{"id":23833,"date":"2018-09-20T10:23:00","date_gmt":"2018-09-20T10:23:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=23833"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:42:08","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:42:08","slug":"6-senales-de-que-estas-en-una-relacion-curita-y-que-hacer-al-respecto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/6-senales-de-que-estas-en-una-relacion-curita-y-que-hacer-al-respecto\/","title":{"rendered":"6 se\u00f1ales de que tu relaci\u00f3n es una tirita (y qu\u00e9 hacer al respecto)"},"content":{"rendered":"

A veces nos quedamos demasiado tiempo y nos esforzamos demasiado en una relaci\u00f3n que sabemos que no funciona. Ese tipo de relaciones se llaman relaciones tirita.<\/p>\n

Symbolically, there is just a Band-Aid that\u2019s keeping two people together.<\/em><\/p>\n

Las cosas que impiden que todo se derrumbe son tan diminutas e insignificantes, y sin embargo son tan poderosas que hacen que la gente se quede mucho tiempo despu\u00e9s de saber que deber\u00edan marcharse.<\/p>\n

Las relaciones con tiritas son muy dif\u00edciles de detectar. Sobre todo porque nos cuesta admitir que estamos en una.<\/p>\n

Primero tenemos que ser brutalmente honestos con nosotros mismos, admitir que vamos por mal camino y ver si a\u00fan podemos hacer algo para arreglar las cosas o si es mejor alejarse.<\/p>\n

Si est\u00e1s en una relaci\u00f3n de tiritas, algunos o todos los signos que se enumeran a continuaci\u00f3n te resultar\u00e1n familiares:<\/p>\n

1. You never know if or when you\u2019re going to spend time together<\/h2>\n

\"6Let\u2019s say the weekend is approaching and you have no clue if you will spend any time with your partner. That doesn\u2019t sound right, does it?<\/p>\n

Parece incapaz de hacer planes con antelaci\u00f3n. Cada idea para una cita o para pasar el rato en casa surge \u00faltimo minuto<\/a>. Being together is not treated as a priority and that\u2019s just wrong.<\/p>\n

Couples in meaningful relationships can\u2019t wait to see each other. When they spend some time apart, it seems that something is off. Otherwise this is a clear sign of a Band-Aid relationship.<\/p>\n

2. Crees que tu relaci\u00f3n est\u00e1 fracasando cuando la comparas con las relaciones de las personas que te rodean<\/h2>\n

\"6Miras todas las relaciones felices que te rodean y te compadeces de ti mismo porque te est\u00e1s perdiendo muchas cosas.<\/p>\n

Te alegras por tus amigos, claro. Pero tambi\u00e9n te entristece ver que sus parejas se esfuerzan al m\u00e1ximo mientras que la tuya es incapaz de mover un dedo.<\/p>\n

Las comparaciones nunca son una buena idea, pero en el momento en que empiezas a hacerlas es cuando tienes que admitirte a ti mismo que no est\u00e1s satisfecho con tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

3. Est\u00e1s agotado y no tienes m\u00e1s fuerza de voluntad para trabajar en arreglar tu relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"6Hace tiempo que te sientes como si estuvieras chocando contra un muro y pareces incapaz de encontrar una soluci\u00f3n a los problemas o a la insatisfacci\u00f3n que sientes en tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

You talked things over with your partner more times than you can count. You make promises that you\u2019ll both do your best. You both stick to your words. You make the effort.<\/p>\n

Pero al cabo de unos d\u00edas, todo vuelve a ser como antes. Vuelven a las andadas y t\u00fa est\u00e1s harto de ser el \u00fanico que lo intenta.<\/p>\n

Al final, dejas de intentarlo. Te das cuenta de que no tiene sentido. As\u00ed que te limitas a existir en esa relaci\u00f3n sin ninguna esperanza de ser realmente feliz en ella.<\/p>\n

4. Realmente crees que tener cualquier relaci\u00f3n es mejor que ninguna<\/h2>\n

\"6Primero s\u00e9 abierto y sincero contigo mismo. Temes tanto estar solo que realmente crees que estar en una relaci\u00f3n de mierda o mediocre es mejor que estar soltero.<\/p>\n

Being single isn\u2019t always easy but it has many perks you are not seeing right now. If the fear of singledom is the only thing keeping you attached to your partner, you are becoming a textbook example of someone in a Band-Aid relationship.<\/p>\n

5. El amor se ha transformado en h\u00e1bito<\/h2>\n

\"6Esto es especialmente cierto en el caso de esas relaciones duraderas que parecen seguir y seguir aunque no funcionen.<\/p>\n

People in long-term relationships are so used to each other that they can\u2019t even imagine anything else. They fear everything else.<\/p>\n

La sensaci\u00f3n de estar enamorados es un recuerdo lejano, viven una vida de compa\u00f1eros de piso, toda la qu\u00edmica y la tensi\u00f3n sexual se fueron por la ventana y lo \u00fanico que queda es esa sensaci\u00f3n de familiaridad.<\/p>\n

