{"id":2297,"date":"2021-10-09T08:38:34","date_gmt":"2021-10-09T08:38:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=2297"},"modified":"2022-08-10T07:11:21","modified_gmt":"2022-08-10T07:11:21","slug":"los-pensadores-silenciosos-matan-las-relaciones-stop","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/los-pensadores-silenciosos-matan-las-relaciones-stop\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo dejar de pensar demasiado en una relaci\u00f3n (9 pasos para lograrlo)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dicen que no hay nada en este mundo que pueda perturbarte tanto como tus propios pensamientos. Well, that’s true just like it’s true that there is nothing that can harm the bond between two partners than the ugly <\/i>h\u00e1bito de pensar demasiado<\/i><\/a> en una relaci\u00f3n.<\/i><\/p>\n

Y, el verdadero l\u00edo se crea una vez que tus inseguridades empiezan a nadar hacia la superficie sin tu propia voluntad.<\/b><\/p>\n

Although it\u2019s your life we\u2019re talking about, sometimes it feels to you like you don\u2019t have control over your thoughts, does it?<\/p>\n

Nobody is going to ask you why you do it… It\u2019s not like you want to overanalyze everything, it\u2019s just the way you are.<\/p>\n

No dejas de pensar y <\/b>obsesionado<\/b> sobre esto una y otra vez.<\/b><\/p>\n

And, your thoughts get deeper and deeper until you\u2019ve taken into consideration all the circumstances, events, and possibilities that could occur.<\/i><\/p>\n

In the end, there are so many different case scenarios racing in your head, and you start being afraid of something that didn\u2019t even happen, but you\u2019ve predicted it might happen.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 es un pensador excesivo en una relaci\u00f3n?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Let’s just consider overthinking as a <\/i>salud mental<\/i> condici\u00f3n. Entonces, <\/i>un pensador excesivo<\/i><\/a> es una persona que padece esa enfermedad.<\/i><\/p>\n

This is a person who can’t stop <\/b>obsesionado<\/b> y <\/b>sobreanalizando<\/b> even some pretty clear and simple things or the things they absolutely can’t control.<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s like they constantly have that fear of being hurt, and it makes them rethink every single decision they make or step they take.<\/p>\n

It’s the person that simply doesn’t want to <\/b>tomar cosas<\/b> a su valor nominal. <\/b>Their mind is filled with constant ‘what ifs’ and they’re always looking for some answers.<\/p>\n

That’s a person whose <\/i>lenguaje corporal<\/i> muestra hasta qu\u00e9 punto su <\/i>autoestima<\/i> is. They go from relationship to relationship, and can’t easily settle anywhere because of their own insecurities.<\/i><\/p>\n

El pensamiento sobreanalizador patr\u00f3n<\/a> es una caracter\u00edstica del apego ansioso estilo<\/a>. Esto suele deberse a cargas de relaciones anteriores que la pareja lleva consigo a la relaci\u00f3n actual.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs normal pensar demasiado en una relaci\u00f3n?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Well, I would say that it’s actually a very common part of <\/i>relaciones rom\u00e1nticas<\/i>. Sin embargo, <\/i>sobreanalizando<\/i> no es ni puede ser nunca un <\/i>calidad de un <\/i>relaci\u00f3n sana<\/i><\/a>.<\/i><\/p>\n

If you know you’re prone to overthinking and don’t even try to control it, it’ll be like you’re consciously trying to <\/b>sabotea tu propia relaci\u00f3n<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s also a se\u00f1al de que tienes problemas de confianza<\/a>, meaning you don’t completely trust your romantic partner. Just try to think how your partner feels when they know you’re overanalyzing every single thing and decision in your relationship.<\/p>\n

It surely makes them feel awful. It surely arouses many doubts about your relationship with them. And, it’ll sooner or later make them think that you don’t love them as much as they love you.<\/p>\n

Replanteamiento de<\/b> y pensar demasiado en una relaci\u00f3n es sin duda una <\/b>bandera roja<\/b> que algo est\u00e1 mal.<\/b><\/p>\n

Whether it is a lack of trust, love, or respect is irrelevant. The important thing is that it’s obvious that your relationship is definitely lacking something.<\/i><\/p>\n

Truth be told, the hidden meaning behind overthinking is ‘I’m doubting our love and I don’t know if I can trust you completely’. <\/i>Don’t be surprised if this starts to bother your partner.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, para evitar que el exceso de an\u00e1lisis plague tu relaci\u00f3n, hay algunas l\u00edmites que deben nombrarse cuanto antes<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Tienes que encontrar la manera de poner fin a esos t\u00f3xicos e irracionales <\/a><\/b>patrones de pensamiento<\/b><\/a> y trabaja para establecer una comunicaci\u00f3n sana con tu <\/b>pareja<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Turn to a relationship expert and try to get that outside perspective. Talk it out with your partner instead of obsessing about things you can’t control by yourself.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo dejar de pensar demasiado en una relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

