{"id":19444,"date":"2020-07-04T11:43:31","date_gmt":"2020-07-04T11:43:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=19444"},"modified":"2022-03-15T00:39:17","modified_gmt":"2022-03-15T00:39:17","slug":"como-arreglar-una-relacion-unilateral-7-maneras-eficaces","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/como-arreglar-una-relacion-unilateral-7-maneras-eficaces\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfC\u00f3mo arreglar una relaci\u00f3n unilateral? (7 maneras efectivas)"},"content":{"rendered":"

You know what\u2019s the worst feeling in the world? Giving your heart, body, and mind into the relationship and not getting anything back. Being all in for somebody who is just halfway there or not there at all.<\/p>\n

Wasting your time wondering where you stand and if they still care for you. Being somebody’s option while they are your priority.<\/p>\n

One-sidedness can really be exhausting. You feel like you are hitting a brick wall by trying to keep your relationship going and you are not getting anything in return. It\u2019s frustrating, painful and you have to do something about it.<\/p>\n

I know a lot of people would advise to simply end the relationship and move on with your life. At times, that\u2019s all you can do. <\/em><\/p>\n

Pero si a\u00fan crees que hay alguna posibilidad de salvar tu relaci\u00f3n, ponerle fin deber\u00eda ser el \u00faltimo punto de tu lista. Hay cosas que pueden ayudarte a reconducir tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo arreglar una relaci\u00f3n unilateral?<\/strong><\/em>
\nFor starters, it\u2019s important to determine the signs of a one-sided relationship. When you get to the cause, it\u2019s easier to fix the problem.<\/p>\n

Toda la iniciativa parte de ti<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Eres t\u00fa quien suele enviar mensajes o llamar primero. La \u00faltima cita que tuvisteis fue idea tuya.<\/p>\n

T\u00fa propusiste y organizaste vuestra \u00faltima actividad y eres t\u00fa la que hace la mayor\u00eda de los planes mientras \u00e9l no est\u00e1 dispuesto a mover un dedo. No dejas de hacer planes solo para que pod\u00e1is pasar un rato a solas, pero \u00e9l parece no tener ni idea.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not just that he does not plan. There are simpler things at stake, too. Making a phone call or texting just to check on you wouldn\u2019t cross his mind.<\/p>\n

Sure he responds when you text, but it\u2019s never right away. It always takes him a few hours or in worse cases, days.<\/p>\n

La conclusi\u00f3n es que cuando se trata de cualquier cosa en su relaci\u00f3n, usted es el iniciador y \u00e9l es s\u00f3lo un participante pasivo.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1s abajo en su lista de prioridades<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Tienes la sensaci\u00f3n de que todo y todos est\u00e1n antes que t\u00fa.<\/p>\n

Aunque lo dejar\u00edas todo por estar con \u00e9l, te das cuenta de que s\u00f3lo pasa tiempo contigo cuando no tiene nada m\u00e1s interesante que hacer.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s ok that he spends his time pursuing his interests or salir con los amigos<\/a>, but what\u2019s not ok is canceling plans last minute to make that happen.<\/p>\n

Deber\u00eda cumplir sus promesas y venir cuando dijo que lo har\u00eda. Te est\u00e1 haciendo da\u00f1o y est\u00e1s dejando que te trate como una opci\u00f3n mientras que \u00e9l es tu prioridad.<\/p>\n

Es francamente ego\u00edsta<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

He can talk about something that happened to him for hours, but he can\u2019t spare a minute to listen to what you have to say. He never asks you how you are doing or how your day went.<\/p>\n

When you speak, he uses the phrase: \u201cYou never told me that\u201d way too often because he wasn’t really paying attention and he forgot all about it.<\/p>\n

His needs come first and he likes things being that way. He is used to you being at his beck and call and he’s taking you for granted.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t care what you feel like doing because he always insists on you doing what he wants. His selfishness can also extend to the bedroom and he will consider his pleasure only, not doing anything to satisfy you.<\/p>\n

Sientes la necesidad de justificar sus acciones ante tus amigos y familiares<\/h2>\n

\"Hija<\/p>\n

Nunca aparece donde debe o, si lo hace, siempre llega tarde.<\/p>\n

Te sientes avergonzado y solo en las reuniones familiares o con amigos.<\/p>\n

You are always a phone call away when he needs you and you don\u2019t even know if he is going to pick up when you call him.<\/p>\n

