{"id":2289,"date":"2020-07-07T07:56:07","date_gmt":"2020-07-07T07:56:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=2289"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:05:40","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:05:40","slug":"todas-las-chicas-han-perdido-alguna-vez-a-un-hombre-toxico","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/todas-las-chicas-han-perdido-alguna-vez-a-un-hombre-toxico\/","title":{"rendered":"A todas las chicas que se han perdido por un hombre t\u00f3xico"},"content":{"rendered":"

Siempre me he preguntado si alguna vez volver\u00e9 a la normalidad, si volver\u00e9 a ser la persona que sol\u00eda ser. Las relaciones deber\u00edan hacerte la vida m\u00e1s feliz.<\/p>\r\n

Deben a\u00f1adir valor a tu vida y hacerte una persona mejor o m\u00e1s feliz, o en realidad hacer ambas cosas.<\/p>\r\n

When dating the right person you get all the love you deserve, but what happens when you date the \u2018wrong\u2019 guy?<\/p>\r\n

Durante demasiado tiempo, me avergonc\u00e9 Me qued\u00e9 tanto tiempo en una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica<\/a>. I was ashamed to admit I wasn\u2019t strong enough to save myself.<\/p>\r\n

Estuve demasiado tiempo unida a un hombre t\u00f3xico.<\/p>\r\n

The worst part is I still get shivers down my spine when thinking about where would I be today if I hadn\u2019t done it, if I hadn’t left.<\/p>\r\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien que me hizo perder mi autoestima.<\/h2>\r\n

\"mujer<\/p>\r\n

Porque me envolvi\u00f3 con el dedo y yo se lo permit\u00ed. Yo era d\u00e9bil e incapaz de luchar contra \u00e9l.<\/p>\r\n

I had no idea how to stand against him and for far too long, I hadn\u2019t any idea what he was doing to me.<\/p>\r\n

Hab\u00eda perdido toda mi autoestima y permit\u00ed que \u00e9l tomara mis decisiones.<\/p>\r\n

Ver tambi\u00e9n: As\u00ed es como una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica mat\u00f3 a mi mejor amiga<\/p>\r\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien que me hizo perder la confianza en m\u00ed misma.<\/h2>\r\n

\"<\/p>\r\n

Olvid\u00e9 c\u00f3mo ser feliz. Porque siempre me preocupaba mi aspecto o mi comportamiento. Nunca me devolv\u00eda la sonrisa.<\/p>\r\n

Mis chistes nunca le hac\u00edan gracia y, al cabo de un tiempo, empec\u00e9 a pensar que soy la persona m\u00e1s aburrida de la sala.<\/p>\r\n

Nunca se molest\u00f3 en mantener una conversaci\u00f3n normal conmigo y, al cabo de un tiempo, dej\u00e9 de hacerle preguntas o de intentar entablar conversaci\u00f3n con \u00e9l.<\/p>\r\n

Because of him I didn\u2019t see myself as the pretty girl I used to be nor did I see myself as somebody who could awaken any desire in a man.<\/p>\r\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Carta a la chica que ha perdido su verdadero yo<\/p>\r\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien a quien cre\u00eda conocer.<\/h2>\r\n

\"chica<\/p>\r\n

I strongly believed he\u2019s not like that; he couldn\u2019t be.<\/p>\r\n

I would never fall for such a guy. I kept thinking it was just a phase and it\u2019ll be over soon. The sad part is, it never ended.<\/p>\r\n

I dated someone who I didn\u2019t really know.<\/h2>\r\n

\"Chica<\/p>\r\n

Porque nunca me mostr\u00f3 su verdadero rostro. Podr\u00eda ser que tuviera demasiadas caras y nunca llegu\u00e9 a conocerlo de verdad.<\/p>\r\n

Quer\u00eda que fuera el hombre<\/a> Pens\u00e9 que lo era.<\/p>\r\n

I constantly waited for him to be the guy I\u2019ve created in my head and maybe this is the reason I stayed too long with him.<\/p>\r\n

Confi\u00e9 en que hay algo bueno en \u00e9l y en que me quiere. Pens\u00e9 que nunca hab\u00eda encontrado el espacio para ser quien realmente es.<\/p>\r\n

Pero \u00e9l era quien realmente es. Yo era demasiado ignorante para aceptarlo.<\/p>\r\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien que me hizo cuestionar a todo el mundo.<\/h2>\r\n

\"chica<\/p>\r\n

Porque s\u00ed era malo<\/a>, me dejo enga\u00f1ar pensando que todas las personas son iguales que \u00e9l.<\/p>\r\n

Ten\u00eda miedo de dejar entrar a nadie en mi vida porque me aterrorizaba la idea de que hubiera gente tan mala como \u00e9l.<\/p>\r\n

I could never communicate my problems to anybody because I thought they\u2019d approve of his behavior so I struggled with my own burdens, alone.<\/p>\r\n

Olvid\u00e9 que ten\u00eda amigos y les ment\u00ed sobre c\u00f3mo eran las cosas entre nosotros dos.<\/p>\r\n