The truth is, we can’t stop being overthinkers. We hate it, and we’re aware of all the negative consequences it has on our social and <\/i>vida amorosa,<\/i> but we still can’t take an eraser and remove that trait from our personality.<\/i><\/p>\n

However, we definitely can control that bad habit of overthinking and stop it from ruining the relationships we have with other people. And, that’s exactly what I’ll teach you below.<\/p>\n

Take a deep breath and let’s start with the mission of arreglar y salvar su relaci\u00f3n sentimental<\/a> de sobreanalizar las cosas.<\/p>\n

1. Primero, calma tu mente<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t let yourself enjoy anything that happens in your life. There is this shadow growing slowly and it\u2019s leaning over everything.<\/p>\n

Puede que al principio parezcas feliz, pero tus pensamientos excesivos est\u00e1n demasiado presentes.<\/b><\/p>\n

It creates this fear that all at once, everything you have or everything you\u2019re living and enjoying might disappear or might even be a lie.<\/i><\/p>\n

It’s a normal thing that you’re panicking because you siento que el mundo entero se desmorona<\/a> bajo tus pies.<\/p>\n

You can’t stop thinking about the future of your relationship and whether your loved one will be by your side forever or if they’ll leave you sooner or later. The truth is, we all have that same fear of the unknown, and we all catch ourselves thinking about it sometimes.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, el hecho innegable es que nada es constante en la vida.<\/b> Hay cosas que simplemente escapan a tu control, y lo \u00fanico que puedes hacer al respecto es aceptarlas y aceptarlas.<\/p>\n

Dejar de pensar demasiado<\/i> because that surely won’t help <\/i>\u2013<\/i> s\u00f3lo pueden surgir algunos problemas m\u00e1s profundos<\/i>. Necesita recupere el control sobre su mente<\/a>. Identificar y vencer esos pensamientos no deseados<\/a>.<\/p>\n

2. Conf\u00eda en ti mismo<\/h3>\n

Pensar demasiado no s\u00f3lo puede causar problemas en su <\/i>amar la vida<\/i>pero tambi\u00e9n puede tener un mal impacto en todos los <\/i>\u00e1mbitos de su vida<\/i>.<\/i> Y, \u00bfsabes cu\u00e1l es la raz\u00f3n principal de ese mal h\u00e1bito tuyo?<\/p>\n

You don’t trust yourself. You don’t believe in yourself. You aren’t aware nor do you believe in your own capabilities.<\/b><\/p>\n

You can’t stop overthinking every little thing in your relationship and in your life in general simply because you constantly feel like you’re doing something wrong.<\/p>\n

You feel like you’re making mistakes all the time.<\/p>\n

And, sometimes you even think that you’re a mistake.<\/p>\n

You feel like you don’t deserve to be loved, and somehow, you manage to convince yourself that you’re not indeed despite all the efforts your partner makes to convince you of the opposite.<\/p>\n

Si cometi\u00f3 errores en su <\/b>relaci\u00f3n anterior<\/b>, you can’t allow them to sabotage your new happiness.<\/b> Todos cometemos errores y, a veces, hacemos da\u00f1o a nuestros <\/i>seres queridos<\/i> unintentionally, but that doesn’t make us <\/i>indigno de amor<\/i><\/a>.<\/i><\/p>\n

Sea amable consigo mismo<\/b><\/a>. Don’t judge your wrong decisions and moves. Don’t punish yourself for having weaknesses.<\/p>\n

Necesita <\/i>construir un <\/i>relaci\u00f3n sana<\/i> <\/a>con uno mismo para poder hacerlo con otro ser humano. <\/i>Start by learning to trust yourself and then you’ll learn how to trust others, too.<\/p>\n

3. Y, lo que es m\u00e1s importante, conf\u00eda en tu pareja<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

For some reason, you\u2019ve stopped believing that people are capable of doing good without hidden motives. You just keep waiting to see what\u2019s really hiding behind their deeds, and what kind of intentions they really have.<\/p>\n

As far as your relationship is concerned, you love. You really do. But, you always question if you\u2019re really loved.<\/i><\/p>\n

If there was an amazing week that helped you feel like the most loved person, you\u2019re just waiting for a crash to happen in the next few days. Even if your significant other has never given you a reason to doubt them and their intentions, you simply can’t relax 100%.<\/p>\n