Your loved ones often warn you that he is not treating you right and that you shouldn\u2019t allow it.<\/p>\n

But you keep justifying him and his actions by saying things like: \u201che is just having a tough time right now, he is stressed, overworked, underslept\u201d and the list goes on.<\/p>\n

Pero preg\u00fantate: \u00bfLo est\u00e1s justificando ante ellos o ante ti misma? Tal vez tengas miedo de afrontar que est\u00e1s en una relaci\u00f3n unilateral.<\/p>\n

Eres el \u00fanico que se disculpa<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

Cuando os pele\u00e1is, siempre eres t\u00fa la que tiene que acudir a \u00e9l y arreglar las cosas.<\/p>\n

\u00c9l nunca es el culpable y nunca acudir\u00e1 a ti para pedirte perd\u00f3n y asumir la responsabilidad de sus actos.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why you are the one who ends up apologizing for everything, for the things you have and haven\u2019t done.<\/p>\n

Siempre retuerce la situaci\u00f3n para beneficiarse a s\u00ed mismo. Dice que algo en tu comportamiento le llev\u00f3 a actuar as\u00ed; t\u00fa le provocaste y, por tanto, todo este revuelo fue culpa tuya.<\/p>\n

Si te est\u00e1 culpabilizando de esta manera, definitivamente est\u00e1s en una relaci\u00f3n unilateral.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t even bother to communicate<\/h2>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t remember when was the last time you had an open and honest conversation because he never has time for that.<\/p>\n

Si quieres hablar de algo, responde brevemente y hace todo lo posible por evitar la situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

If he doesn\u2019t like what you have to say, he won\u2019t hesitate to give you the silent treatment.<\/p>\n

Puede que ignore tus mensajes y llamadas durante d\u00edas y luego te llame de sopet\u00f3n, actuando como si no hubiera pasado nada e ignorando por completo todo lo que tengas que decirle.<\/p>\n

Sus palabras son vac\u00edas<\/h2>\n

\"pareja <\/p>\n

Cuando te acerques a \u00e9l dici\u00e9ndole que crees que todo viene de tu parte, que sientes que eres la \u00fanica que invierte y se esfuerza, que te sientes desatendida, infravalorada, poco querida y dada por sentada, se har\u00e1 el sorprendido y el despistado ante todo lo que acabas de decir.<\/p>\n

Algunas de las cosas que podr\u00eda decir es que todo est\u00e1 bien, que no tienes nada de qu\u00e9 preocuparte o que est\u00e1s exagerando las cosas.<\/p>\n

Lo dem\u00e1s ser\u00e1 que no ten\u00eda ni idea de que te sent\u00edas as\u00ed y que har\u00e1 todo lo posible por mejorar las cosas y tratarte mejor.<\/p>\n

However, he will stay as he is and do nothing because he is really unaware of the problem or doesn\u2019t care enough to make an effort and make things work.<\/p>\n

Now that we have seen some of the most common signs, the question still remains, \u201cHow to fix a one-sided relationship?\u201d Well, you need to know that it won\u2019t be easy but there are some effective ways that can help you:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tu pareja tiene que estar dispuesta a trabajar en vuestra relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Para empezar, la unilateralidad es lo que os ha metido en este l\u00edo. Una relaci\u00f3n s\u00f3lo puede mejorar si ambos est\u00e1is dispuestos a reconocer que ten\u00e9is un problema.<\/p>\n

Si sigues siendo el \u00fanico que invierte y lucha para que vuestra relaci\u00f3n sobreviva, no os llevar\u00e1 a ninguna parte.<\/p>\n

Ambos tienen que estar dispuestos a hacer los cambios necesarios, esforzarse e invertir por igual en su relaci\u00f3n. Las relaciones son bidireccionales y requieren reciprocidad.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why to leave the one-sidedness, you have to talk openly to your partner, make sure that you are on the same page and that you are both willing to do what it takes for things to work out.<\/p>\n

Sea sincero cuando hable con su pareja<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

After you established that you both want your love to survive and this is just a bad patch\u2014not a bad relationship\u2014you have to keep talking.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t beat around the bush. Be open and honest. Tell him everything that\u2019s bothering you and make him see that everything is coming from you and he is not an active participant in your relationship.<\/p>\n

D\u00edgale c\u00f3mo se siente y qu\u00e9 cree que debe hacer para introducir los cambios necesarios. Lo m\u00e1s importante aqu\u00ed es que la comunicaci\u00f3n va en ambos sentidos.<\/p>\n

