{"id":2537,"date":"2017-07-14T11:09:04","date_gmt":"2017-07-14T11:09:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=2537"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:40:17","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:40:17","slug":"por-que-me-cuesta-tanto-dejarlo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/por-que-me-cuesta-tanto-dejarlo\/","title":{"rendered":"Por qu\u00e9 me cuesta tanto dejarlo"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Dejar a alguien siempre conlleva una monta\u00f1a rusa de emociones. Llevaba mucho tiempo en una relaci\u00f3n y me hab\u00eda dado cuenta de que era hora de pasar p\u00e1gina, pero dar ese \u00faltimo paso fue una experiencia dolorosa.<\/p>\n<p>I was asking myself: \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/hard-leave-one-love\/\">\u00bfC\u00f3mo puedo dejar a alguien a quien amo?<\/a> How can I escape from all those emotions that are constantly following me? Is there a secret formula to get over a breakup?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>A lot of people would like to know an answer to this question but in the end, there isn&#8217;t any clever solution. For me, the only solution was to listen to my heart. I wasn&#8217;t satisfied in the relationship and I decided it was better to move on. The worst thing I could do to myself was stay in a toxic relationship. I wouldn&#8217;t love my partner and he wouldn&#8217;t love me.<\/p>\n<p>So, what&#8217;s the point? Is it so hard to say goodbye and try to find your own way?<\/p>\n<p>I was asking myself the same question a year ago. When things weren&#8217;t the same anymore. When <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/reality-check-5-signs-falling-love\/\">dej\u00f3 de preocuparse por m\u00ed.<\/a> Y entonces me di cuenta de que, aunque sea dif\u00edcil volver a empezar, al final valdr\u00e1 la pena. Probablemente todos hay\u00e1is tenido alguna experiencia agridulce en vuestra vida y tomar una decisi\u00f3n acertada en el momento oportuno podr\u00eda salvaros de las l\u00e1grimas.<\/p>\n<p><strong>V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n:<\/strong>\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/9-things-breakup-pick-move\/\">9 cosas que deber\u00edas hacer tras una ruptura para levantarte y seguir adelante<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Probablemente estar\u00e1s destrozado y tu mundo se desmoronar\u00e1 como el m\u00edo. Pasar\u00e1s d\u00edas enteros en tu habitaci\u00f3n pensando en todos esos momentos divertidos que vivisteis. Pensar\u00e1s que te est\u00e1 llamando cada vez que oigas sonar tu tel\u00e9fono. Y sinceramente, \u00a1eso apesta! Es curioso c\u00f3mo nos volvemos adictos a ciertas personas en nuestra vida. S\u00e9 que yo lo hice.<\/p>\n<p>Pasar todos los d\u00edas con ellos no es s\u00f3lo algo que hacemos, se convierte en nuestro estilo de vida, y querida, es muy dif\u00edcil deshacerse de los viejos h\u00e1bitos. Pero bueno, si lo miras desde el otro \u00e1ngulo ver\u00e1s que es mejor hacer algo tarde que nunca.<\/p>\n<p>Personas <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/4-razones-por-las-que-las-mujeres-mantienen-malas-relaciones\/\">pasar mucho tiempo en malas relaciones<\/a> and it is not because they want to\u2014it is because they don&#8217;t have guts to say the game is over. For them, it is easier to go with the flow. Why be with someone you feel like a piece of shit with? There are millions of other opportunities for you and yet you are stuck in the middle and can&#8217;t get out.<\/p>\n<p>Well, do something about it. Be energetic about your life. Do things that make you happy. If you know how to please yourself, you will know how to please others as well. Only a fulfilled person is a happy person. Please don&#8217;t forget that.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-2539 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/stefan-stefancik-120247.jpg\" alt=\"Mujer mirando por encima del hombro\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/stefan-stefancik-120247.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/stefan-stefancik-120247-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/stefan-stefancik-120247-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/stefan-stefancik-120247-180x120.jpg 180w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/stefan-stefancik-120247-262x175.jpg 262w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Era malo cuando era soltera pero entonces me vino a la mente que a veces <a href=\"http:\/\/elitedaily.com\/life\/culture\/spending-time-alone-better-wasting-wrong-company\/820483\/\" rel=\"noopener\">es mejor estar solo que mal acompa\u00f1ado<\/a>. I knew my heart will tell me who the right person is for me. Maybe I was waiting a little bit longer but I wasn&#8217;t worried that I won&#8217;t get what I want. I had to wait because I deserved better!<\/p>\n<p>So, if you ever feel that you are not YOU anymore, try to talk with your partner. Go over the problems you have. Talk and listen! Don&#8217;t be selfish and don&#8217;t think about your feelings only. Try to figure out who is guilty in this relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Who lost interest? Why isn&#8217;t there your old spark that was moving things forward? While talking, you will figure out whether the two of you want the same things.<\/p>\n<p>Si la respuesta es afirmativa, estupendo, y si es negativa, no es el fin del mundo. \u00a1Nunca llores sobre la leche derramada!<br \/>\nThe bottom line is that you don&#8217;t need to change yourself because of your partner. Make a change in your life when you feel the right moment for that. And never let anyone convince you of the opposite! That&#8217;s what I did.<\/p>\n<p>I was honest to myself and to my partner and accepted the fact that we weren&#8217;t meant to have our story in this time and place. Just remember that destiny will never close one door until another one gets opened!<br \/>\n(It&#8217;s not so bitchy after all!)<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Leaving someone always comes with a roller coaster of emotions. I had been in a long relationship and I had realized it was time to move on, but doing that last step was a painful experience. I was asking myself: \u201cHow can I leave someone I love? How can I escape from all those emotions&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":2538,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2537","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/love-2381378_1920.jpg",800,470,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2537","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2537"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2537\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2538"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2537"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2537"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2537"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}