{"id":21330,"date":"2020-04-30T09:42:19","date_gmt":"2020-04-30T09:42:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21330"},"modified":"2021-08-11T19:42:25","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T19:42:25","slug":"estas-forzando-tu-relacion-para-que-dure-12-maneras-de-saberlo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/estas-forzando-tu-relacion-para-que-dure-12-maneras-de-saberlo\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfEst\u00e1s forzando tu relaci\u00f3n para que dure? 12 maneras de saberlo"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 seguimos creyendo en un \"felices para siempre\" incluso cuando todo a nuestro alrededor se desmorona?<\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 seguimos pensando que la gente va a cambiar, que las cosas se van a arreglar y que al final todo va a salir bien?<\/p>\n

Nos aferramos con fuerza a esa idea del amor incluso cuando el amor se ha ido. Seguimos buscando un milagro porque ya no hay nada m\u00e1s que hacer. Ya lo hemos intentado todo.<\/p>\n

We gave our best. We fought with all we had. But it wasn\u2019t enough. It will never be enough because love can\u2019t be forced. There is no need to change ourself to find or keep love.<\/p>\n

No hace falta ir m\u00e1s all\u00e1 para que dos personas encajen. No hay necesidad porque cuando el amor es real<\/a>Incluso las piezas m\u00e1s imperfectas encajan a la perfecci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Love shouldn\u2019t be so difficult. Sure, it requires work but it also requires two people who would do anything for each other.<\/p>\n

Dos personas que hacen que quererse sea f\u00e1cil incluso cuando todo lo dem\u00e1s es dif\u00edcil.<\/p>\n

Aunque en el fondo sabemos todo eso, deseamos tanto que las cosas funcionen que nos quedamos aunque deber\u00edamos habernos ido hace mucho tiempo.<\/p>\n

Nuestras emociones y deseos nos nublan la vista y somos incapaces de ver con claridad.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why it\u2019s time you open your eyes and ask yourself if you are forcing your relationship and you can find the answer in these signs:<\/p>\n

1. Est\u00e1is intentando cambiaros el uno al otro<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

If you are trying to mold a person to fit your expectations, it\u2019s never going to happen.<\/p>\n

O se aceptan por lo que son o simplemente se enfrentan al hecho de que no son compatibles.<\/p>\n

La gente cambia, pero s\u00f3lo cuando quiere o siente la necesidad de hacerlo.<\/p>\n

Si te sorprendes a ti mismo pensando que si hicieran esto o aquello todo ser\u00eda perfecto, es que tienes un problema mucho mayor de lo que crees.<\/p>\n

2. Pasar tiempo juntos se siente como una obligaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

\u201cWe haven’t hung out in a long while so we should tonight,\u201d isn\u2019t the kind of love story you wanted to be in.<\/p>\n

Si sientes que pasar tiempo con la persona con la que est\u00e1s es tu deber y no tu placer, vas cuesta abajo.<\/p>\n

Deber\u00edas desear pasar un tiempo a solas con tu pareja aunque llev\u00e9is mucho tiempo juntos.<\/p>\n

There is a big difference between \u201cwe have to\u201d and \u201cwe want to\u201d spend time together.<\/p>\n

3. El silencio es ensordecedor<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

You forgot how to communicate. You don\u2019t talk to each other anymore, not really.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo habl\u00e1is de cosas cotidianas al azar. Ya no hay conversaciones profundas o que demuestren que todav\u00eda te importa.<\/p>\n

There are no sweet words, only silence. You used to make an effort to show affection in the past and it was ignored. That\u2019s the reason you stopped trying.<\/p>\n

4. You know how to push each other’s buttons<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

To continue with bad communication skills, pushing each other’s buttons is one more major issue.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t tolerate anything anymore and every little thing annoys you. Your talking turned into bickering, arguing and sarcastic remarks.<\/p>\n

If you really think long and hard, you won\u2019t be able to recall the last time you had a decent conversation.<\/p>\n

