We as humans make major changes in life and as humans we have evolved so much over a period of time, with technology, social media, clothing trends, etc. But one thing that hasn\u2019t changed over this period of time is the expected \u2018timeline\u2019 for us to settle down, get married, and have children, all before our \u2018biological clocks\u2019 time out.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m in my late 20\u2019s and most of my girlfriends are in relationships (or relacioneshits<\/strong> como me gusta llamarlas). Sol\u00eda sentir que siempre era yo la que se quedaba atr\u00e1s o la que acompa\u00f1aba torpemente a mis amigos en sus citas nocturnas. Por no hablar de que sol\u00eda llorar descaradamente hasta quedarme dormida por las noches, cuando me daba cuenta de que lo \u00fanico que iba a encontrarme al volver a casa era a mi peluche de montar o morir, el Sr. Oats, un caballo, por supuesto.<\/p>\n One day, as I was out with my girlfriends on a much-needed wine tasting adventure, I found myself and my thoughts in a second bottle of rose. I\u2019m not sure whether it was the bubbles or just a waking moment but I realized Estaba realmente mucho mejor siendo soltero<\/a> que en las relaciones.<\/strong> I had to thank them all for this realization\u2014after all, if it hadn\u2019t been for them continually complaining about their fake relationshits or arguing over who had the best #couplestatus<\/strong>, I\u2019d still be thinking their lives were bliss while mine was shit.<\/p>\n Esos mismos pensamientos me llevaron a esta misma conclusi\u00f3n: ser soltero<\/a> in your 20\u2019s is the most beautiful and life-liberating experience!<\/strong> So, while some days you may feel hopeless, I can promise you that the journey in finding yourself and who you truly are is well worth the wait. I promise if you are patient with yourself you\u2019ll find you won\u2019t have to repeat that vicious cycle of being the ever so single one. So if you feel hopeless or lonely, I hope you can look back on these 6 ways to realizing that being single in your 20\u2019s is nothing but pure enjoyment.<\/strong><\/p>\n Maybe it was because I wasn\u2019t in the right relationship but I often would get so frustrated when a partner would not compliment me on my accomplishments, no matter how big or small. However, over time and being alone with myself, I have learned that the only validation I need is from within. He aprendido a hacerme cumplidos cuando me veo bien y a felicitarme cuando cumplo mis objetivos o consigo logros.<\/strong> Cuando se trata de m\u00ed misma, soy la \u00fanica que importa.<\/p>\n So often when we get into relationships we lose who we are because we are so focused on catering to our partner\u2019s every need. I know we have all been there and that\u2019s OK. However, si nos tomamos el tiempo de estar solos, podemos profundizar de verdad en <\/strong>nosotros mismos and ask the important question\u2026 what is your true purpose in life?\u2014what is your true calling?<\/strong> \u00bfEst\u00e1s haciendo lo que puedes para lograr este prop\u00f3sito o vocaci\u00f3n?<\/p>\n It\u2019s always nice to share dreams and aspirations with a partner. However, tu pareja no puede sustituir tus propios objetivos personales.<\/strong> In order to have a fully loving and shared experience with another human being, you must first know how to make yourself happy and fulfilled. If you are unhappy at work, don\u2019t expect a partner to fill that void. Your partner should be that accent to your life\u2014like that great pair of earrings!<\/p>\n Esta es mi favorita. No tienes a nadie que te impida viajar a ciertos lugares del mundo y no tienes a nadie a quien rendir cuentas. If you decide to wake up and book a flight to Tahiti\u2014you can. You are free to go anywhere at any time.<\/strong> If you want to wear that special dress\u2014go for it. If you want to eat at YOUR favorite restaurant\u2014go for it. That little voice that used to say, \u201cWonder if he\u2019s OK with this, wonder if he\u2019ll like it, wonder if this fits his style,\u201d has been silenced and replaced by a loud, happy, boisterous shout of being oneself!<\/p>\n En el pasado pasabas el tiempo escribi\u00e9ndole peque\u00f1as notas de apoyo y comprando ese algo especial para complacerle. Te enorgullec\u00eda hacerle feliz, complacerle. Si \u00e9l era feliz, t\u00fa eras feliz. Tu prioridad era complacerle ante todo. Ahora ya no. Ahora puedes mimarte.<\/strong> Reserva ese d\u00eda en el spa. Spend a little extra and get that dress you know you\u2019ve been wanting. Who says that little red sports cars are just for men! Go for it!<\/strong><\/p>\n Eres capaz de comprender la importancia de la familia y de disfrutar de las cosas sencillas de la vida. S\u00e9 una cosa con certeza, I\u2019ve found closer relationships within my family and have a better understanding of being grateful for all that I have.<\/strong> No longer do I have to decide between him, HIS family or mine. I have managed to reconnect with my siblings and parents in a way I couldn\u2019t if he was still in the picture. I even have a closer connection with my sweet little dog!<\/p>\n V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: La mente de una chica que nunca ha tenido una cita<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n1. Aprende que la \u00fanica validaci\u00f3n que necesitas viene de dentro<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n
2. La conexi\u00f3n espiritual en la b\u00fasqueda de uno mismo<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n
3. Puedes perseguir tus propios sue\u00f1os y aspiraciones<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n
4. No est\u00e1s atado por ninguna cadena<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n
5. Puedes mimarte<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n
6. Aprender\u00e1s a apreciar mejor las cosas que tienes<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n