{"id":19495,"date":"2018-06-05T09:50:23","date_gmt":"2018-06-05T09:50:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=19495"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:05:16","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:05:16","slug":"miedo-y-fe-para-volver-a-amar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/miedo-y-fe-para-volver-a-amar\/","title":{"rendered":"Miedo y fe para volver a amar"},"content":{"rendered":"

When your heart has been broken, it can be scary to love again. When your heart and mind have been abused, it can be so difficult to love again. You can want to love again but something always holds you back. It’s like you siempre elige al tipo equivocado<\/a> almost on purpose. It’s like there’s a sabotage button that you’re magnetically attached to. But usually when you look back you were right to push the button! He wasn’t right. He wasn’t the one to truly open your heart to again anyway.<\/p>\n

You think you’re ready because you’ve put yourself out there to date so you must be ready! Right? Maybe, maybe not. Just because your best friend cried for three months after a break-up and seemed to just glide into the next relationship does not mean there is something wrong with you because this hasn’t happened for you. It’s OK to take months or even years to open your heart again. Healing from a bad relationship is a bit like grieving, there is no set time for you to have to be OK!<\/p>\n

As women, we are often deep in discussion with friends about following our women’s intuition, trusting our gut feeling. There’s always that one friend who will insist that you MUST KNOW what your gut is telling you but don’t panic, it\u2019s OK to be completely confused.<\/p>\n

Fear can most definitely play nasty tricks on your mind. It’s like a little devil on your shoulder whispering doubts into your ear and making you ask questions.<\/p>\n

El miedo tambi\u00e9n es el amo y se\u00f1or del temido pensando demasiado<\/a>!!!!! We all do it. It’s perfectly normal. You might run through previous conversations over and over, trying to find some hidden meaning you may have missed the previous eighteen times you replayed it in your mind. Maybe it’s reading a text conversation several times. Maybe it’s asking yourself a million questions, never actually answering even one of them before you’re onto the next…<\/p>\n

El miedo puede hacer que act\u00faes fuera de lugar. \u00bfHas tenido alguna vez un sue\u00f1o en el que alguien te ha hecho da\u00f1o? A la ma\u00f1ana siguiente te despiertas y sientes una emoci\u00f3n negativa hacia la persona con la que so\u00f1aste. Sabes que es rid\u00edculo, pero aun as\u00ed lo sientes. Igual que el miedo que sientes cuando esperas lo que parece una eternidad para recibir un mensaje o una llamada de ese chico.<\/p>\n

Entonces llama y t\u00fa te r\u00edes despu\u00e9s de lo rid\u00edculo que hab\u00edas sido. Estabas atrapado en tu propia mente como un prisionero.<\/p>\n

Entonces un d\u00eda conoces a alguien. Te gusta. Le gustas. Te lo dice. Ten\u00e9is citas. Os mand\u00e1is mensajes sin sentido y una llamada de cinco minutos puede durar treinta y cinco. Est\u00e1is deseando volver a veros con una ilusi\u00f3n infantil.<\/p>\n

Te hace sonre\u00edr.<\/p>\n

\u00c9l te da el mayor regalo de todos.<\/p>\n

La fe.<\/p>\n

Even with this guy, the little fear devil may come along for a quick visit. Let’s face it, it had been there through every first date you weren’t really wanting or ready to go on. Every time you potentially liked somebody but felt your guard go up when he did something that fed your fear. Every time you hit the sabotage button, it was the fear that made you do it.<\/p>\n

Pero d\u00e9jame decirte algo que he aprendido. El miedo puede ser tu peor enemigo. Puede hacer aflorar las inseguridades y los sentimientos de ansiedad que m\u00e1s destrozan el alma.<\/p>\n

El miedo tambi\u00e9n puede ser tu amigo.<\/p>\n

\u00bfRecuerdas la confusi\u00f3n en tus entra\u00f1as de la que hablaba antes?<\/p>\n

It’s simply a battle between fear and faith.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed es como el miedo puede ser tu amigo. Ver\u00e1s, mientras el miedo y la fe luchan y estamos atrapados en un mundo de confusi\u00f3n y sabotaje, en realidad permitimos que la fe gane la guerra.<\/p>\n

If we had continued on and dragged out that potential relationship, hoping he would change or do differently whatever wasn’t feeling right, we would have allowed fear to win! In a lot of cases, probably that fear of being alone.<\/p>\n

En cambio, eres libre de abrir la puerta al tipo que te hace ese regalo de fe. \u00c9l te hace sonre\u00edr.
\nTe hace re\u00edr.<\/p>\n

You don’t need to pretend with him. Being yourself with a guy feels good again. Even when you’re being a total nerd. Or rambling like a lunatic about something that excites you.<\/p>\n

Incluso cuando el miedo intenta infiltrarse, te las arreglas para permitir que domine la fe.<\/p>\n

With him, it’s OK to be open. Fear isn’t something to be ashamed of and he gets it when you really open up and share with him.<\/p>\n

You realize you are beginning to have faith and maybe even love again…<\/p>\n

Nothing in this life is guaranteed but if you keep some faith in your heart and soul, it will always win…<\/p>\n

And to quote one of my favorite movies… ‘The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.\u201d<\/p>\n

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