You probably still snoop through their text messages, even after you’ve been together for so long. Am I right? Well, it’s obvious you’re struggling with <\/b>profundo <\/b>problemas de confianza<\/b><\/a> que te hacen propenso a <\/b>sobreanalizando,<\/b> que est\u00e1 arruinando lentamente vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/b><\/p>\n

After all, you can’t call it a healthy relaci\u00f3n<\/a> if you don’t trust each other completely. Donde no hay confianza, tampoco hay amor.<\/b><\/p>\n

Su desconfianza definitivamente hace que su <\/i>sensaci\u00f3n de pareja<\/i> sin respeto y probablemente incluso sin amor. <\/i>If you don’t give them the chance to prove you’re trustworthy, it’s just a matter of time when they’ll break up with you.<\/p>\n

4. Perm\u00edtete ser vulnerable<\/h3>\n

You’re just a human being, and <\/i>vulnerabilidad emocional<\/i><\/a> forma parte de tu naturaleza. Deja de ocultarlo.<\/i><\/p>\n

Tienes que desnudarte emocionalmente delante de tu pareja. <\/b>Right now, you might be afraid that they’ll use it at some point to hurt you.<\/p>\n

But, what if they don’t? What if they start to cherish and appreciate you even more because of it? What if it connects you in a way you never thought was possible before?<\/p>\n

You see, these are the ‘what ifs’ you need to focus on.<\/i><\/p>\n

You can’t pretend you’re somebody else forever. Sooner or later, your mask will come off and it’ll leave your partner too confused.<\/p>\n

5. Habla en voz alta sobre c\u00f3mo te sientes<\/h3>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be afraid to pour your fears out in the open. Don\u2019t go through it alone.<\/i><\/p>\n

Even if it\u2019s just in your head, he (or she) can reassure you in a minute and make your fears go away.<\/p>\n

Puedes convencerte f\u00e1cilmente de que te quieren de verdad, de que hay alguien que planea su futuro contigo y de que no hay que rendirse.<\/p>\n

There is no other person that means so much to them, and there is nobody they want more in life. That’s how you should direct your <\/b>pensamientos propios<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Poor communication harms a relationship more than anything else. It’s also one of the leading causes of most breakups.<\/p>\n

If you can’t stop obsessing about something regarding your current relationship, talk with your partner about it. Let them explain it to you or let them help you find a way to fix it.<\/p>\n

Reprimir esos sentimientos <\/b><\/a>es lo peor que puedes hacer. <\/b>You may think that will make them go away, but the truth is it’ll only make them stuck in your mind.<\/i><\/p>\n

They are going to be stuck in your mind and they will shut you down emotionally. You’ll become emocionalmente insensible<\/a>...y su relaci\u00f3n no podr\u00e1 salvarse en ese momento.<\/p>\n

6. Trabaja para aumentar tu autoestima<\/h3>\n

Sigues pregunt\u00e1ndote si mereces toda esa felicidad, y a qu\u00e9 tienes que renunciar para equilibrar la felicidad y la miseria que los humanos obtienen en la vida.<\/p>\n

Sientes que tu pareja sale contigo por l\u00e1stima. <\/i>You think they feel sorry for you, and that it’s the thing that keeps them in your life.<\/p>\n

You idealize your partner and, in your eyes, they’re the most perfect person on this planet.<\/p>\n

However, that also makes you overanalyze every step they make because you simply can’t accept the fact that someone as perfect as them chooses to love someone so ‘flawless’ as you.<\/p>\n

You have such a bad self-image, and it’s high time to paint a whole new one.<\/b> Necesita poner el autocuidado en primer lugar<\/a> en tu lista de prioridades y c\u00e9ntrate en mejorar tu autoestima y confianza.<\/p>\n

Sinceramente, el mejor consejo sobre relaciones que puedo darte cuando se trata de c\u00f3mo dejar de pensar demasiado en una relaci\u00f3n<\/a> es que necesitas work on yourself; not your relationship. It’s obvious that the real problem is in you and your bad <\/b>h\u00e1bito de pensar demasiado<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

7. Centrarse en el momento presente<\/h3>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

Leave what could or what will happen aside. You don’t and shouldn’t live for the future.<\/p>\n

No one can promise you that you’ll stay together forever. <\/b>Sin embargo, ahora mismo, tienes a alguien que te acepta y te quiere a pesar de todos tus defectos.<\/p>\n

You can’t undo things you’ve done in the past, nor can you control or stop some things from happening in the future. You only have power over your present.<\/i><\/p>\n

