Despu\u00e9s de liberarse de un narcisista<\/a>, your life doesn\u2019t get better right away. There is a long journey and a lot of healing stages ahead of you before you return to being your old self.<\/p>\n You\u2019re still going to be scared, you\u2019re still going to wonder if he\u2019s coming back or how to shut him out of your life for good.<\/p>\n You\u2019re going to be depressed and anxious. You\u2019re going to feel helpless, like you\u2019re losing control over your life instead of getting it back.<\/p>\n Esto es lo que te hace un trauma. Esto es lo que una cantidad sustancial de abuso puede hacerle a alguien.<\/strong><\/p>\n El trauma que te ha causado es demasiado grande para que lo olvides.<\/p>\n You can try to repress it but something will trigger you back, something will remind you of all the pain you\u2019ve been through.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll dream of him and those dreams will seem like reality. You\u2019ll wake up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night because you\u2019ve dreamed of him molesting you and it seemed like it was really happening.<\/p>\n These dreams won’t go away that easily because your mind isn\u2019t ready to let go just yet. You\u2019ve been traumatized and you need to let time go by for things to settle down.<\/p>\n If someone gets upset or angry with you, that will probably trigger you to have a flashback of narcissistic abuse. When you fall into that state, you\u2019ll lose common sense.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll start panicking and the paranoia you\u2019ll be feeling will be overwhelming.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll start questioning the authenticity of the people around you because after sobrevivir al abuso narcisista<\/a>...todo parecer\u00e1 una amenaza potencial.<\/p>\n Cada persona en su vida ser\u00e1 un manipulador potencial a sus ojos.<\/p>\n Tratar con un narcisista puede destruirte hasta la m\u00e9dula. Puede corroer tu personalidad y convertirte en una persona superficial y vac\u00eda, ideal para manipular.<\/p>\n Te lleva a un estado de vulnerabilidad extrema, que en realidad es perfecto para la gente que quiere aprovecharse de ti.<\/p>\n You are aware of the fact that now, after you\u2019ve survived a narcissist, you are an easy target. And that\u2019s why you simply can\u2019t trust anyone.<\/p>\n Nothing can assure you that you won\u2019t go through the same kind of abuse all over again from the start. No one can convince you that they are only trying to help you.<\/p>\n Every new person in your life will be a potential manipulator in your eyes. This is what happens after narcissistic abuse but remember that it\u2019s not your fault.<\/p>\n It\u2019s normal that you don\u2019t trust anyone because you trusted him and look what you got\u2014insecurity, pain and an emotional fallout.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t want to see anybody and you don\u2019t want to talk to anyone. You\u2019re hiding from people and from your own emotions.<\/p>\n You\u2019ve learned in your relationship with a narcissist that you\u2019re not supposed to feel anything. Because every time you felt something, he would suck those emotions dry and refill his energy, leaving you empty and broken.<\/p>\n So, in order to survive him, you\u2019ve learned not to feel anything. You\u2019ve learned to become completely uninteresting.<\/p>\n The thing is, as long as you are interesting to a narcissist and as long as you show that you\u2019re hurting, he will keep coming back to exploit that.<\/p>\n Once you become boring, he won\u2019t have any reason to come back to you. Once you become uninteresting and indifferent, he\u2019ll lose interest.<\/p>\n You\u2019ve done it and you\u2019ve chased him away. But now, you have to get back in touch with your feelings.<\/p>\n You have to let your emotions back in. For now, you\u2019re hiding from them, like you\u2019re hiding from everything else.<\/p>\n Durante mucho tiempo, \u00e9l estuvo al volante de tu vida. Durante mucho tiempo, \u00e9l decidi\u00f3 lo que ibas a hacer y c\u00f3mo ibas a actuar.<\/p>\n Nada depend\u00eda de ti.<\/p>\n Pero ahora, de repente, eres libre de hacer lo que quieras. Eres libre de actuar como quieras y eso te asusta.<\/p>\n You\u2019re constantly looking around, to see if he is there to tell you to stop and do what he says.<\/p>\n You still can\u2019t take control over your life. You\u2019ve been manipulated for so long that you aren\u2019t even sure how to get your life back.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why some women disobey the norma de no contacto<\/a> y vuelven con un narcisista, porque se sienten perdidos.<\/p>\n As\u00ed que vuelven a lo \u00fanico que conocen. A \u00e9l.<\/p>\n Esto tambi\u00e9n pasar\u00e1. Tienes que entender que tiene que pasar alg\u00fan tiempo, tienes que dejar que tu cuerpo y tu mente se curen.<\/p>\n1. You\u2019re haunted by the memory of him<\/h2>\n
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Basta un desencadenante para que vuelvas al pasado. Puedes ver u o\u00edr algo que te recuerde a \u00e9l y tu mente volver\u00e1 instant\u00e1neamente a una \u00e9poca en la que estabas con \u00e9l.<\/p>\n2. You can\u2019t trust anyone<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n3. Est\u00e1s pasando desapercibido<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n4. Te sientes perdido<\/h2>\n
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