Stonewalling is not the same as the silent treatment, but they go hand in hand. Where there is one, there is the other. The silent treatment is usually very common in every person\u2019s life.<\/p>\n
You\u2019ve seen it in your family, and you\u2019ve had it with your friends. Usually, it\u2019s not that destructive, and people use it when they are angry about something.<\/p>\n
But giving the silent treatment doesn\u2019t last forever, and in the end, the person who is angry gives in and decides to talk the problem through. Which brings us to the term \u201cstonewalling\u2019.<\/p>\n
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<\/h2>\nIt\u2019s the same as the silent treatment, but if it\u2019s used by a toxic person, then it\u2019s called stonewalling.<\/p>\n
La ligera, pero a la vez enorme, diferencia es que la persona que te est\u00e1 dando largas te est\u00e1 dando la callada por respuesta a prop\u00f3sito.<\/p>\n
They are doing it just to hurt and manipulate you. They are not ignoring you because they are angry, and you\u2019ve hurt their feelings. Stonewalling is just another method narcissists use to destroy their victims.<\/p>\n
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When you need to talk about something, a narcissist won\u2019t shut you down and ignore you completely, but they will avoid giving you the answer to your question.<\/p>\n
Se meter\u00e1n en tu cabeza d\u00e1ndote respuestas vagas e invalidantes.<\/p>\n
This is terribly dangerous for any relationship. Even if it\u2019s not toxic, after some time, it will definitely grow toxic.<\/p>\n
Cuando uno de los interlocutores no est\u00e1 interesado en mantener una conversaci\u00f3n, el otro, que hace las preguntas, se frustra y exige las respuestas.<\/p>\n
Ahora bien, los narcisistas hacen esto a prop\u00f3sito porque el resultado final de esta situaci\u00f3n es una ansiedad y depresi\u00f3n crecientes que se presentan en la mente de la pareja que necesita respuestas pero no las est\u00e1 obteniendo.<\/p>\n
That partner has the feeling that they are being played and manipulated, but they can\u2019t do anything about it.<\/p>\n
En ese sentido, los narcisistas son brillantes. Pueden dejar en rid\u00edculo a casi todo el mundo.<\/p>\n
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Let\u2019s say that you\u2019re sentirse abandonado por su pareja<\/a>. As\u00ed que, naturalmente, quieres hablar con \u00e9l de ello. Quieres enfrentarte a \u00e9l e intentar averiguar cu\u00e1l es el problema.<\/p>\n But all you\u2019re getting in return is dead silence followed by the statement that you\u2019re making a big deal out of it.<\/p>\n He\u2019ll convince you that you\u2019re making a big fuss out of nothing. His tactic is to gaslight you and make you believe in lies which work in his favor.<\/p>\n This upsets you, and you foolishly fall into his trap and try to explain yourself, but he doesn\u2019t want to hear it, so he rejects you.<\/p>\n You feel sad and upset at the same time because you were tricked into thinking that you did something wrong, but you didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n Usually, he leaves the house at this point on purpose to add some guilt to the guilt you\u2019re already feeling.<\/p>\n Pero la trampa en su t\u00e1ctica de lavado de cerebro es el comportamiento que presenta el d\u00eda despu\u00e9s. Act\u00faa como si no hubiera pasado nada.<\/p>\n He acts like you\u2019re the happiest couple alive. If you bring up the subject again, he coldly answers that you have problems which you need to deal with yourself.<\/p>\n \u00bfQu\u00e9 ha pasado aqu\u00ed?<\/em><\/p>\n Te ha dado largas. Interrumpi\u00f3 la conversaci\u00f3n antes de que tuviera lugar.<\/p>\n Hizo caso omiso de tus sentimientos y redirigi\u00f3 la conversaci\u00f3n en la direcci\u00f3n que le conven\u00eda.<\/p>\n Con sus acciones, te hizo sentir tensa y traumatizada. En una relaci\u00f3n normal, esto podr\u00eda haber acabado de otra manera. Podr\u00edais haber resuelto el problema si \u00e9l hubiera accedido a hablar de ello.<\/p>\n Ignorar a un narcisista<\/a> is a very hard thing to do. Their manipulative tactics don\u2019t leave you any choice but to react to their provocations.<\/p>\n That is actually their main goal\u2014to get a reaction out of you, preferably a negative one, so they can feed their egos and feel good about themselves.