{"id":21275,"date":"2018-07-27T07:35:41","date_gmt":"2018-07-27T07:35:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21275"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:03:25","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:03:25","slug":"asi-es-como-dejaras-que-tu-carga-emocional-arruine-tu-proxima-relacion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/asi-es-como-dejaras-que-tu-carga-emocional-arruine-tu-proxima-relacion\/","title":{"rendered":"As\u00ed es como dejar\u00e1s que tu equipaje emocional arruine tu pr\u00f3xima relaci\u00f3n"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hace falta mucho valor y fuerza para poner fin a una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica y emocionalmente negativa. <\/span>relaci\u00f3n abusiva<\/span><\/a> which doesn\u2019t make you happy. Something like this doesn\u2019t happen overnight. It is a painful process and it takes a lot of self-introspection, self-love and power to walk away from someone who is doing you harm.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you finally achieve this, when you get rid of the relationship that is hurting you, you think you\u2019ve done all the work. You think you are more than ready to completely move on with your life and that you\u2019ve completely gotten over the man who has caused you so much pain.<\/span><\/p>\n

Siento ser yo quien te decepcione y te lo diga, pero la verdad es que tu <\/span>proceso de curaci\u00f3n<\/span><\/a> doesn\u2019t end there.<\/span><\/p>\n

La verdad es que es posible que sigas cargando con mucho equipaje emocional cuando entres en una nueva relaci\u00f3n. Y lo peor es que a veces ni siquiera eres consciente de las cosas a las que te aferras, incluso a\u00f1os despu\u00e9s de tu dolorosa ruptura.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cuando terminas una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica, lo \u00fanico que quieres es olvidar que existi\u00f3. Y piensas que la mejor forma de hacerlo ser\u00eda involucrarte con alguien nuevo, alguien que pueda ayudarte a superar al chico que te ha hecho da\u00f1o.<\/b><\/p>\n

But sadly, this is not always the best recipe for happiness. Because there are times when you actually haven\u2019t gotten over everything that happened to you and you are just lying to yourself that you did.<\/b><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong<\/span>\u2014<\/span>this doesn\u2019t mean you still love your ex. It just means that the scars of everything he did to you are still fresh, regardless of what you might think.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know because this is something I\u2019ve been through. I allowed the emotional baggage from my previous relationship to ruin something beautiful I started building with a new guy I met.<\/b><\/p>\n

And all of it happened because the timing was wrong. Actually, it all happened because my timing was wrong\u2014I obviously wasn\u2019t ready to start something new but I didn\u2019t want to admit it to myself.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cuando conoc\u00ed a este chico, estaba entusiasmada y emocionada porque por fin me hab\u00eda permitido que me gustara alguien nuevo. <\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019d shown myself that I could talk to another guy, that I could find him attractive and that I could even fall in love with someone other than my ex.<\/span><\/p>\n

Y al principio, me convenc\u00ed a m\u00ed misma de que estaba a\u00fan m\u00e1s enamorada de lo que realmente estaba.<\/span><\/p>\n

I felt like I was on top of the world because I\u2019d finally managed to get over that man from my past who had done me so much harm.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pero cuando la excitaci\u00f3n inicial desapareci\u00f3, todo lo de mi pasado apareci\u00f3 a la superficie.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ahora me doy cuenta de que ten\u00eda <\/span>trauma por abandono<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Siempre buscaba se\u00f1ales e indicios de que mi novio me dejar\u00eda igual que mi ex. <\/b><\/p>\n

I started doubting my own worth, because my ex managed to convince me that I was and never would be good enough or worthy of someone\u2019s love.<\/span><\/p>\n

Y si \u00e9l me dej\u00f3 despu\u00e9s de todo lo que pasamos, \u00bfqu\u00e9 le imped\u00eda a este tipo hacer lo mismo?<\/span><\/p>\n

Estaba convencida de que me enga\u00f1ar\u00eda, igual que mi ex.<\/b><\/p>\n

Que todo ir\u00eda genial entre nosotros y que, de repente, le ver\u00eda con otra mujer.<\/span><\/p>\n

This happened because my ex tried hard to convince me that cheating is in every man\u2019s blood and that it is almost natural. And he succeeded in convincing me.<\/span><\/p>\n

Although I had no reason to doubt my new boyfriend\u2019s fidelity, that was exactly what I was doing all along.<\/span><\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t believe that there existed a man who would be faithful to me, when there were so many more beautiful and smarter women all around him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Durante mucho tiempo, este chico intent\u00f3 ganarse mi confianza. Fue paciente y trat\u00f3 de demostrarme que me quer\u00eda y que no ten\u00eda motivos para preocuparme.<\/span><\/p>\n

But I couldn\u2019t believe him. I knew my fears were irrational but deep down, I was convinced that he was putting an effort into our relationship just so he could get under my skin. <\/span><\/p>\n

Y cuando por fin lo consiguiera, cuando por fin le demostrara mi amor, ver\u00eda que pod\u00eda tratarme como quisiera.<\/span><\/p>\n

Y finalmente, <\/b>he\u2019d break my heart<\/b><\/a>de la misma manera que mi ex.<\/b><\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de un tiempo, se cans\u00f3 de m\u00ed y se fue.<\/span><\/p>\n

And I can\u2019t say I blame him.<\/b><\/p>\n

I blame myself for not facing this emotional baggage in time and for thinking that it would go away, if I just pretended it didn\u2019t exist.<\/b><\/p>\n

Me culpo por no haberle dado a este tipo la oportunidad de demostrarme que estaba equivocada.<\/span><\/p>\n

Me culpo por permitir que mi relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica arruinara mi oportunidad de ser feliz.<\/span><\/p>\n

Me culpo por no haber sabido hacerlo mejor y por permitir que mi manipulador ex se metiera en mi cabeza y me controlara incluso despu\u00e9s de dejarme.<\/span><\/p>\n

Me culpo por permitir que la carga emocional de mi pasado tenga un impacto tan grande en mi nueva relaci\u00f3n. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It takes an enormous amount of courage and strength to end a toxic and emotionally abusive relationship which doesn\u2019t make you happy. Something like this doesn\u2019t happen overnight. It is a painful process and it takes a lot of self-introspection, self-love and power to walk away from someone who is doing you harm. When you…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":21276,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21275","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/tristan-colangelo-354867-unsplash-1.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21275","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21275"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21275\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21276"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21275"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21275"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21275"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}