{"id":19184,"date":"2019-12-28T13:13:32","date_gmt":"2019-12-28T13:13:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=19184"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:41:23","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:41:23","slug":"la-verdad-es-que-no-es-emocionalmente-roto-que-es-solo-un-idiota","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/la-verdad-es-que-no-es-emocionalmente-roto-que-es-solo-un-idiota\/","title":{"rendered":"La verdad es que no est\u00e1 emocionalmente roto, s\u00f3lo es un gilipollas."},"content":{"rendered":"

La curiosa verdad sobre todas las relaciones humanas es que tenemos tendencia a justificar las acciones de las personas que nos importan profundamente. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Actually, we want to justify to ourself the fact that we love someone who clearly doesn\u2019t deserve our love and who doesn\u2019t deserve a place in our life so we make excuses for that person\u2019s behavior. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

We feel humiliated and foolish for caring for someone we know is not good for us and maybe is not even a good person in general but our heart refuses to accept this notion and constantly tries to see what lies behind this person\u2019s behavior toward us.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

It\u2019s the same with you and this one guy in your life. From the moment you met him, he made some things clear. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Dej\u00f3 claro que no es alguien que est\u00e9 dispuesto a comprometerse y alguien que pueda darte la <\/span>el amor que mereces<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Aunque probablemente nunca te dijo algo as\u00ed en voz alta, seguro que te lo demostr\u00f3 con sus acciones.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

And ever since you met him, he has done nothing but cause you pain. You suffered a lot because of him and the way he\u2019s been treating you but even all of that didn\u2019t chase you away from him. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

S<\/span>o it\u2019s evident you have something that keeps you around this guy.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Por supuesto, es evidente que sientes algo profundo por \u00e9l. Le quieres y har\u00edas cualquier cosa para que \u00e9l te correspondiera. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

But somehow, that isn\u2019t happening, despite all of your efforts.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Aunque este hombre es un capullo contigo la mayor parte del tiempo, cada vez que quieres dejar esta situaci\u00f3n, hace algo para que te replantees tu decisi\u00f3n. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

He does something which makes you give him another chance, even though he clearly doesn\u2019t deserve it. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Te da un poco de su amor y atenci\u00f3n<\/span>\u2014<\/span>lo suficiente para mantenerte cerca. Y esto es algo a lo que te aferras durante meses.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

After a lot of thought, you\u2019ve reached a conclusion. You\u2019ve come to think that this man is actually <\/b>emocionalmente da\u00f1ado<\/b> <\/a>y roto y que esta es la causa de todos sus problemas. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

Esta es la causa de su comportamiento hacia ti y esto es lo que le ha convertido en el hombre que es hoy. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

This is why he doesn\u2019t want to commit and why he doesn\u2019t want to open up to you or show you his life. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

Porque es obvio que le han hecho da\u00f1o en el pasado y no est\u00e1 dispuesto a permitir que vuelva a ocurrir.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Esto es algo que te hace pensar que no es tan malo como parece y esto es algo que te hace justificar su comportamiento hacia ti. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

You simply assume that this guy needs your love to change, that he needs your guidance and support through life and that you can\u2019t leave him hanging. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

Te ves a ti misma como una supermujer cuya tarea es salvar a este hombre y curar su coraz\u00f3n.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Bueno, odio ser quien te lo diga, pero lo m\u00e1s probable es que este hombre no est\u00e9 emocionalmente da\u00f1ado o roto. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Lo m\u00e1s probable es que s\u00f3lo sea un <\/b>hombre t\u00f3xico que juega juegos mentales<\/b><\/a> sin ninguna raz\u00f3n.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

I know you are trying to get to the bottom of his behavior and that you are trying to find the reason for the way he\u2019s been treating you but it\u2019s time to accept that some men do this and there is nothing you can do about it.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

I know this is painful for you to hear but I don\u2019t want you to think that this guy loves you somewhere in the depths of his heart and that you just need to try a little bit harder for this love to come to the surface. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

I don\u2019t want you to think that he is actually running away from his feelings for you because he is scared of their intensity. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

I don\u2019t want you to think that he is petrified that you would hurt him and that this is why he refuses to give himself completely to you. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

I don\u2019t want you to think that there is a vulnerable, little boy, waiting to be loved, hidden inside of this man.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Porque nada de eso es cierto.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Este hombre simplemente te ha estado utilizando a ti y a tu amor y bondad todo el tiempo. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Te est\u00e1 utilizando por su ego, por sexo o simplemente porque le gusta que le quieras o tener siempre a alguien a su lado.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

En cualquier caso, la cuesti\u00f3n es la misma<\/span>\u2014<\/span>deja de justificarlo<\/span><\/a> because it\u2019s about time you look the truth in the eyes.<\/span> <\/p>\r\n\r\n

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The funny truth about all human relations is that we have a tendency to justify the actions of the people we care for deeply. Actually, we want to justify to ourself the fact that we love someone who clearly doesn\u2019t deserve our love and who doesn\u2019t deserve a place in our life so we make…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":19185,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19184","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/marcelo-matarazzo-303795-unsplash.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":1,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","parent":29643,"count":570,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29646,"category_count":570,"category_description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","cat_name":"understanding men","category_nicename":"understanding-men","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19184","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=19184"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19184\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/19185"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=19184"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=19184"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=19184"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}