{"id":22024,"date":"2018-08-20T07:52:07","date_gmt":"2018-08-20T07:52:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=22024"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:37:07","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:37:07","slug":"odio-esperar-es-por-eso-que-apesto-en-las-citas-modernas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/odio-esperar-es-por-eso-que-apesto-en-las-citas-modernas\/","title":{"rendered":"Odio esperar... Por eso soy tan mala en las citas modernas"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Las citas modernas parecen tan sencillas, pero son tan complicadas. El camino que lleva de las citas a una relaci\u00f3n real es tan largo y agotador que te agota incluso antes de empezar un romance.<\/p>\n<p>Patience is not one of my strong suits&#8230;especially when it comes to modern dating. I hate playing games and acting like I don\u2019t care when I actually do.<\/p>\n<p>Odio todos los c\u00e1lculos y la planificaci\u00f3n cuando se trata de <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/10-senales-de-alarma-que-nunca-debes-ignorar\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">mensajes de texto<\/a>. \u00bfQui\u00e9n envi\u00f3 primero el mensaje? \u00bfDeber\u00eda retrasar mi respuesta? Si env\u00edo esto, \u00bfparecer\u00e9 demasiado necesitado? etc.<\/p>\n<p><em><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/10-senales-de-alarma-que-nunca-debes-ignorar\/\">Pensar y darle demasiadas vueltas a cada movimiento es frustrante. Acaba con la diversi\u00f3n de las citas.<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why I send a reply right away if I feel like it. I text first without giving it a second thought. I ignore when something doesn\u2019t sit right with me.<\/p>\n<p>No tengo miedo de admitir lo que siento aunque eso me haga parecer raro. Me gusta hablar las cosas y saber a qu\u00e9 atenerme. De lo contrario, siento que estoy perdiendo el tiempo.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>I get accused of moving too fast and being too clingy when I am just being realistic. Shouldn\u2019t you know after a month of dating if you want to enter a relationship or not?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>En las citas modernas, parece que no. Se tarda varios meses, o en el peor de los casos a\u00f1os, en determinar si se est\u00e1 en una relaci\u00f3n exclusiva o no.<\/p>\n<p>It takes riding emotional roller coasters with men who don\u2019t know what they want&#8230;who are afraid of relationships and any sort of commitment.<\/p>\n<p>Hay que pasarse los d\u00edas y las noches hablando, enviando mensajes de texto y snapchat a alguien, y dejarle entrar en tu coraz\u00f3n s\u00f3lo para que pueda fantasmear contigo como si nunca hubieras existido y dejarte pregunt\u00e1ndote qu\u00e9 pas\u00f3 y d\u00f3nde te equivocaste.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Isn\u2019t it better to know where you stand with somebody as soon as possible?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>It doesn&#8217;t have to be on your first date, but a month of dating, calling, texting and browsing through social media accounts should be more than enough if you ask me.<\/p>\n<p>The longer the courtship or the dating game, the more you get attached to a certain person. You get so involved and so hooked, and if it doesn\u2019t work out, it\u2019s so much harder to get over them.<\/p>\n<p>The more time you had with them, the more memories you created, and you felt like you are actually with them. But deep down, you know you have been strung along into something \u2018almost\u2019.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>I hate that. I had that, and I don\u2019t want to waste my time on anyone who is <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/ensartando-a-lo-largo-de-9-maneras-dicen\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">d\u00e1ndome largas<\/a>.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>I want to know what I mean to someone, and I want to know it as soon as possible. If we are compatible, if we\u2019ve clicked and want to give ourselves a chance to start a relationship, why not try it right away?<\/p>\n<p>What\u2019s the point in waiting for forever when you know those things right away? You feel them from the start or you don\u2019t feel them at all.<\/p>\n<p>I am impatient; I know. But after I know that I am somebody&#8217;s girlfriend, I will slow down my pace without even trying. I will feel safe around that special somebody, and there will be no need to rush.<\/p>\n<p>I won\u2019t picture going down the aisle or having kids so early on. I am not that type. I want to build a relationship. I want to see if we can be happy together. I want to know if we can solve any obstacle that comes our way.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>That\u2019s the point at which I want to take things extra slow. I want to enjoy every second of it. If we don\u2019t make it, at least we tried. We were brave enough to give ourselves a chance for love.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>We weren\u2019t <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/is-he-hiding-his-feelings-or-is-he-not-interested-10-ways-to-tell-the-difference\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">ocultar nuestros sentimientos<\/a>...enviando se\u00f1ales contradictorias, jugando con nuestras mentes o complic\u00e1ndonos la vida. Nos armamos de valor y nos lanzamos a por el amor.<\/p>\n<p>Bluntness, clarity and knowing that I am walking on the same path with somebody. That\u2019s all I want and all I am not getting in this modern dating world.<\/p>\n<p>I know I suck at modern dating, and I know that\u2019s mostly due to the fact that I am impatient and wear my heart on my sleeve. I know, and I don\u2019t care. I am who I am, and I won\u2019t change.<\/p>\n<p>I hate waiting, but I am going to wait for someone who knows what he wants and isn\u2019t afraid of saying it aloud.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Voy a esperar a alguien que apeste en las citas modernas tanto como yo.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Modern dating seems so simple, yet it\u2019s so complicated. The road that leads from dating to an actual relationship is so long and exhausting that it wears you out before you even begin a romance. Patience is not one of my strong suits&#8230;especially when it comes to modern dating. I hate playing games and acting&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":22025,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-22024","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/valentin-lacoste-784963-unsplash.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22024","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=22024"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/22024\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/22025"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=22024"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=22024"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=22024"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}