{"id":20873,"date":"2020-05-17T08:03:09","date_gmt":"2020-05-17T08:03:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=20873"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:37:01","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:37:01","slug":"poner-fin-a-una-relacion-de-idas-y-venidas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/poner-fin-a-una-relacion-de-idas-y-venidas\/","title":{"rendered":"10 cosas que hay que hacer para poner fin a una relaci\u00f3n de idas y venidas"},"content":{"rendered":"

Da un paso atr\u00e1s y ve las cosas como son. Est\u00e1s constantemente esperando d\u00edas mejores, que alguien est\u00e9 listo, que alguien cambie, te trate mejor y finalmente se quede pero nunca lo hace.<\/p>\n

En un momento est\u00e1 ah\u00ed, al siguiente no aparece por ninguna parte y te quedas solo, recogiendo los pedazos.<\/p>\n

Este ir y venir que tienes te est\u00e1 cansando.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s making a mess out of your thoughts and feelings. It\u2019s giving you a false sense of belonging while he is there and when he is not, you realize just how unhappy you are with this whole situation.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time to make things better for yourself<\/a> y pide lo que te mereces. Tienes que poner fin a este ir y venir que ten\u00e9is o este escenario se seguir\u00e1 repitiendo hasta que romp\u00e1is del todo.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

It\u2019s time to take a realistic look and see things for what they are, instead of for what you want them to be.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time to give priority to the things you deserve instead of the things that you are getting. It\u2019s time to make some sense out of things.<\/p>\n

Este es el camino que debes seguir si est\u00e1s dispuesto a poner fin a la relaci\u00f3n de idas y venidas en la que est\u00e1s envuelto:<\/p>\n

1. \u00bfCu\u00e1ntas oportunidades est\u00e1s dispuesto a dar?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Esta es la primera pregunta que debes hacerte para poder aclararte.<\/p>\n

Quiz\u00e1 todo el mundo merezca una segunda oportunidad, pero una tercera, una cuarta o todas las siguientes son demasiado.<\/p>\n

Si sigues d\u00e1ndoles infinitas oportunidades, te llevar\u00e1n a una vida de decepciones.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, despu\u00e9s de la segunda oportunidad, no des m\u00e1s oportunidades. Ser\u00e1n en vano. Desperdiciar\u00e1 todas y cada una de ellas.<\/p>\n

2. Talk to friends who are blunt and won\u2019t sugar-coat anything<\/h2>\n

\"Dos<\/p>\n

A veces lo \u00fanico que necesitas es o\u00edr cosas que ya sabes. A veces necesitas o\u00edr que alguien abusa de tu bondad y te da por sentado a ti y a tu coraz\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why you should always turn to your amigos contundentes<\/a> cuando necesites un ba\u00f1o de realidad.<\/p>\n

You know they won\u2019t say things you want to hear but they will certainly say everything that needs to be said to put things into perspective.<\/p>\n

3. \u00bfEst\u00e1s perdiendo la confianza?<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

La verdadera cuesti\u00f3n aqu\u00ed es si conf\u00edas en tu coraz\u00f3n o en tu mente a la hora de tomar decisiones.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s always advisable to follow your heart but you have to take your brain with you.<\/p>\n

The heart can be deceiving at times. That\u2019s why you have to see if the bad outweighs the good, if there is more sadness than happiness, if there is more uneasiness than tranquility. And choose to trust your brain on this one.<\/p>\n

4. Averigua qu\u00e9 es lo que quieres exactamente<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Tienes que tener esa charla contigo mismo sobre las cosas que est\u00e1s dispuesto a tolerar y las que no tolerar\u00e1s bajo ninguna circunstancia.<\/p>\n

Preg\u00fantese si est\u00e1 de acuerdo con la situaci\u00f3n actual. Est\u00e1s satisfecho con esta monta\u00f1a rusa emocional en la que est\u00e1s atrapado?<\/p>\n

Si no es as\u00ed, haz algunos cambios. Crea normas para ti mismo y convi\u00e9rtelas en algo obligatorio.<\/p>\n