<\/p>\n La evasi\u00f3n y el silencio son sus m\u00e9todos de manipulaci\u00f3n favoritos cuando quieren castigarte por algo.<\/p>\n You haven\u2019t been acting the way they wanted you to. Maybe you\u2019ve come to your senses and sobered up for a moment.<\/p>\n That scared them. They get scared that if you realize you deserve so much better, you\u2019ll leave them, thus endangering the source of their narcissistic supply. You won\u2019t give them what they need to keep on going.<\/p>\n As\u00ed que necesitan castigarte y destruirte emocionalmente para mantenerte en tu sitio.<\/p>\n Their purpose is to diminish you and regain their control over you. They want to know what you\u2019re doing and why.<\/p>\n They want to make you invisible. They want you to feel insignificant, as if it doesn\u2019t make any difference if you live or die. <\/b><\/p>\n They are playing with your mind to get your confidence very low, so you\u2019re easily controlled.<\/b><\/p>\n What happens next is that you don\u2019t want to be invisible. You\u2019re fighting it, so you come back to them and ask for their approval and attention.<\/p>\n You ask to be visible once again. That was their plan all along\u2014to destroy you by stonewalling and make you beg him to notice you once again. That\u2019s when you\u2019re easily controlled, and that\u2019s when he has restored his peace.<\/p>\n \u00bfCu\u00e1ndo utilizan los narcisistas la evasi\u00f3n y el silencio?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n If you\u2019ve ever wondered c\u00f3mo acabar con un narcisista<\/a>, just follow their lead, see what they do, and you\u2019ll be perfectly fine.<\/p>\n After a breakup, it is extremely hard to go \u2018no contact\u2019 with the person you\u2019ve been with.<\/p>\n Esto es especialmente cierto si estuvieron juntos mucho tiempo o si estuvieron casados y tienen hijos.<\/p>\n La cuesti\u00f3n es que sacar a alguien de tu vida no es f\u00e1cil.<\/p>\n Pero cuando hablamos de narcisistas y sus v\u00edctimas, cortar el contacto es extremadamente duro para las v\u00edctimas.<\/p>\n They have been dependent on the narcissists for so long that they don\u2019t know how to live their lives without the narcissists in it.<\/p>\n So, they want to go back to something that\u2019s known to them. This is when the narcissist makes his move and shuts you down.<\/p>\n Te ignoran a ti y a tus llamadas por completo, haciendo que ans\u00edes su atenci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n Por lo general, el narcisista regresa como un h\u00e9roe, demostrando que su versi\u00f3n de la historia fue correcta todo el tiempo, poni\u00e9ndote en una posici\u00f3n ingrata. Ahora puede controlarte incluso m\u00e1s que antes.<\/p>\n Cuando una reserva narcisista se agota, los narcisistas se sienten amenazados. Se sienten vulnerables y tienen miedo de que alguien les haga da\u00f1o.<\/p>\n When we\u2019re talking about empathy for others, they have none, but for themselves they have plenty.<\/p>\n Cuando sientan una herida narcisista, te dar\u00e1n el tratamiento del silencio para herirte por cortarles el suministro.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll have no idea what is going on. You\u2019ll ask him dozens of questions, and you\u2019ll get short, vague answers which still won\u2019t give a real answer to your question.<\/p>\n This leads you to think it\u2019s your fault and that you did something wrong.<\/p>\n Your insecurities will kick in, and if you show any kind of reaction to his stonewalling, you\u2019re done.<\/p>\n He\u2019ll pin you to the corner and release his anger. He\u2019ll guilt trip you and basically make you feel like you\u2019re small and insignificant.<\/p>\n Quiere que poco a poco te desmorones emocionalmente y dependas s\u00f3lo de \u00e9l.<\/p>\n He\u2019ll give you the silent treatment and leave the house. Then, you\u2019ll try to call, and he won\u2019t answer, and in the eyes of other people, you are the bad guy.<\/p>\n You\u2019re the controlling bitch that won\u2019t leave him alone. You\u2019re the one who calls him nonstop and yells about \u2018unimportant\u2019 stuff.<\/p>\n Cuando te pase algo, cuando m\u00e1s necesites su apoyo, ser\u00e1 fr\u00edo como el hielo.<\/p>\n Un narcisista te ignorar\u00e1<\/a> and shut you out of his life completely. You\u2019re going through hell and you need someone by your side, but he pulls away.