5. Te preguntas si el amor debe sentirse realmente como un sacrificio<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Making compromises is an integral part of any relationship. But making them doesn\u2019t mean changing your essence to please somebody else.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean bending over backward and sacrificing your happiness to make somebody else happy and content.<\/p>\n

Making compromises means meeting each other halfway. It means bending a little every now and then to make the person you love happy. It doesn\u2019t involve self-sacrifice.<\/p>\n

6. No paras de decirle a todo el mundo lo genial que es tu pareja<\/h2>\n

\"dos<\/p>\n

Al hablar sin parar de lo buena, encantadora o cari\u00f1osa que es tu pareja a todo el mundo que te rodea, incluso en las redes sociales, en realidad est\u00e1s intentando convencerte a ti mismo de que todo eso es verdad.<\/p>\n

You want to make yourself believe that things couldn\u2019t be better, when deep down you know that\u2019s far from the truth.<\/p>\n

Te concentras en mostrar un exterior perfecto aunque el interior de tu relaci\u00f3n est\u00e9 podrido.<\/p>\n

7. Te encuentras pensando en tus relaciones anteriores<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1s pensando en todas las cosas que tu ex hizo bien y lo echas de menos.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1s pensando en todas las cosas que \u00e9l hab\u00eda hecho mal y te das cuenta de que el mismo patr\u00f3n se repite en la forma de tu nueva pareja.<\/p>\n

This is not a sign that you need to get back together with your ex. It\u2019s just a big warning sign that something is not right in your current relationship.<\/p>\n

8. Inconscientemente preguntas qu\u00e9 m\u00e1s hay ah\u00ed fuera.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Cheating is the last thing on your mind and you wouldn\u2019t even dream of doing it.<\/p>\n

But every time you hear somebody who is usually your type being on the market again you can\u2019t help but be a tiny bit happy.<\/p>\n

Su mirada tiene la costumbre de desviarse cada vez que alguien atractivo se cruza en su camino.<\/p>\n

Te sorprendes a ti mismo pensando en c\u00f3mo ser\u00eda tu vida si estuvieras con otra persona.<\/p>\n

9. Piensa en los viejos tiempos<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Como en los dos signos anteriores, est\u00e1s escapando de la realidad y no est\u00e1s viviendo el aqu\u00ed y el ahora.<\/p>\n

Your mind goes to the beginning of your relationship where everything was good, where you couldn\u2019t wait to see your partner and spend time with him.<\/p>\n

Tener grandes recuerdos del pasado es algo valioso, pero confiar en ellos para sobrellevar el d\u00eda con m\u00e1s facilidad es algo que debe preocuparnos.<\/p>\n

10. Te est\u00e1s echando toda la culpa a ti mismo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Intenta constantemente averiguar qu\u00e9 ha hecho mal. Te preocupa pedir demasiado y ser duro con tu pareja.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s easier to blame yourself and lower your standards than face that your relationship just isn\u2019t functioning and it really doesn\u2019t matter whose fault it is.<\/p>\n

11. Le aterroriza estar solo<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Cuando piensas en la posible ruptura, lo \u00fanico que temes es quedarte solo y no continuar tu vida sin esa persona en ella.<\/p>\n

Is it really worth it to stay in a relationship that is not functioning or with a partner you are not happy with solely because you don\u2019t want to be alone? Of course not. You are just making things worse for the both of you.<\/p>\n

12. El sexo est\u00e1 casi fuera de juego<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Your sex life is an integral part of the relationship. It\u2019s what sets apart friendship from a relationship.<\/p>\n

Si falta algo en ese \u00e1mbito, es sin duda un indicador de que las cosas no van bien.<\/p>\n

Sex doesn\u2019t have to be as often as when you first started but it has to exist and it has to exist often.<\/p>\n

Si has perdido la qu\u00edmica y la atracci\u00f3n que antes compart\u00edas con tu pareja, ser\u00e1 dif\u00edcil recuperarla.<\/p>\n

\"\u00bfEst\u00e1s<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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