It was only a few weeks after the breakup and my ex’s relationship status went from \u201cin a relationship\u201c to \u201csingle\u201c. Photos of him partying with friends and some unknown women were cluttering my news feed. His texts stopped coming and it seemed like he was over me just like that. In the blink of an eye, all the love he swore he had for me was gone and he moved on.<\/p>\n
Mientras tanto, yo segu\u00eda con mi segunda tarrina de helado, luchando contra el insomnio, llorando sin parar, hablando con mis amigos, analizando la ruptura y la relaci\u00f3n, intentando encontrarle alg\u00fan sentido a lo que acababa de pasar. Intentando llegar al fondo de las cosas.<\/p>\n
\u201cHow can he move on so fast? Did he ever love me? How can he be so heartless? Where did his love go?\u201d<\/em> y seguramente \u201c<\/em>\u00bfMe echa de menos?<\/a>\u201d <\/em>were just some of the questions echoing in my head and making everything so much more difficult for me. But they wouldn\u2019t stop. I couldn\u2019t silence my mind. I couldn\u2019t stop the pain that was just getting deeper.<\/p>\n My world was falling apart and he was having the time of his life. I couldn\u2019t grasp it. For the life of me, I couldn\u2019t understand what was going on in his head. It\u2019s maybe not a good thing to confess but if I had known I wasn\u2019t the only one hurting, if I had known that he was going through something similar, maybe it would have been easier to get over the breakup.<\/strong><\/p>\n I know that a lot of women can relate. And a lot of them are wondering, \u201cWhy is this so? Why do men and women handle breakups differently?\u201d This is what I have found out:<\/p>\n Inmediatamente despu\u00e9s de la ruptura, la mujer analiza la situaci\u00f3n y trata de encontrarle sentido. Hablar\u00e1 de ello abiertamente con sus amigas para facilitar las cosas. En cambio, los hombres luchar contra sus sentimientos<\/a>. They will ignore them and put them aside. They will avoid the subject and try to move on as fast as they can because that\u2019s what men do. They don\u2019t display their feelings publically or go into in-depth analyses with their friends.<\/p>\n Si lo miramos a largo plazo, las mujeres obtienen mejores resultados a la hora de superar una ruptura. Puede que les lleve mucho tiempo, pero procesan sus sentimientos. Al hablar de ellos, en cierto modo, dejan que el dolor abandone lentamente su organismo. Llegan a conclusiones significativas que les ayudan a vivir mejor.<\/p>\n While that initial blow is harder on women, that doesn\u2019t mean men are unaffected. A breakup doesn\u2019t spare anybody\u2014it\u2019s just the difference in timing. Women are more affected at the beginning and men later on.<\/p>\n Mientras las mujeres pasan por el periodo de duelo y diseccionan toda la relaci\u00f3n con sus amigos, en realidad se est\u00e1n curando a s\u00ed mismas en ese proceso. Se dan cuenta de que se ha acabado y de por qu\u00e9 ha tenido que ser as\u00ed. En cambio, los hombres est\u00e1n demasiado ocupados huyendo de sus sentimientos y distray\u00e9ndose, de modo que la comprensi\u00f3n de la ruptura y del hecho de que no hay vuelta atr\u00e1s llega m\u00e1s tarde.<\/p>\n This is probably one of the most important differences. After the breakup, men are guarding their pride and self-esteem. They can experience anger and resentment if they weren\u2019t the ones who did the breaking up. So their coping mechanisms are bit more destructive. They hide their feelings, go out partying, are more prone to rebound relationships, etc. So, they don\u2019t solve the problem. They are not healing\u2014they are avoiding dealing with the breakup.<\/p>\n Women, however, do the complete opposite and most of the relationship experts agree that women\u2019s way of coping with breakups is more constructive. By turning to other people in their lives, by talking about their feelings and analyzing them, they try to give themselves some kind of closure. They learn their lessons, try to see the silver lining in all the pain and grow as the individuals.<\/p>\n Los hombres y las mujeres tienen puntos de vista totalmente diferentes sobre el concepto de relaci\u00f3n de pareja. expectativas diferentes<\/a>. La mayor\u00eda de las mujeres, normalmente sin ninguna intenci\u00f3n real de hacerlo, ven una relaci\u00f3n como algo a largo plazo desde el principio. Por eso, invierten mucho m\u00e1s en las relaciones que los hombres. Y eso es natural y normal, pero un gran comienzo de relaci\u00f3n no garantiza que est\u00e9s donde debes estar.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why when the relationship breaks up, women have this feeling that they have lost so much more\u2014the potential of the relationship and everything they thought that relationship could become has gone down the drain. By default, the pain is so much greater for it. On the contrary, men are less affected and less hurt because of their perception of a relationship. They go one day at a time without thinking too much of where the relationship is headed, especially early on.<\/p>\n1. Reacciones iniciales<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n
2. Tiempo de realizaci\u00f3n<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n
3. Mecanismos de afrontamiento<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n
4. Percepciones espec\u00edficas de una relaci\u00f3n<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n
5. Emociones frente a raz\u00f3n<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n