es la forma m\u00e1s eficaz de defenderse de personas narcisistas<\/a> when you have no other option than to be around him, where you can\u2019t apply the no contact rule.<\/p>\n

Narcissists come back all of a sudden and when you least expect it because they are missing something from their life. They need something and probably they can\u2019t get it.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

This is what creates a void inside of them which they need to fulfill right away. That\u2019s when he turns back to you because you were good enough for the job.<\/p>\n

Te us\u00f3 tantas veces antes, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 no intentarlo una vez m\u00e1s?<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t show any kind of reaction, be faceless as a dull, gray stone and he will leave because you are not interesting to him anymore.<\/p>\n

He can\u2019t use you anymore, so he will go off and seek another victim to destroy emotionally.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo ten en cuenta que cada vez que vuelve y lo aceptas de nuevo, eres t\u00fa la que se queda llorando mientras \u00e9l se aleja tranquilamente. S\u00f3lo le est\u00e1s haciendo un favor.<\/p>\n

\"Qu\u00e9<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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