{"id":24153,"date":"2018-09-24T12:01:47","date_gmt":"2018-09-24T12:01:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=24153"},"modified":"2022-07-23T09:18:02","modified_gmt":"2022-07-23T09:18:02","slug":"10-consejos-de-citas-para-el-empollon-introvertido-en-un-mundo-extrovertido","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/10-consejos-de-citas-para-el-empollon-introvertido-en-un-mundo-extrovertido\/","title":{"rendered":"10 consejos para salir con un empoll\u00f3n introvertido en un mundo extrovertido"},"content":{"rendered":"

Las citas modernas son dif\u00edciles para todo el mundo. Pero puede ser especialmente dif\u00edcil para los empollones y los frikis.<\/p>\n

You might wonder why that is so. Well, let\u2019s face it\u2014we live in an extroverted world, and most of the people have a tendency to judge a book by its covers. It means that they pay a lot of attention to the way you look and to your social skills, without being patient enough to dig underneath the surface and to look for other qualities most single nerds have.<\/p>\n

Are you a self-proclaimed, introverted nerd who enjoys most of the things outside the mainstream? Do you enjoy playing video games, reading comic books and you are into sci-fi? Would you agree that you don\u2019t like going to clubs and big events, and you prefer spending quiet evenings by yourself or with your closest friends? Isn\u2019t it true that all of this isn\u2019t making it easy for you to encontrar el amor<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Estamos a su rescate porque aqu\u00ed hay 10 consejos de citas eficaces para los nerds que sin duda ayudar\u00e1 a cada nerd solo por ah\u00ed encontrar su pareja ideal.<\/p>\n

1. Ac\u00e9ptate a ti mismo<\/h2>\n

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Lo primero que tienes que hacer cuando te lances al mercado de las citas es ser t\u00fa mismo. S\u00e9 que esto es algo que la mayor\u00eda de la gente te dir\u00e1 que hagas, pero rara vez te dar\u00e1n realmente consejos sobre c\u00f3mo hacerlo.<\/p>\n

One of the worst things you can do when you are trying to attract a person of the opposite sex is to pretend you are someone you are not just for her to like you more. Firstly, she will see right through your intentions. Even if you manage to pull this off and if you manage to persuade her that you are someone you are not, sooner or later, your mask will fall off, and she\u2019ll be disappointed in you. Besides, acting will only make you feel bad about yourself, and you\u2019ll never know if this girl is really into you or she actually likes the person you invented.<\/p>\n

No eres como los dem\u00e1s. En lugar de considerar esto como una desventaja de tu personalidad, \u00a1empieza a verlo como tu mayor ventaja frente a todos los dem\u00e1s!<\/p>\n

2. Aceptar a la otra persona<\/h2>\n

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Del mismo modo que debes esforzarte por aceptarte tal y como eres, tambi\u00e9n debes intentar aceptar a la otra persona.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t judge a book by its cover, and don\u2019t try to make assumptions about a girl just by looking at her. You may think that a girl is shallow just because she puts a lot of time and energy into her looks or just because she listens to different music or likes things you are not interested in. You may think that the two of you don\u2019t have anything in common just because she doesn\u2019t share your Star Trek passions or because she hasn\u2019t read Harry Potter.<\/p>\n

But this doesn\u2019t have to be the case. This girl might be tu alma gemela<\/a> y la persona que buscas, a pesar de todas vuestras diferencias. As\u00ed que, en lugar de intentar encontrar a alguien que sea exactamente igual que t\u00fa, abre tu mente a diferentes posibilidades.<\/p>\n

And when you find someone who stands outside of your box, don\u2019t try to change her, and don\u2019t allow her to change you. Instead, enjoy this person\u2019s differences, and use them as an opportunity to expand your horizons and to learn something new.<\/p>\n

3. Pedir consejo a los dem\u00e1s<\/h2>\n

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The truth is that your character and personality are the most important things about you. But let\u2019s face it\u2014we are social and visual beings, and if you want to attract a girl, you have to work on your first impression. That means that she needs to like what she sees and hears when she first meets you.<\/p>\n

The best way to improve your social skills, your looks and your clothing is to rely on the feedback of people who are close to you. Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I am not advising you to let anyone change the essence of who you are just so you could be more likeable to girls. I am just telling you to ask for an opinion of the way you look and the way you are dressed from someone close to you before you go out with a girl.<\/p>\n

4. Trabaja tu autoestima<\/h2>\n

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You know for a fact that most girls like men who are sure about themselves. Men who know what they want and aren\u2019t afraid to get it.<\/p>\n

And when you look at yourself, you know you have a lot to offer but you simply can\u2019t find a way to express this in the right way. The problem is in your lack of confidence.<\/p>\n

No te estoy diciendo que de repente te conviertas en una persona extrovertida o extrovertida si es alguien que no eres. S\u00f3lo estoy aqu\u00ed para darte un consejo sobre c\u00f3mo superar la barrera de incluso hablar con las chicas que te gustan y c\u00f3mo Aumenta tu confianza.<\/a><\/p>\n

The first thing you need to do is to start believing in yourself. But I mean really believing in yourself. And the best way to accomplish that is to focus on your good qualities and to emphasize them. Yes, you have your flaws, but they shouldn\u2019t be on your mind when talking to a girl.<\/p>\n