You deserve respect, love, loyalty, and investments, so don\u2019t settle for anything half-assed.<\/p>\n

5. Hable con \u00e9l abiertamente<\/h2>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

Once you figure things out for yourself, it\u2019s time to talk to him.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow him to treat you like a mop with which he will wipe his floor. Don\u2019t allow him to come and go from your life as he pleases.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow him to take you for granted or to look at you as a woman who is always there no matter what.<\/p>\n

6. Date cuenta de que vales m\u00e1s<\/h2>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

Te mereces mucho m\u00e1s que este vaiv\u00e9n que tienes montado.<\/p>\n

If you want stability and commitment, don\u2019t settle for less. You shouldn\u2019t be satisfied with the crumbs of affection and attention he is serving you.<\/p>\n

Necesitas a alguien que est\u00e9 seguro de ti. Alguien que se quede pase lo que pase.<\/p>\n

Someone who stays through thick and thin. If he is unwilling to give you all the things you deserve, let him stay gone\u2014you don\u2019t need him in your life.<\/p>\n

7. Deja que se vaya<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

Esta es la parte m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil, pero hay que hacerlo. Llegar\u00e1s a ese punto de inflexi\u00f3n en el que sabr\u00e1s que ya has tenido suficiente.<\/p>\n

Los sentimientos seguir\u00e1n ah\u00ed y alejarte de \u00e9l ser\u00e1 una de las cosas m\u00e1s dif\u00edciles que hayas tenido que hacer. Pero lo har\u00e1s de todos modos y nunca mirar\u00e1s atr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

En ese momento, sabr\u00e1s que te romp\u00eda el coraz\u00f3n pedazo a pedazo cada vez que se iba.<\/p>\n

Que le diste suficientes oportunidades para hacer algunos cambios y tratarte bien pero nunca lo hizo. \u00c9l se quedar\u00e1 sin oportunidades y t\u00fa sin fe en \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

8. Establecer nuevas normas<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Tendr\u00e1s esos d\u00edas de soledad en los que querr\u00e1s enviarle un mensaje, llamarle para que venga o dejarle volver a tu vida, sobre todo con los primeros atisbos de que podr\u00eda estar arrepentido.<\/p>\n

Resist those urges. It\u2019s all temporary. Sometimes you have to be stronger than yourself.<\/p>\n

Cree sus propias normas o siga las de la norma de no contacto<\/a> para sacarlo de tu sistema.<\/p>\n

All you need is time to process things. And though it might be painful to shut him out of your life completely, it\u2019s necessary and you will thank yourself later for it.<\/p>\n

9. Date tiempo para curarte<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t expect that things will get better overnight. Go easy on yourself; you will have your ups and downs, your good and bad days but you will come out of it all thriving.<\/p>\n

Recuerda que siempre eres m\u00e1s fuerte de lo que crees.<\/p>\n

Lo mejor que puedes hacer para que tu proceso de curaci\u00f3n sea m\u00e1s eficaz es trabajar constantemente para sentirte feliz.<\/p>\n

Puedes reinventarte por completo, hacer de tu vida algo de lo que te sientas orgulloso.<\/p>\n

10. D\u00e9jalo atr\u00e1s pero ll\u00e9vate la lecci\u00f3n contigo<\/h2>\n

\"Foto<\/p>\n

One good thing that came out of all of this is that you learned your lessons. You learned so you wouldn\u2019t repeat them.<\/p>\n

You won\u2019t allow anyone else to treat you poorly. You won\u2019t allow being treated like a stop along the way when you are a final destination.<\/p>\n

You won\u2019t settle for someone who is there only halfway \u2014he is all in or he is all out; there is no middle ground here. You just need someone who wants the same things as you do.<\/p>\n

Pronto descubrir\u00e1s que no tener la carga de que \u00e9l entre y salga de tu vida es un gran alivio.<\/p>\n

Ahora tu coraz\u00f3n est\u00e1 tranquilo y no hay nada que cambiar\u00edas por esa sensaci\u00f3n de paz y armon\u00eda.<\/p>\n

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