{"id":24626,"date":"2020-09-28T07:58:20","date_gmt":"2020-09-28T07:58:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=24626"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:15:30","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:15:30","slug":"es-usted-un-cuidador-emocional-en-su-relacion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/es-usted-un-cuidador-emocional-en-su-relacion\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfEs usted un \"cuidador emocional\" en su relaci\u00f3n?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00bfPones las necesidades de los dem\u00e1s por delante de las tuyas? \u00bfEres siempre el que da m\u00e1s, se esfuerza m\u00e1s y hace m\u00e1s en una relaci\u00f3n?<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs usted demasiado emp\u00e1tico? \u00bfTienes tendencia a sacrificar tus propias necesidades, planes y sue\u00f1os para satisfacer los de los dem\u00e1s?<\/p>\n

If the answer to most of these questions is, \u201cYes,\u201d odds are you are an emotional caretaker. You are so used to taking care of others that you forget that you\u2019re in need of care for yourself.<\/em><\/p>\n

Tienes buenas intenciones, pero te est\u00e1s haciendo mucho da\u00f1o. Pones a los dem\u00e1s antes que a ti. Te desv\u00edas de tu camino para hacer cosas por los dem\u00e1s y te sale de forma natural.<\/p>\n

You do it without even giving it a second thought. It\u2019s only later that you realize you are doing all the heavy lifting and you resent them later when you realize that all that giving has left you empty.<\/p>\n

Lo m\u00e1s peligroso de ser un cuidador emocional es que puedes convertirte f\u00e1cilmente en v\u00edctima de narcisistas<\/a>, manipuladores emocionales<\/a>y otros gente t\u00f3xica<\/a> porque tienes mucho que dar y ellos est\u00e1n acostumbrados a recibir.<\/b><\/em><\/p>\n

Aqu\u00ed tienes 6 se\u00f1ales que deber\u00edas buscar en ti mismo para comprobar si realmente eres un cuidador emocional:<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1s renunciando a mucho para estar en esa relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1s renunciando a lo que m\u00e1s te importa sin darte cuenta. Hay una brecha enorme entre t\u00fa y tus amigos o incluso tu familia.<\/p>\n

Te alejas de tus intereses y objetivos e ignoras tus actividades habituales.<\/p>\n

You have basically lost yourself in him and you don\u2019t recognize the person staring back at you in the mirror.<\/p>\n

You redirected your focus and energy solely onto him. Maybe he wanted it that way or maybe it\u2019s your natural urge to take care of the one you love and you overdo it.<\/p>\n

Vas en contra de tu buen juicio<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Sabes que esa persona no te trata bien. Lo \u00fanico que hace es tomar, tomar y tomar, sin pararse nunca a valorar tus esfuerzos, y mucho menos a devolverte algo.<\/p>\n

Sus pautas de comportamiento var\u00edan, pero hacerte sentir peque\u00f1o, insultarte u ofender tus creencias es lo que eclipsa todo lo dem\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Si eres un cuidador emocional, encontrar\u00e1s todo tipo de formas de defenderlos y excusar sus acciones inexcusables.<\/p>\n

Te sientes poco apreciado<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It\u2019s almost like your partner doesn\u2019t see you or doesn\u2019t want to see you. No matter what you do or how hard you try, it all goes unnoticed. You are taken for granted.<\/p>\n

You are forgetting one crucial component of every good relationship\u2014reciprocity. You need someone who will make as much effort as you do.<\/p>\n

Necesitas a alguien que est\u00e9 a la altura de tus inversiones. Alguien que sea tu igual, no alguien a quien intentes contentar y hacer feliz todo el tiempo.<\/p>\n

Guarda secretos a sus seres queridos<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t share what\u2019s happening to you and you keep bottling it all up inside.<\/p>\n

All your loved ones know is that you are different, you\u2019ve changed, and they keep telling you that.<\/p>\n

Te averg\u00fcenzas de tu posici\u00f3n actual, odias que no te valoren o te traten mal en tu relaci\u00f3n y te cuesta admitirlo ante los que te rodean.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s also one of the reasons why you pull away from your friends and family; you don\u2019t like to see them concerned and you don\u2019t like them asking too many questions so it\u2019s easier to keep your distance.<\/p>\n

Te sientes impotente<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

En una relaci\u00f3n sana, tom\u00e1is las decisiones juntos. Nadie asume el papel de jefe.<\/p>\n

In your relationship, that\u2019s not the case, as your partner has a say in everything you do or want to do.<\/p>\n

Te encuentras en una situaci\u00f3n en la que tienes que pedir su aprobaci\u00f3n. Sientes que tienes que luchar por tu derecho b\u00e1sico a vivir tu vida a tu manera.<\/p>\n

They make you feel like you are not good enough and feelings of helplessness consume you. You feel like you are in a situation that you can\u2019t escape from.<\/p>\n

Si este es el escenario en el que vives, no s\u00f3lo eres un cuidador emocional, tambi\u00e9n eres una v\u00edctima de abuso emocional<\/a> y tienes que dejar esa relaci\u00f3n lo antes posible.<\/p>\n

Te resientes por esforzarte demasiado<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Quieres que las cosas cambien a mejor en tu relaci\u00f3n y te est\u00e1s esforzando demasiado para que eso ocurra.<\/p>\n

Nunca te rindes porque est\u00e1s en modo cuidador, asegur\u00e1ndote de que tu pareja es todo lo feliz que puede ser.<\/p>\n

De este modo, no se consigue nada. Todo sigue igual hagas lo que hagas.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why it\u2019s the perfect time to do the opposite. Stop trying. Redirect your focus from him onto yourself. Give him and yourself some space to determine if he is at all invested in you.<\/p>\n

Otra cosa que puedes hacer si te reconoces como cuidador emocional es aprender a exigir.<\/b><\/em><\/p>\n

You also need the love and care you are giving your partner, so maybe it\u2019s time to ask for that back.<\/p>\n

Val\u00f3rate, resp\u00e9tate y qui\u00e9rete. Trabaja constantemente en ti mismo y en mejorar tu confianza.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the only way you will stop being an emotional caretaker and be in a healthy and strong relationship where both of you take care of each other equally.<\/p>\n

\"\u00bfEs<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Are you putting others\u2019 needs before your own? Are you always the one who gives more, tries more and does more in a relationship? Are you overly empathic? Do you have the tendency to sacrifice your own needs, plans, and dreams to accommodate somebody else? If the answer to most of these questions is, \u201cYes,\u201d…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":115007,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29621],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-24626","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-healthy-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29621,"label":"healthy relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Are-You-An-\u2018Emotional-Caretaker-In-Your-Relationship-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29621,"name":"healthy relationship","slug":"healthy-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29621,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","parent":29620,"count":254,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29621,"category_count":254,"category_description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","cat_name":"healthy relationship","category_nicename":"healthy-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24626","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=24626"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24626\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/115007"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=24626"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=24626"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=24626"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}