{"id":22278,"date":"2020-09-27T11:35:05","date_gmt":"2020-09-27T11:35:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=22278"},"modified":"2022-02-10T02:24:58","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T02:24:58","slug":"la-importancia-de-elegirte-a-ti-mismo-por-encima-de-tu-relacion-abusiva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/la-importancia-de-elegirte-a-ti-mismo-por-encima-de-tu-relacion-abusiva\/","title":{"rendered":"La importancia de elegirte a ti mismo por encima de tu relaci\u00f3n abusiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

A ti. S\u00ed, t\u00fa.<\/span><\/p>\n

Con tu alma cansada y tu coraz\u00f3n lleno de cicatrices. Con tus pedazos rotos y el pensamiento en tu cabeza de que deber\u00eda ser as\u00ed.<\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, you. It’s time for you to finally <\/span>el\u00edgete a ti mismo<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Debe ser dif\u00edcil para ti creer que hay vida despu\u00e9s de \u00e9l. Despu\u00e9s de esas discusiones est\u00fapidas y violentas y despu\u00e9s de todas esas veces que te arrastr\u00f3 a su mundo, sin que te dieras cuenta.<\/b><\/p>\n

You have tried too many times to leave but I guess after those countless times, you have decided that it’s easier to stay than to deal with his anger.<\/span><\/p>\n

It didn’t take you long to realize that he only had two expressions on his face when he talked to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Either he wasn’t even looking at you while talking, making you feel invisible and unimportant. Or it was that bloodthirsty anger while he was trying to show you that you were nothing more than a pawn in his little game.<\/span><\/p>\n

I am truly sorry that you had to go through this. I am so sorry that you couldn’t choose yourself for far too long now.<\/b><\/p>\n

Pero no hay mayor importancia en este momento que llevar tu bondad, tu amor y tu vida tan lejos de \u00e9l como puedas.<\/span><\/p>\n

You know that he is not the one you should have fallen for. But whenever he tells you that he is the one who ‘saved you’, the one who is making you ‘a woman’, you back down.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00bfDe verdad crees que es \u00e9l quien est\u00e1 salvando? \u00c9l te desea m\u00e1s y te necesita m\u00e1s de lo que t\u00fa nunca le necesitar\u00e1s.<\/span><\/p>\n

Necesita saber que siempre podr\u00e1 tenerte porque la idea de que te vayas le vuelve loco.<\/b><\/p>\n

En el momento en que pongas un pie al otro lado de la puerta, en el momento en que decidas no volver a mirar atr\u00e1s, tu vida cambiar\u00e1.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pero nunca volver\u00e1s a ser el mismo t\u00fa.<\/span><\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de un tiempo de aislamiento, trabajando en ti mismo y en tus traumas, seguir\u00e1s teniendo miedo a las discusiones, a levantar la voz y a que alguien te mire.<\/b><\/p>\n

You will find yourself wondering if things will ever be the same as before and let me tell you that they won’t.<\/span><\/p>\n

But that’s fine.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cuanto antes te vayas, mejor ser\u00e1.<\/span><\/p>\n

Elegirte a ti mismo por encima de tu relaci\u00f3n abusiva es enfrentarse a lo que pas\u00f3 y decir que est\u00e1 bien.<\/span><\/p>\n

You couldn’t have done anything different at that time and asking yourself ‘what if’ won’t do you any good.<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s OK because you will never again find yourself in that same situation and there will never be anyone else telling you that you are unworthy.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Hay muy pocos por ah\u00ed pasando por lo mismo que t\u00fa y nunca acaban eligi\u00e9ndose a s\u00ed mismos.<\/span><\/p>\n

But you have always had the strength to get through the toughest times as a winner, so this is the right time to stand up and tell yourself that you are more in love with who you will become than with a man who doesn’t know how to love you.<\/b><\/p>\n

Choose yourself. Choose yourself because you deserve to be someone’s priority, finally.<\/span><\/p>\n

Choose yourself because it’s finally time to respect yourself enough and to start from the very beginning.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ahora mismo puede resultarte extra\u00f1o, porque una vida sin \u00e9l es algo a lo que no est\u00e1s acostumbrada. Pero cuando <\/span>se acabaron las secuelas<\/span><\/a>Cuando vuelvas a florecer, ver\u00e1s que todo lo que has pasado ha merecido la pena.<\/span><\/p>\n

En el momento en que decides elegirte a ti mismo <\/span>sobre su abuso<\/span><\/a> es cuando te dar\u00e1s cuenta de que no hab\u00eda nada que te impidiera hacerlo mucho antes.<\/span><\/p>\n

But what is important for you right now is to love yourself and keep on choosing yourself for the rest of your life because that is the proper way to live, without anyone ever having the nerve to treat you like you’re something less.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"la<\/p>\n

Espero que seas capaz de ver tu propia vida bajo otra luz, de verte como realmente eres y no como \u00e9l te hizo verte.<\/b><\/p>\n

Espero que una ma\u00f1ana te despiertes y te des cuenta de que elegirte a ti mismo es <\/span>un acto de amor propio<\/span><\/a>...m\u00e1s poderoso que cualquier otra cosa.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n espero m\u00e1s que nada que nunca vuelvas al hombre<\/a> que te hizo esto. Al hombre que nunca te hizo sentir que eras suficiente.<\/span><\/p>\n

Espero que, cuando llegue el d\u00eda adecuado, una vez que haya pasado alg\u00fan tiempo y vuelvas a sentirte segura, alguien te toque suavemente y con todo el amor del mundo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Espero que este nuevo hombre que dejes entrar en tu vida nunca te haga sentir como te has sentido todo este tiempo. Porque este hombre te amar\u00e1 y ser\u00e1 amable y cari\u00f1oso.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1 todo lo que siempre has deseado en un hombre.<\/span><\/p>\n

But you can’t get that if you don’t choose yourself.<\/b><\/p>\n

Hoy y todos los d\u00edas siguientes.<\/b><\/p>\n

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