{"id":21282,"date":"2018-07-27T10:14:28","date_gmt":"2018-07-27T10:14:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21282"},"modified":"2022-01-09T17:54:08","modified_gmt":"2022-01-09T17:54:08","slug":"asi-es-como-me-desenamore-de-el-no-lo-hice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/asi-es-como-me-desenamore-de-el-no-lo-hice\/","title":{"rendered":"As\u00ed es como me desenamor\u00e9 de \u00e9l (no lo hice)"},"content":{"rendered":"

I went through a break-up. A very hard, very devastating break-up where the man I loved turned out to be a jerk, who wasn’t even aware of the fact that I loved him with all my being, with everything I was, and he was able to just walk away like nothing ever happened. <\/span><\/p>\n

Se rindi\u00f3 conmigo. <\/span><\/p>\n

He gave up on us. But I am not trying to tell you a pathetic story of a girl who wasn’t able to live past the break-up and she never <\/span>se enamor\u00f3<\/span><\/a> otra vez. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quiero contarte la historia de c\u00f3mo me desenamor\u00e9 de \u00e9l.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whenever my friends would talk about someone they loved very much they would say the most awful things, from, \u201cI don’t ever want to hear from him again,\u201d to, \u201cI hope his next girl cheats on him, like he cheated on me.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n

Let me tell you that their words weren’t really doing me any good in my recovery and healing process after my break-up, because they tried to teach me to hate him, to despise him. But I didn’t hate him. I felt the opposite. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo puedo odiar a alguien a quien hab\u00eda apreciado tanto apenas unos d\u00edas antes?<\/span><\/p>\n

Vi a las mujeres a mi alrededor superar a los hombres como superar\u00edan algo peque\u00f1o, algo insignificante.<\/b><\/p>\n

Of course, I would be lying if I said that they didn’t cry but they would drown their tears in tequila and vodka. <\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca los entend\u00ed, nunca quise hacerlo as\u00ed porque siempre acababan <\/span>profundizando sus heridas<\/span><\/a> que no les trajo nada bueno.<\/span><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que opt\u00e9 por adoptar mi propio enfoque y desenamorarme de una forma totalmente nueva. No digo que mi manera sea la correcta, pero funciona y soy feliz. <\/b><\/p>\n

It doesn’t involve alcohol or drunk-texting, it doesn’t involve bad-mouthing my ex and so on. It includes me. Me, myself and I.<\/b><\/p>\n

I closed the gap in my heart with love. I didn’t want hatred to consume me, I didn’t want to be jealous of a new woman in his life. <\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo sent\u00ed amor, por \u00e9l, por m\u00ed y por nuestras vidas que ahora est\u00e1n separadas. <\/span><\/p>\n

That’s why I like to say that I don’t want to fall out of love with him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Eventually, one day, when I bump into him on the street, my heart won’t feel that well-known feeling of being home, that feeling of safety and security. <\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe that day my heart won’t skip a beat and it won’t make me wish that things would have happened another way, because maybe, just maybe, he would stay. That day I will be able to say that <\/span>Estoy por encima de \u00e9l<\/span><\/a> y que he seguido adelante.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfPero hoy? Hoy s\u00f3lo siento amor.<\/b> Of course, it’s mixed with sadness and sometimes a little bit of grief but mostly I am happier that it happened at all. I just imagine my life without him ever being in it and I know I wouldn’t be this person I am today. That is why I am grateful. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mis amigos me dicen que debo de estar loca porque siempre hablo de \u00e9l con una sonrisa en la cara y piensan que estoy fingiendo, cuando en realidad lo \u00fanico que hago es aceptar mis sentimientos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Estoy aceptando el hecho de que se ha acabado.<\/b><\/p>\n

I am accepting the fact that he isn’t in my life anymore. I also accept the way I still love him, because that is the way I will let go. That is the way I am slowly moving on from him. <\/span><\/p>\n

I didn’t fall out of love with him just yet but just you wait until a day arises where my heart won’t yearn for him\u2014not even a little bit.<\/span><\/p>\n

Siempre he amado mi vida y seguir\u00e9 am\u00e1ndola. Por qu\u00e9 iba a romper las piezas que me han hecho ser quien soy? <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 iba a llenar mis d\u00edas de odio cuando puedo amar incondicionalmente como he hecho hasta ahora? <\/span><\/p>\n

Le quise lo suficiente como para decir que me alegro de que sea feliz, conmigo o sin m\u00ed. Y me alegro de quererme a m\u00ed misma a pesar de que<\/span> me dej\u00f3<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Estoy tan contenta de poder amarme tan amablemente ahora, cuando m\u00e1s lo necesito, sin juzgarme, sin preguntarme si he sido lo suficientemente buena. S\u00e9 que lo he hecho lo mejor que he podido.<\/span><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que esta es mi historia de c\u00f3mo me desenamor\u00e9 de un hombre que simplemente me dej\u00f3<\/a>\u2014I didn’t stop feeling all those feelings, I just recognized the fact that I can’t change them right away. <\/b><\/p>\n

Pero llegar\u00e9 al punto de la liberaci\u00f3n, donde dir\u00e9 que realmente me desenamor\u00e9 de \u00e9l.<\/b><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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