{"id":2058,"date":"2020-06-03T07:33:20","date_gmt":"2020-06-03T07:33:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=2058"},"modified":"2022-02-27T12:51:32","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T12:51:32","slug":"carta-abierta-hombre-destruido","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/carta-abierta-hombre-destruido\/","title":{"rendered":"Carta abierta al hombre que me destruy\u00f3"},"content":{"rendered":"

A Carta para \u00e9l<\/a><\/p>\n

Dear \u201cLove of my Life\u201d,<\/em><\/p>\n

En primer lugar, quiero darle las gracias por mostrarme lo que I didn\u2019t deserve.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t deserve<\/strong> esas palabras desagradables que me gritaste y los escupitajos en la cara que recib\u00ed. Esto s\u00f3lo te hizo sentir m\u00e1s hombre y eso me destruy\u00f3 por completo<\/a>.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t deserve<\/strong> degradation and being called names. You made me feel like I was nothing only so you could feel the power\u2014the power you tasted when you made me helpless to do anything to save myself.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t deserve<\/strong> despertarme en mitad de la noche cubierta de sudor porque ten\u00eda pesadillas en las que t\u00fa eras la protagonista.<\/p>\n

You weren\u2019t there by my side to see me in agony. You didn\u2019t care what happened to me.<\/p>\n

Lo \u00fanico que te importaba era satisfacer tus necesidades y tu ego\u00edsmo.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t deserve all those anxiety attacks every time I thought or heard of you.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t deserve the lack of love I got from you and most of all, I didn’t deserve you cheating on me.<\/p>\n

Ahora, lo que tengo que decirte es gracias.<\/p>\n

Gracias por hacerme comprender YOU didn\u2019t deserve ME!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Gracias por aquella noche de horror en la que me golpeaste hasta la muerte emocional. S\u00f3lo entonces pude nacer de nuevo.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Esa noche fue la noche en que me diste el coraje para dejarte por fin<\/a>. S\u00e9 que pensabas que todo lo que me hab\u00edas estado haciendo estaba bien, pero estabas muy equivocada.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t treat the woman you love like shit. You don\u2019t bring her to the edge. You don\u2019t destroy her every wish to keep on living.<\/p>\n

En cambio, la conservas como si fuera lo m\u00e1s valioso de tu vida. Porque en el fondo, sabes que es una mujer a la que amar y que fuiste un cabr\u00f3n con suerte al conquistarla.<\/p>\n

With a woman like that, you don\u2019t play mind games nor do you do all those horrible things to her. You cherish her and you thank God every day that you have her in her life.<\/p>\n

But you didn\u2019t do that, did you? You took advantage of her and you destroyed her life forever because even when she managed to get away from you, she wasn\u2019t the same person anymore.<\/p>\n

Mataste a la mujer que sol\u00eda ser y criaste una nueva, perfecta para ti, tal y como te gustaba.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Juraste que la amabas. Cada vez que hac\u00edas otra cosa horrible y ella quer\u00eda irse, le rogabas que se quedara.<\/p>\n

Juraste por tu vida que la quer\u00edas y que quer\u00edas ayudarla. \u00a1Vaya sarta de mentiras!<\/p>\n

But still, there is something I cannot understand. How can a person like you dare to say \u2018I love you\u2019 to anyone? Those three words represent something you can\u2019t comprehend.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t even know why you said that you loved me when you didn’t feel that. Maybe you wanted to deceive me and take advantage of me.<\/p>\n

Maybe deep down, you were a broken man who didn\u2019t know c\u00f3mo amar a una mujer<\/a>As\u00ed que me hiciste todas esas cosas desagradables.<\/p>\n

Tal vez usted realmente pens\u00f3 que ten\u00eda raz\u00f3n, que est\u00e1 haciendo lo correcto. Tal vez usted es tanto de un psic\u00f3pata.<\/p>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Siempre me preguntaba d\u00f3nde est\u00e1 tu conciencia. Siempre me preguntaba si te resulta dif\u00edcil dormir. \u00bfTu mente y tu alma est\u00e1n tranquilas?<\/p>\n

But I never got an answer to those questions. I\u2019m not even sure you ever thought about it because everything you did to me seemed so natural to you.<\/p>\n

You DIDN\u2019T love me. You can\u2019t love anyone. Maybe you just liked the idea of love, so you gave it a try and I was your \u2018guinea pig\u2019. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Pero, d\u00e9jame decirte algo. Fallaste y fallaste duro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Foolishly enough, I was the one who loved you truly but I shouldn\u2019t have loved you at all.<\/p>\n

Yo era el que estaba dispuesto a mover monta\u00f1as por ti y lo \u00fanico que me qued\u00f3 fue un trozo de una de ellas que se desprendi\u00f3 y me golpe\u00f3.<\/p>\n