Present\u00e9 nuestra relaci\u00f3n como lo mejor que me hab\u00eda pasado cuando, en realidad, me hizo d\u00e9bil y demasiado asustada para vivir.<\/p>\r\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien que era incapaz de amar a nadie m\u00e1s que a s\u00ed mismo.<\/h2>\r\n

\"mujer<\/p>\r\n

No matter how much love I had for him, it just couldn\u2019t cut it. It wasn\u2019t enough.<\/p>\r\n

Por muy enorme que fuera mi sonrisa cuando le ve\u00eda, \u00e9l nunca me devolv\u00eda la sonrisa. Nunca me acogi\u00f3 en su abrazo ni me abri\u00f3 las manos.<\/p>\r\n

Me hac\u00eda sentir sola aunque estuviera f\u00edsicamente sentado a mi lado.<\/p>\r\n

Durante un tiempo, tuve la sensaci\u00f3n de que cuanto m\u00e1s desgraciada era yo, m\u00e1s feliz le hac\u00eda a \u00e9l.<\/p>\r\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien que ten\u00eda que menospreciar a los dem\u00e1s para construirse a s\u00ed mismo.<\/h2>\r\n

\"chica<\/p>\r\n

I could clearly notice the pattern. The people he was surrounded with always looked up to him and asked his approval, indirectly or directly, it didn\u2019t even matter at the end.<\/p>\r\n

Siempre fue superior a ellos y eso le hizo sentirse fuerte.<\/p>\r\n

\u00c9l es uno de esos tipos que siempre estaba en una relaci\u00f3n. Siempre tuvo novia porque necesitaba a alguien a quien menospreciar para sentirse mejor.<\/p>\r\n

It was an essential thing for him and I just can\u2019t help but wonder: How many other girls were there before me?<\/p>\r\n

Lo que me asusta a\u00fan m\u00e1s es saber cu\u00e1ntas chicas habr\u00e1 despu\u00e9s de m\u00ed, y cu\u00e1n da\u00f1adas emocionalmente estar\u00e1n.<\/p>\r\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien que dej\u00e9 que me manipulara.<\/h2>\r\n

\"mujer<\/p>\r\n

Whenever he\u2019d ignore me I thought I deserved it. Whenever he lied to me, I kept quiet because I had no guts to confront him.<\/p>\r\n

He made me believe I was to blame for everything and that\u2019s why I sat there in silence.<\/p>\r\n

I sat in silence because I had to. \u201cIf you trusted me, it wouldn\u2019t matter who I talked on the phone.\u201d or \u201cI give you things nobody else would even think of because you don\u2019t deserve it.\u201d were the sentences that always made me feel like the one to blame for every problem in our relationship.<\/p>\r\n

Al final, yo era la loca y obsesiva.<\/p>\r\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien que quer\u00eda que no tuviera pasado ni futuro. Sal\u00ed con alguien que quer\u00eda ser el centro de mi mundo, pero de una manera espeluznante.<\/p>\r\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien que estaba celoso de m\u00ed.<\/p>\r\n

He was jealous of every single friend of mine, of any person I\u2019d greet with a smile regardless of their gender or their age.<\/p>\r\n

What made him even madder, and he had to take it out on me, was when some of the guys would treat me nice. I was a \u2018call girl\u2019 because no normal or decent girl knew so many guys.<\/p>\r\n

Y le cre\u00ed porque era lo que dec\u00eda.<\/p>\r\n

Me odiaba por ser una buena persona y querer a todo el mundo, as\u00ed que empec\u00e9 a caminar por la calle y a pedirle a Dios que nadie me saludara.<\/p>\r\n

Dej\u00e9 de sonre\u00edr a los desconocidos y cada vez era menos la persona burbujeante que sol\u00eda ser.<\/p>\r\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien que me hizo sentir m\u00e1s fuerte.<\/h2>\r\n

\"chica<\/p>\r\n

Because I felt strong enough to walk away from him. Because I left him, I feel there is nothing now that could bring me down. I\u2019ve been through hell and I\u2019ve made it.<\/p>\r\n

Encontr\u00e9 fuerzas para ser la antigua yo, para saludar a la gente con una sonrisa, para querer a los ni\u00f1os peque\u00f1os y jugar con los perros con los que me tropiezo por la calle.<\/p>\r\n

Me sent\u00eda la persona m\u00e1s divertida del mundo y mis amigos disfrutaban teni\u00e9ndome de vuelta, a mi verdadero yo.<\/p>\r\n

Por donde estaba antes, Soy lo suficientemente fuerte para amar de nuevo y soy lo suficientemente valiente<\/a> para enfrentarme a m\u00ed mismo.<\/p>\r\n

Because I brushed everything aside, loved him with everything in me, and that didn\u2019t make him love me back, showed me I could survive only on my love.<\/p>\r\n

Porque al dejarle, aprend\u00ed lo fuerte que era. Porque al dejarlo, Aprend\u00ed a amarme de nuevo<\/a>.<\/p>\r\n\r\n

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