Cuando una persona pasa tanto tiempo en algo que es malo para ella, lo malo empieza a parecerle bueno porque ha olvidado c\u00f3mo era cuando todo era genial.<\/p>\n

So if you find yourself in a long-term relationship that is not going anywhere and which is not making you happy, don\u2019t regret the years you invested in the relationship.<\/p>\n

Los a\u00f1os pasar\u00e1n de todos modos. Si usted quedarse demasiado tiempo<\/a>, the Band-Aid that\u2019s keeping you together will snap and your relationship will have an inevitably messy end.<\/p>\n

6. Est\u00e1s enamorado del potencial que tiene tu relaci\u00f3n, no de lo que ten\u00e9is ahora<\/h2>\n

\"6No est\u00e1s viviendo el momento. El momento actual de tu relaci\u00f3n no es lo que quieres ni lo que so\u00f1abas.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why you fast forward in your mind, to a time in the future where everything is great again. Where your relationship is everything that you dreamed of and more.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s just not real. Your unwillingness to deal with the current situation of your relationship is making you delude yourself by thinking that everything will miraculously work itself out in the future.<\/p>\n

Odds are it won\u2019t. Things will stay the same. The problems you have will probably get even worse as the time goes by. If they can\u2019t be solved, the best thing to do is leave and find your happiness elsewhere.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 puede hacer al respecto?<\/em><\/h2>\n

\"6<\/p>\n

If talking openly and honestly with your partner about everything that is going wrong in your relationship doesn\u2019t go as planned, there are some things you need to do.<\/p>\n

1. Ask yourself, \u201cIs this the person I can see myself with when I\u2019m old and gray?\u201d<\/h2>\n

Don\u2019t answer right away. Think long and hard. Do you really believe that you can be happy with them? Have they done anything to show you they care as much as you do?<\/p>\n

Do you really believe that they will change their behavior if they haven\u2019t by now? Have you given them enough time and enough chances already?<\/p>\n

Y lo que es m\u00e1s importante, \u00bfpodr\u00e1s soportar que se comporten como lo hacen durante el resto de tu vida? Si la respuesta a esta pregunta es negativa, sabr\u00e1s que don\u2019t need to stay<\/a> en esa relaci\u00f3n por m\u00e1s tiempo.<\/p>\n

2. Be honest with yourself and determine what\u2019s keeping you attached to that person<\/h2>\n

If you come across answers similar to, \u201cWe have been together for a long time that I can\u2019t simply let go\u201d, \u201cMaybe somebody else would be even worse\u201d or, \u201cI don\u2019t want to be alone again,\u201d they are not good enough reasons to stay.<\/p>\n

Habit, safety, familiarity, and hope shouldn\u2019t be the only things keeping you in a relationship. You deserve more than that. You deserve that unconditional, all-consuming and committed love. If you don\u2019t have that, don\u2019t settle.<\/p>\n

3. Comunicarse y ver su versi\u00f3n de los hechos<\/h2>\n

We want answers and we want them now. Sometimes we come on too strong. We look at things that bother us and we don\u2019t really take our partner into consideration.<\/p>\n

We have to talk less and listen more. There are two sides to every story. Tell yours and listen to his. Try to find common ground. If you are both ready to work on your issues, if you both still care, maybe there\u2019s still hope.<\/p>\n

4. Determinar un l\u00edmite de tiempo<\/h2>\n

A veces nos quedamos tan atrapados en nuestra esperanza de que las cosas mejorar\u00e1n con el tiempo que le damos demasiado tiempo. Antes de que nos demos cuenta, pasan los a\u00f1os y todo sigue igual, si no incluso peor.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why we need to determine a time limit that will be enough to see if things are getting better. Promise yourself you\u2019ll stick to the time limit.<\/p>\n

See for yourself how long you want it to be\u2014a month, three months\u2026. but remember: anything more than six months is too much. If nothing changes by then, nothing ever will.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sometimes we stay too long and try too hard for a relationship that we know isn\u2019t working. Those kinds of relationships are called Band-Aid relationships. Symbolically, there is just a Band-Aid that\u2019s keeping two people together. The things that are holding everything from crumbling down are so tiny and insignificant, yet they are so powerful…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":23847,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29625],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-23833","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-toxic-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29625,"label":"toxic relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/vidar-nordli-mathisen-558121-unsplash-1-1.jpg",800,603,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29625,"name":"toxic relationship","slug":"toxic-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29625,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? What should you do if you find yourself in one? Here's all you need to know!","parent":29620,"count":228,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29625,"category_count":228,"category_description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? What should you do if you find yourself in one? Here's all you need to know!","cat_name":"toxic relationship","category_nicename":"toxic-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23833","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=23833"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23833\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/23847"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=23833"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=23833"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=23833"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}