<\/p>\n If you try to talk to him about it, he pulls away even further. He is even more distant from you than ever. He won\u2019t stay quiet for long.<\/p>\n He\u2019ll break and blame you for neglecting him. He\u2019ll attack you for being depressed about something and not being able to see how he feels. He will put himself first.<\/p>\n And the truth is, he is hurt, but not because you\u2019re sad\u2014because you\u2019re not providing him with the narcissistic supply he needs. You\u2019re not giving him enough attention.<\/p>\n As\u00ed que necesitan una reacci\u00f3n por tu parte y te ponen trabas para conseguir un nuevo suministro narcisista.<\/p>\n Relacionado: 18 se\u00f1ales de advertencia de un novio controlador<\/a><\/p>\n Se ha demostrado cient\u00edficamente que el da\u00f1o emocional puede provocar dolor f\u00edsico real.<\/p>\n After the constant emotional neglect and trauma a narcissist\u2019s victim goes through, they begin to feel sick. Their emotional injuries have manifested into physical ones.<\/p>\n Stonewalling can happen even in normal relationships, but when it\u2019s chronic, when it lasts a long time, only then it can damage you.<\/p>\n El tratamiento silencioso en las relaciones habituales puede incluso dar lugar a que una relaci\u00f3n cambie a mejor.<\/p>\n Cuando los miembros de la pareja necesitan un descanso el uno del otro, se someten al tratamiento del silencio, pero al cabo de un tiempo hablan y resuelven sus problemas.<\/p>\n Pero la evasi\u00f3n en las relaciones t\u00f3xicas s\u00f3lo se utiliza como una forma de prolongar el abuso y provocar un intenso dolor emocional.<\/em><\/p>\n It\u2019s not your fault! Don\u2019t feel guilty; don\u2019t choose your words carefully because you\u2019re scared you\u2019re going to say something that\u2019ll trigger him.<\/p>\n Stop walking on eggshells around your toxic partner. Stop trying to help him because it\u2019s all a trap.<\/p>\n He\u2019s luring you in to give him enough narcissistic supply. He\u2019s sucking you dry by provoking reactions, and he will never change.<\/p>\n More importantly, he doesn’t want to change. His communication with you is stuck on a toxic level because he wants it that way.<\/p>\n Quiere que reacciones. Quiere que te sientas emocionalmente agotado. Sus acciones est\u00e1n cuidadosamente dise\u00f1adas para disminuirte, para hacer... te sientes in\u00fatil.<\/a><\/p>\n Instead of trying hard to make him notice you (which is exactly what he wants), reconsider if the relationship you\u2019re in is really worth saving.<\/p>\n \u00bfCu\u00e1ntas veces te ha pasado esto? \u00bfCu\u00e1ntas veces te ha bloqueado de su vida y te ha enga\u00f1ado para que vuelvas arrastr\u00e1ndote, mendigando su atenci\u00f3n?<\/em><\/p>\n Ocurre una y otra vez cuando \u00e9l quiere.<\/p>\n Tienes que aprovechar el tiempo de silencio y utilizarlo para curarte. Piensa solo en ti y en lo que necesitas.<\/p>\n C\u00e9ntrate en mejorar t\u00fa y no en hacerle feliz a \u00e9l. La \u00fanica manera de hacerlo es desprendi\u00e9ndote de verdad de un narcisista.<\/p>\n You can\u2019t decide when to do it, but you\u2019ll know when the time is right.<\/p>\n That will be the hardest decision you\u2019ve ever made in your life. Going no tener contacto con un narcisista<\/a> ser\u00e1 un proceso insoportablemente doloroso y largo.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll want to go back. You\u2019ll feel that you need him. After that much emotional abuse, neglect, confusion and a feeling of being worthless, it takes guts to find the courage and strength to pick yourself up and preserve your common sense.<\/p>\n\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 los narcisistas utilizan la evasi\u00f3n y el silencio?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. Despu\u00e9s de una ruptura<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n2. Todos los d\u00edas<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n3. Cuando m\u00e1s lo necesitas<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nConsecuencias psicol\u00f3gicas de la obstrucci\u00f3n y el tratamiento silencioso<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer si eres v\u00edctima de un bloqueo?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u00bfC\u00f3mo puedes curarte?<\/h2>\n
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