{"id":23002,"date":"2020-03-10T07:48:57","date_gmt":"2020-03-10T07:48:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=23002"},"modified":"2022-02-27T14:41:16","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T14:41:16","slug":"para-una-chica-que-sufrio-abusos-emocionales-el-amor-ya-no-significa-lo-mismo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/para-una-chica-que-sufrio-abusos-emocionales-el-amor-ya-no-significa-lo-mismo\/","title":{"rendered":"Para una chica que sufri\u00f3 abusos emocionales, el amor ya no significa lo mismo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Para una chica que sufri\u00f3 abusos emocionales, el amor es algo que le cuesta definir.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Su agresor cambi\u00f3 su percepci\u00f3n de la realidad. En un momento le dec\u00eda que la quer\u00eda, y poco despu\u00e9s, que la insultaba y le dec\u00eda las cosas m\u00e1s feas.<\/p>\n

Sol\u00eda abrazarla y besarla, luego le gritaba y romp\u00eda los platos cuando se peleaban. Todo era siempre culpa de ella.<\/p>\n

Se volvi\u00f3 tan bueno en hacerse la v\u00edctima<\/a> que realmente busc\u00f3 el problema dentro de s\u00ed misma. Pensaba que ten\u00eda que cambiar. Pens\u00f3 que ella era la causa de su infelicidad.<\/p>\n

You see emotional abuse made her think that she wasn\u2019t good enough.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

It made her think that she isn\u2019t worthy of love and that most of the things that happened to her were somehow her fault.<\/p>\n

Tard\u00f3 mucho tiempo en darse cuenta de que nunca se trataba de ella. Reconstruy\u00f3 su vida.<\/p>\n

Trabaj\u00f3 sus inseguridades y recuper\u00f3 su autoestima. Poco a poco aprendi\u00f3 a quererse de nuevo.<\/p>\n

El abuso emocional la hizo ser precavida.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Encontr\u00f3 su paz interior. Renov\u00f3 su vida. Lleg\u00f3 a ser feliz por s\u00ed sola, y le cost\u00f3 tanto conseguirlo que tiene miedo de perderlo.<\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Tiene miedo de que alguien vuelva a hacerle da\u00f1o, la devuelva al principio y todos sus esfuerzos hayan sido en vano.<\/p>\n

She keeps telling herself that not all men are her ex. That they are not all the same. But she can\u2019t help being scared.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why she needs someone she feels safe with.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

She needs someone she can trust. That\u2019s why she believes in taking things slowly and creating that trust with her partner.<\/p>\n

La confianza ya no es algo que se da por libre. Hay que gan\u00e1rsela.<\/p>\n

She needs a man who will get that. A man who won\u2019t mind reducing the pace and be everything she needs.<\/p>\n

Si encuentra a ese hombre, bajar\u00e1 la guardia y ni un minuto antes.<\/p>\n

Necesita a alguien que la haga dejar de luchar contra sus sentimientos.<\/p>\n

She is afraid to let herself go and really and truly feel. That\u2019s why every time she sees that she is getting to close and too attached to somebody she backs down.<\/p>\n

Ella se aparta, pero espera que \u00e9l la abrace fuerte. Espera que la tranquilice y le diga que todo ir\u00e1 bien.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Cuando encuentre a alguien as\u00ed, tal vez le d\u00e9 una oportunidad al amor, pero ni un momento antes. Quiere sentirse lo m\u00e1s segura posible antes de arriesgarse.<\/p>\n

Sigue creyendo en el amor, y sigue ansi\u00e1ndolo, pero ahora tiene est\u00e1ndares m\u00e1s altos.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Si hay un resquicio de esperanza en todo por lo que ha pasado es que ha aprendido lo fuerte que es y que necesita amar y apreciarse m\u00e1s a s\u00ed misma<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Aprendi\u00f3 esas lecciones por las malas, pero al menos ahora no tiene ning\u00fan problema en dejarlo ir cuando ve las banderas rojas del comportamiento t\u00f3xico y abusivo que ha soportado.<\/p>\n

Nunca volver\u00eda a tolerar algo as\u00ed. Subi\u00f3 el list\u00f3n, y ahora sus est\u00e1ndares son m\u00e1s altos.<\/p>\n

No est\u00e1 siendo poco realista. Simplemente sabe c\u00f3mo deber\u00eda ser el amor.<\/p>\n

She knows that love shouldn\u2019t feel like torture. She knows love shouldn\u2019t make you feel bad about yourself.<\/p>\n

She knows that love shouldn\u2019t lead you to emotional death.<\/p>\n

She knows love should be kind and supportive. She knows that love adds to your happiness. She knows that love doesn\u2019t hurt.<\/p>\n

Sabe que el amor te hace volar.<\/p>\n

\"Para<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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