I was the only one trying and the only one fighting for what you called \u2018eternal love\u2019. And what did I get in the end?<\/p>\n

Tengo cicatrices emocionales que nunca van a sanar. Tengo recuerdos que nunca van a desaparecer.<\/p>\n

Todav\u00eda oigo el eco de tus duras palabras en mi cabeza. Siento que me persiguen y me hacen temblar. Siento fr\u00edo sin motivo y entonces recuerdo que estaba pensando en ti.<\/p>\n

Por aquel entonces, empec\u00e9 a sentirme entumecida cada vez que me insultabas. Pens\u00e9 que era porque me estaba acostumbrando.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo ahora, cuando esas palabras del pasado me persiguen, me doy cuenta de que estaba reprimiendo esos sentimientos para poder sobrevivir.<\/p>\n

Encerr\u00e9 lo que quedaba de m\u00ed en lo m\u00e1s profundo, con la esperanza de encontrarlo alg\u00fan d\u00eda.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Ese era mi mecanismo de defensa y ahora s\u00e9 a qu\u00e9 clase de horror he sobrevivido gracias a ti.<\/p>\n

Now that I\u2019m far away from you, I\u2019m finally aware of how lucky I am to be able to go on living.<\/p>\n

I finally realize how lucky I am to be getting another chance\u2014not just for love, but for life, too. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Ahora me doy cuenta de lo fuerte que soy y esta vez, me prometo que nunca dejar\u00e9 que nadie me haga da\u00f1o como t\u00fa lo hiciste.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mi comportamiento, todo lo que hice y lo que fui, nunca fue lo suficientemente bueno para ti.<\/p>\n

To you, I was a piece of clay ready to be molded. Today, I realize I was already a masterpiece until you ruined me by trying to \u2018improve\u2019 me.<\/p>\n

En el pasado, cuando te amaba, cre\u00eda que eras la luz al final de mi oscuro t\u00fanel. Pero, t\u00fa eras la oscuridad que me reten\u00eda.<\/p>\n

Eras la sombra que me arrastraba m\u00e1s adentro, cada vez que buscaba la luz para salvarme.<\/p>\n

Todo este tiempo fuiste el hombre que me imped\u00eda alcanzar mis metas y hacer realidad mis sue\u00f1os.<\/p>\n

Y lo m\u00e1s triste es que quer\u00edas hacerme creer que me estabas ayudando a levantarme y todo ese tiempo me estabas empujando m\u00e1s profundamente hacia una inmensa nada.<\/p>\n

Aunque pensara que fuiste el amor de mi vida<\/a>en realidad eras mi peor enemigo.<\/p>\n

And truth to be told, I still don\u2019t understand how you could do that to the woman you were living with. How could you tell me that you loved me if you didn\u2019t mean that?<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I guess you were that kind of a man who actually doesn\u2019t give a damn what people think about him.<\/p>\n

And in this case, you didn\u2019t care what I thought of you because if you had, you would have thought first before doing it but when we were together, you always acted and then thought.<\/p>\n

Pero, entonces era demasiado tarde para el perd\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

A person can take just enough. When you think you\u2019ve reached your limit, you\u2019re not there yet. When you think that you can\u2019t take it anymore, you\u2019re not there yet.<\/p>\n

But, when you don\u2019t care anymore, when it\u2019s all the same if you live or die, when the days and nights look completely the same, that\u2019s when you\u2019ve had enough.<\/p>\n

Me hiciste creer en cosas que no son reales. Me intimidaste para que confiara en ti. Me dijiste que era imposible vivir conmigo.<\/p>\n

You told me I was crazy, that I needed help. You told me I was unlovable, but it was you who couldn\u2019t handle me.<\/p>\n

You said that because you saw me doing things that you weren’t capable of. Just because I was stronger than you, you wanted to belittle me and gaslight me.<\/p>\n

Quer\u00edas tener el control sobre m\u00ed. Quer\u00edas gobernarme y tristemente, por un momento lo hiciste.<\/p>\n

Eras mi mal necesario<\/a>el narcisista disfrazado y el hombre que sab\u00eda hacerme sentir como una mierda s\u00f3lo con palabras.<\/p>\n

Sab\u00edas exactamente d\u00f3nde golpear. Sab\u00edas exactamente c\u00f3mo destr\u00fayeme<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de que hayan pasado los a\u00f1os, necesito decirte s\u00f3lo una cosa.<\/em><\/p>\n

The girl you \u2018molded\u2019 into a pitiful, meaningless NOTHING has become a woman who is a powerful and unbreakable SOMETHING.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Gracias por formar parte de mi vida.<\/em><\/p>\n

Gracias por hacerme ver que yo era el \u00fanico que pod\u00eda salvarme.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"Carta<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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