5. Don\u2019t overthink<\/h2>\n

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Uno de tus mayores errores a la hora de salir con alguien es que probablemente lo analizas todo y permites que tu exceso de pensamientos arruine tu relaci\u00f3n incluso antes de que empiece. Incluso cuando conoces a una chica, lo primero que se te pasa por la cabeza son todos los posibles resultados negativos de tu relaci\u00f3n con ella.<\/p>\n

What if she rejects you right away? What if she starts comparing you with her ex? What if she just wants to use you as a rebound? What if she doesn\u2019t like you? What if you fall in love with her and end up heartbroken?<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll have to stop you right there because these thoughts are one of the cores of your problem. Stop thinking about all the \u2018could haves and should haves\u2019. Stop making all these possible case scenarios in your head before anything has actually happened.<\/p>\n

I am not saying that you should be completely reckless and ignore your gut. I am just telling you that it won\u2019t hurt to be a little more spontaneous. You saw a girl you find cute? Go talk to her, without thinking what might happen. Go with the flow from time to time, and see where it takes you.<\/p>\n

6. Prueba las citas en l\u00ednea en sitios web de citas nerd<\/h2>\n

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Si tienes problemas con tus habilidades sociales y para expresarte verbalmente, el mejor lugar para encontrar a tu pareja perfecta son sin duda los sitios de citas para frikis, repletos de frikis solteros. Estos sitios y aplicaciones de citas te ayudar\u00e1n a encontrar solteros frikis que compartan tus intereses y pasiones.<\/p>\n

When you are chatting with a girl online, she doesn\u2019t see what is happening behind the screen. She can\u2019t see that you are blushing or that your hands are sweating. Nerd dating websites and dating apps give you a lot more time to come up with a response because it is not face-to-face communication.<\/p>\n

And when you finally decide to meet in person with this girl you\u2019ve been chatting with, she\u2019ll already be someone you are familiar with, and there will be a lot less tension on your part. Besides, if you met her on a geek dating site, she will probably understand your insecurities and will not judge you because of them.<\/p>\n

7. Trabaja en ti mismo<\/h2>\n

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Mejorarte a ti mismo es lo que debes hacer constantemente por tu propio bien y no s\u00f3lo para encontrar a alguien, pero sin duda te ayudar\u00e1 a atraer a m\u00e1s gente.<\/p>\n

Work on improving your looks and improving yourself as a person! Don\u2019t be afraid to think outside the box. Don\u2019t be scared to get out of your comfort zone, and expand your interests and horizons. This will help you know more about the world and will automatically, help you be more certain of yourself.<\/p>\n

8. Centrarse en la calidad por encima de la cantidad<\/h2>\n

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I know that plenty of geeks expect to become players overnight, and I hate to disappoint you, but this won\u2019t happen. Besides, the last thing you want to be is some fuckboy who will break girls\u2019 hearts.<\/p>\n

If you are looking for something worthy of your time, you need to focus all of your energy on quality over quantity. Don\u2019t put your efforts into getting laid as much as possible or getting as many phone numbers from different girls in one night because that won\u2019t make you happy, and it is not what you need.<\/p>\n

Instead, be patient enough and wait for the right girl to come along. No, she won\u2019t magically appear in front of you, and this probably won\u2019t be the first girl which crosses your path. But don\u2019t give up on encontrar el adecuado<\/a> just because you\u2019ve met a few wrong ones. And please don\u2019t give up after the first disappointment because the girl for you is out there!<\/p>\n

9. Prep\u00e1rate<\/h2>\n

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Si lo piensas bien, tu mayor problema con las citas es que se te suele trabar la lengua cuando est\u00e1s con chicas. Cuando est\u00e9 solo en casa<\/a> y cuando piensas en todas las cosas que le dir\u00edas a una chica que te gusta, te vienen a la cabeza un mill\u00f3n de cosas interesantes. Pero todo cambia cuando realmente te enfrentas a esa chica. Te pones ansioso y nervioso, y literalmente don\u2019t know what to say<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Tengo una soluci\u00f3n para ti. Antes de salir en una cita o antes de acercarte a una chica que te gusta, prep\u00e1rate. Piensa en algunos rompehielos comunicativos con encanto, respuestas ingeniosas o cosas divertidas que puedan hacerla re\u00edr. Piensa en algunas preguntas que hacerle a tu cita para conocerla mejor y en algunas cosas interesantes que contarle sobre ti.<\/p>\n

Just make sure to use each of these things when the timing is right, and don\u2019t let her get the impression that you have prepared lines you\u2019ve previously memorized.<\/p>\n

10. Don\u2019t be afraid of rejection<\/h2>\n

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Rejection is a part of the dating game, and there is nothing you can do about it. When you look at all those players around you, you think they can get every girl they want, and you assume they\u2019ve never gotten rejected. But trust me\u2014you can\u2019t be more wrong because there doesn\u2019t exist a guy who has never heard no\u2019 as an answer.<\/p>\n

I am not going to lie to\u2014when you put yourself out there, you will get rejected sometimes because there is no magic trick which can make you attractive to every girl you like. So, don\u2019t let this discourage you.<\/p>\n

And most importantly\u2014don\u2019t take it personally. There is the possibility that the girl is lready taken or just not in the mood for someone hitting on her. Remember that a girl is allowed not to like you and that doesn\u2019t mean you are ugly, uninteresting or unattractive. It just means that she doesn\u2019t want to give you a chance and that you should continue trying with someone else.<\/p>\n

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