Escucha lo que tiene que decir. Quiz\u00e1 hay cosas que est\u00e1s haciendo que le hacen da\u00f1o. Mant\u00e9n la mente y el coraz\u00f3n abiertos.<\/p>\n

Recuerda: si ambos est\u00e1is implicados, si os preocup\u00e1is el uno por el otro, si os escuch\u00e1is de verdad, esto no es m\u00e1s que un periodo dif\u00edcil que superar\u00e9is juntos.<\/p>\n

Aseg\u00farese de que haya acciones y no s\u00f3lo palabras<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de hablar las cosas con tu pareja, tienes que mirar bien si est\u00e1 haciendo lo que prometi\u00f3 que har\u00eda.<\/p>\n

Llegasteis al acuerdo de que ambos est\u00e1is juntos en este l\u00edo y acordasteis hacerlo lo mejor posible y trabajar de verdad en vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

His efforts have to match yours, otherwise it\u2019s all in vain.<\/p>\n

If you see that things are not working, talk to him again and explain why you have no other choice but to leave. You have done your part and he couldn\u2019t stick to his, so he has really left you no other choice.<\/p>\n

Si le importara, seguir\u00eda esforz\u00e1ndose por seguir en tu vida todo lo dem\u00e1s son excusas, sobre todo a estas alturas.<\/p>\n

Habla con tus verdaderos amigos<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Sometimes you need someone outside the relationship to hear you out. You need a true friend with whom to unwind and tell everything that\u2019s bothering you.<\/p>\n

Estos amigos pueden ofrecerte nuevas perspectivas o nuevos puntos de vista sobre tu relaci\u00f3n. No es lo mismo que alguien se entrometa en tu relaci\u00f3n. Es una especie de terapia.<\/p>\n

You have the chance to unwind and you have an opportunity to see your relationship through somebody else’s eyes.<\/p>\n

Sometimes we are too close to see things clearly and our friend\u2019s words can make us come to some new conclusions and some new courses of action that can turn the one-sided relationship into a balanced and healthy one.<\/p>\n

Es importante recordar aqu\u00ed que nuestros amigos s\u00f3lo pueden darnos consejos sobre relaciones<\/a> y aunque puede ser bueno, tambi\u00e9n puede estar totalmente fuera de lugar.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que escucha atentamente lo que tu amigo tiene que decir, pero s\u00e9 t\u00fa quien tome la decisi\u00f3n final.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t discard counseling so easily<\/h2>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

Mucha gente teme el asesoramiento porque tiene miedo de admitir que puede necesitar ayuda externa.<\/p>\n

But not finding help is the worst thing you can do when all of your other attempts at saving your relationship aren’t working.<\/p>\n

Acudir a terapia puede ser algo muy positivo, sobre todo si est\u00e1is casados y\/o ten\u00e9is hijos en com\u00fan.<\/p>\n

Los consejeros sentimentales tienen los conocimientos y la experiencia necesarios, as\u00ed que no s\u00f3lo puedes aprender mucho de ellos, sino que tambi\u00e9n pueden orientarte en la direcci\u00f3n correcta.<\/p>\n

They are strangers and it\u2019s a lot easier talking to strangers and letting everything out in the open than it is talking to someone you know.<\/p>\n

If you can manage to persuade your partner to go to counseling, you\u2019ve already made progress because you see he is willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship last.<\/p>\n

Haz que te eche de menos centr\u00e1ndote en ti<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Por extra\u00f1o que pueda parecer, la mejor forma de hacer que las cosas vuelvan a funcionar es redirigiendo la atenci\u00f3n de tu relaci\u00f3n hacia ti mismo. Toma distancia y dale tiempo a tu relaci\u00f3n para respirar.<\/p>\n

Participar en nuevas actividades. Encuentre nuevos intereses. Socialice m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not running away from your relationship problems. It\u2019s actually solving them in a quiet way.<\/p>\n

Si eres la \u00fanica que hace planes, llama y est\u00e1 muy disponible cuando \u00e9l llama, detendr\u00e1s ese patr\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Dando unos pasos atr\u00e1s, le permitir\u00e1s dar algunos pasos hacia delante, o mejor dicho, hacia ti.<\/p>\n

Si quiere verte, tendr\u00e1 que esforzarse. Si quiere hablar contigo, tendr\u00e1 que ser \u00e9l quien te llame.<\/p>\n

