{"id":20932,"date":"2020-07-18T10:10:52","date_gmt":"2020-07-18T10:10:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=20932"},"modified":"2022-02-27T10:33:09","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T10:33:09","slug":"la-verdad-sobre-ser-nada-mas-que-un-plan-de-respaldo-para-alguien-que-amabas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/la-verdad-sobre-ser-nada-mas-que-un-plan-de-respaldo-para-alguien-que-amabas\/","title":{"rendered":"La verdad sobre no ser m\u00e1s que un plan de apoyo para alguien a quien amabas de verdad"},"content":{"rendered":"

Si tuviera que describir mi vida en una palabra, ser\u00eda \"esperar\". Siempre estaba esperando algo. Esperaba sus mensajes y sus llamadas.<\/p>\n

I waited for him to find time for me. I waited for him to say, \u201cI love you\u201d. I waited for him to be ready for a relationship. I waited for him to chose me, but he never did.<\/p>\n

The sad part is, and it\u2019s all but easy to admit, I would probably still be waiting if he hadn\u2019t left me. I would still be settling for his empty words and false promises.<\/p>\n

Todav\u00eda estar\u00eda bien con ser su plan de respaldo<\/a>. Todav\u00eda me aferrar\u00eda a la esperanza de que algo cambie dentro de \u00e9l y acabemos juntos.<\/p>\n

I kept lying to myself. I lied that I was fine with the way things were. I lied that I didn\u2019t need labels. <\/strong><\/p>\n

I lied about being laid back and relaxed, a \u2018whatever happens – happens\u2019 kind of girl. I lied because I wanted him in my life so badly and that was the only way I could have him.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I chose to ignore all the red flags flying before my eyes, warning me to stay away. I couldn\u2019t help but see them. He said to me that no est\u00e1 preparado para una relaci\u00f3n<\/a> just yet, and like a fool, I kept holding on to the \u201cjust yet\u201d part of the sentence, thinking that things will change in the future.<\/p>\n

Invent\u00e9 excusas para su comportamiento pensando que lo \u00fanico que necesitaba era m\u00e1s tiempo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Esperando a que \u00e9l se enamorara de m\u00ed, yo segu\u00eda enamor\u00e1ndome de \u00e9l cada vez m\u00e1s. Mi enamoramiento de \u00e9l se convirti\u00f3 en amor y esperaba que a \u00e9l le ocurriera lo mismo.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

A medida que me iba encari\u00f1ando m\u00e1s y m\u00e1s, segu\u00eda interpretando todas las se\u00f1ales como yo quer\u00eda verlas.<\/p>\n

Todas las peque\u00f1as muestras de afecto que me daba me parec\u00edan grandiosas. Viv\u00eda de las atenciones que me daba, aunque nunca eran suficientes.<\/p>\n

Siempre me sent\u00eda privado. Siempre anhelaba m\u00e1s, pero me conformaba con menos porque sent\u00eda que no ten\u00eda otra opci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Se preocupaba por m\u00ed. Eso lo s\u00e9. Estoy segura de ello incluso ahora. Pero nunca me am\u00f3. No de la forma en que yo lo amaba.<\/strong> S\u00f3lo me quer\u00eda a medias. Yo s\u00f3lo ten\u00eda un peque\u00f1o lugar en su coraz\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Me quer\u00eda como si fuera su plan de reserva mientras todo mi coraz\u00f3n era suyo. Mientras yo so\u00f1aba con nuestra vida con \u00e9l, \u00e9l siempre supo que no estaba all\u00ed para quedarse.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why my entire heart got shattered into millions of little pieces and I still haven\u2019t gathered them all. On the other hand, his remained whole, undamaged, untouched because he was never mine like I was his.<\/em><\/p>\n

Fue mi mayor amor y mi mayor y m\u00e1s dura lecci\u00f3n.<\/strong> He taught me that if love doesn\u2019t go both ways, it\u2019s worthless. He taught me that hurt can be even greater when you are in something that doesn\u2019t have labels and doesn\u2019t promise commitment.<\/p>\n

Me ense\u00f1\u00f3 que tengo que respetarme lo suficiente y esperar lo que merezco.<\/strong> That I shouldn\u2019t chase after anyone, telling them how great we could be together if they don\u2019t see it themselves.<\/p>\n

That my love alone wasn\u2019t enough. That I am stronger than I think and that I can make myself happy.<\/p>\n

Y lo que es m\u00e1s importante, me ense\u00f1\u00f3 que deb\u00eda never settle for being somebody\u2019s backup plan<\/a> when I deserve to be somebody’s first and only option.<\/p>\n

\"LA<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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