Cuando aceptas vivir en la <\/b>momento presente<\/b>, you won’t have time for overthinking. <\/b>You’ll be focused only on things that can make your relationship prosper in every possible way.<\/p>\n

Vive el ahora.<\/b> Disfruta de tu felicidad actual. Abraza la incertidumbre de la vida. Dejar de pensar demasiado<\/a> y alejando a tu pareja.<\/p>\n

Build a bridge of understanding and acceptance… a bridge that will connect you forever and that will leave no space for re-questioning yourself and your relationship.<\/i><\/p>\n

8. Bloquear los pensamientos negativos<\/h3>\n

Lo que ocurre es que pensar demasiado a menudo responde a tus miedos y a tu ansiedad. <\/b>Se siente abrumado por pensamientos y emociones negativos.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s just contagious. It starts from this little tiny thing and it ends up with you questioning your life. It\u2019s often deeply connected to pessimism. <\/i><\/i><\/i><\/p>\n

De alguna manera, eres incapaz de ver el lado bueno de tu futuro cuando analizas las cosas en exceso.<\/p>\n

So, you see the end of your relationship and that\u2019s what you\u2019re preparing yourself for, even though the other side doesn\u2019t really see things the way you do.<\/p>\n

To him (or her), it might appear that everything is OK because you do not communicate your thoughts. You don\u2019t even know what the final conclusion is because you just get tired eventually and you stop thinking totally.<\/p>\n

Sigues callado, y pensar demasiado en silencio te est\u00e1 matando y est\u00e1 matando tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/b><\/p>\n

Necesitas salir de tu propia mente. Tienes que dejar de ser su prisionero.<\/i><\/p>\n

Those unwanted thoughts need to be blocked. Stop thinking about those ‘what ifs’ and start enjoying the things you have right now.<\/p>\n

9. Dejar atr\u00e1s las heridas del pasado<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve been slapped by life one too many times, and God knows how many times your expectations were not met.<\/i><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why you have trouble picturing a happy ending. This is why it\u2019s more logical for you to picture a miserable ending.<\/b> But, it doesn\u2019t have to be like this.<\/p>\n

Hay una forma de cambiar las cosas y dejar de asfixiar tu relaci\u00f3n d\u00e1ndole demasiadas vueltas. Hay una manera de evitar un final desagradable.<\/p>\n

And, the only way you’ll do it is by<\/b> dejar atr\u00e1s un pasado doloroso<\/b><\/a>. Su pasado<\/b> relaci\u00f3n y tu ex pareja probablemente te hayan dejado muchas cicatrices.<\/p>\n

It’s actually normal that you want to protect yourself from being hurt again. Ahora, tu mecanismo de afrontamiento con esas cicatrices y el miedo a que te vuelvan a hacer da\u00f1o es <\/i>sobreanalizando<\/i> cada detalle de su <\/i>relaci\u00f3n actual<\/i>.<\/i><\/p>\n

However, you can’t use it forever. You can’t continue to stop your partner from getting near to you.<\/b> The more you obsess and overthink things, the more you’ll be pushing them away.<\/p>\n

See, you have somebody who\u2019s holding your hand no matter <\/i>lo desastre que eres<\/i><\/a>. Tienes a alguien que se esfuerza por ganarse tu confianza.<\/i><\/p>\n

Don’t allow your past to ruin your present or, even worse, your future.<\/b> Deshazte de tu carga emocional<\/a>. You got a new chance to find love \u2013 to be sincerely loved. If you don’t embrace it, if you gamble it, you might end up regretting it for the rest of your life.<\/p>\n

Para concluir<\/h2>\n

Worrying won\u2019t stop bad things from happening… it only stops you from enjoying the good.<\/i><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, basta ya. You can\u2019t <\/b>dejar de pensar demasiado<\/b> \u2013<\/b> todo el mundo lo sabe ya. No existe un remedio m\u00e1gico ni puedes chasquear los dedos y hacer que desaparezca.<\/b><\/p>\n

What you can do is stop going through all of it alone. You can stop ruining your relationship by telling him what\u2019s bugging you. You can be each other\u2019s rock, and that\u2019ll do.<\/p>\n

T\u00f3xicos y <\/i>pensamientos ansiosos<\/i> provoked by overthinking in a relationship can really damage the bond between two partners to the point where it won’t be fixable any longer.<\/i><\/p>\n

Don’t ever allow the awful <\/b>h\u00e1bito de pensar demasiado<\/b> que se interponga entre usted y su pareja.<\/b><\/p>\n

Stop overthinking and save your relationship before it’s too late. Let things flow in their natural way, and just keep on hoping for the best.<\/p>\n

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