Se ha acostumbrado a que seas t\u00fa quien tome la iniciativa. Dale espacio para que sea \u00e9l quien vaya a por ti, para variar.<\/p>\n

Take a risk – It\u2019s all or nothing!<\/h2>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

The thing is, when you are in a one-sided relationship, you are already alone. So by leaving, you to have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Sometimes people don\u2019t know what they have until they lose it.<\/p>\n

Gather up all of your courage and walk away from anyone who doesn\u2019t respect you and doesn\u2019t care enough to make you happy.<\/p>\n

If he comes after you, you still have a chance to make things work. Distance made him realize what he had in his hands all along and didn\u2019t know how to appreciate.<\/p>\n

He saw that life without you isn\u2019t the same and he wants to make it up to you.<\/p>\n

However, if he doesn\u2019t come after you when you leave, you to have nothing else left to do. As much as it pains you, you will see soon enough that it was for the best.<\/p>\n

T\u00fa ya eras la \u00fanica que daba en vuestra relaci\u00f3n y no has perdido nada. Solo te has dado la oportunidad de pasar a algo mejor al dejarle marchar.<\/p>\n

Besides the obvious question, \u201cHow to fix a one-sided relationship?\u201d there is one more that is closely intertwined and that\u2019s, \u201cIs your relationship worth fixing?\u201d That\u2019s one more major thing to think about.<\/p>\n

A veces estamos tan obsesionados con arreglar cosas que est\u00e1n rotas sin remedio y s\u00f3lo acabaremos haci\u00e9ndonos m\u00e1s da\u00f1o insistiendo en que las cosas funcionen.<\/p>\n

Intenta tener una visi\u00f3n clara de nuestra relaci\u00f3n. Deja a un lado tus sentimientos y comprueba si tu pareja merece m\u00e1s esfuerzo del que le has dedicado.<\/p>\n

Is he a good man? Does he show any signs of toxic behavior? Trust your gut\u2014don\u2019t ignore that inner voice telling you it\u2019s time to walk away from him.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if your partner is a good man that just got lost somewhere along the way and forget about the fact that he has to be the one investing in the relationship too, following some of these steps\u2014especially the first three\u2014will come as a wake-up call to him.<\/p>\n

Se dar\u00e1 cuenta de que ha cometido un error y de que tiene que esforzarse para mantenerte en su vida. Si se despierta y empieza a hacer cosas para demostrarte que te quiere y que se preocupa por ti, no hay duda.<\/p>\n

Regardless of the final outcome, the important thing is that you have tried, so you won\u2019t have any regrets in the future.<\/p>\n

If you have done your best to make things work and the other side hasn\u2019t responded, it\u2019s their loss, not yours.<\/p>\n

You will at least know that you aren’t where you are meant to be and you will give yourself another chance.<\/p>\n

Reconstruir\u00e1s tu vida y empezar\u00e1s de nuevo. No importa lo dif\u00edcil que pueda parecer ser\u00e1 a\u00fan m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil si te quedas en algo unilateral.<\/p>\n

La relaci\u00f3n unilateral te agotar\u00e1 emocionalmente, te herir\u00e1 y te aplastar\u00e1, e inevitablemente terminar\u00e1 en alg\u00fan momento.<\/p>\n

Love is worth fighting for, but you can\u2019t be the only one putting up the fight. Relationships are built for two.<\/p>\n

Todas las emociones, inversiones, esfuerzos y sacrificios tienen que ser mutuos o no valen nada.<\/p>\n

A relationship can\u2019t survive without reciprocity and that is the only truth.<\/p>\n

\"\u00bfC\u00f3mo<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

You know what\u2019s the worst feeling in the world? Giving your heart, body, and mind into the relationship and not getting anything back. Being all in for somebody who is just halfway there or not there at all. Wasting your time wondering where you stand and if they still care for you. Being somebody’s option…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":97084,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29621],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19444","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-healthy-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29621,"label":"healthy relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/How-to-Fix-A-One-Sided-Relationship-7-Effective-Ways.jpg",800,549,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29621,"name":"healthy relationship","slug":"healthy-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29621,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","parent":29620,"count":254,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29621,"category_count":254,"category_description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","cat_name":"healthy relationship","category_nicename":"healthy-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19444","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=19444"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19444\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/97084"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=19444"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=19444"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=19444"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}