{"id":25635,"date":"2018-10-12T11:40:28","date_gmt":"2018-10-12T11:40:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=25635"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:06:30","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:06:30","slug":"5-cosas-cruciales-que-aprendi-de-una-relacion-destructiva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/5-cosas-cruciales-que-aprendi-de-una-relacion-destructiva\/","title":{"rendered":"5 cosas cruciales que aprend\u00ed de una relaci\u00f3n destructiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

Roughly a year ago, I was a completely different person. I wasn\u2019t aware of it at the time but I didn\u2019t know how to love myself. I never knew my worth. I was so used to not being good enough and yelled at for every little thing I did wrong (according to You), that I believed it to be normal. I didn\u2019t know what it meant to be loved or appreciated, and it was all because of You.<\/p>\n

You made me feel like I should be thankful for the pathetic fragments of the so-called \u2018\u2019love\u2019 I was receiving from You.<\/p>\n

Hoy soy una persona nueva.<\/b><\/p>\n

I am finally brave enough to stand up for myself and to not be ashamed of wanting something better. It took me a long time but now I know what I deserve and I am smart enough to not let You treat me like I\u2019m a commodity who is only deserving of love and attention at Your convenience. Here are all the ways Your shitty self made me stronger and greater:<\/p>\n

1. Por fin s\u00e9 lo que valgo<\/h2>\n

During our relationship, I was always self-conscious about voicing my opinion, or God forbid, not agreeing with You on something. That was not allowed. Well now, after enduring so many years of suppressed emotions, I can happily say I don\u2019t give a crap about what You think I deserve. Soy MUCHO m\u00e1s<\/span><\/a> de lo que tu lamentable trasero me hizo sentir. Soy m\u00e1s de lo que T\u00fa nunca sabr\u00e1s, y ahora que lo s\u00e9, nunca dejar\u00e9 que nadie me maltrate de ninguna manera. As\u00ed que, gracias.<\/p>\n

2. Aprend\u00ed que est\u00e1 bien decir no<\/h2>\n

Siempre me obligabas a estar de acuerdo con todo lo que decid\u00edas y nunca me permit\u00edas opinar. Siempre hiciste que pareciera que lo hac\u00edas todo por mi bien y que yo no era capaz de tomar una decisi\u00f3n sobre nada que tuviera que ver con nosotros ni siquiera conmigo misma.<\/p>\n

Esos d\u00edas ya pasaron.<\/b><\/p>\n

When I freed myself of You, I realized how much I was being denied and how much more in control I can and SHOULD be of my life. After all, it is MY life, and who are You to tell me what I can or cannot do? Luckily, I am done with that, and today, I enjoy saying, \u2018\u2019No,\u2019\u2019 immensely. Whenever and to whomever.<\/p>\n

3. I don’t need to justify myself to anyone<\/h2>\n

Si quiero salir con mis amigas y bailar toda la noche (sin tener que informar a mi pareja cada 30 minutos), \u00a1eso es exactamente lo que voy a hacer! Nadie es due\u00f1o de m\u00ed ni de mi cuerpo, y voy a disfrutar sin sentirme culpable por ello. Merezco divertirme y no necesito justificarlo ante nadie. Ya no.<\/p>\n

4. Merezco todo el amor del mundo<\/h2>\n

S\u00ed, me escuchaste. La naturaleza posesiva de Tu enferma y retorcida visi\u00f3n del amor hace tiempo que se ha ido y olvidado, y gracias a Dios por fin me di cuenta de lo enfermo y malsano que era estar contigo. Estaba tan agradecida cuando me mostrabas alguna atenci\u00f3n que olvid\u00e9 lo que era amar y ser amada. El tipo de amor puro, genuino y desinteresado, con defectos y todo. Me enferma haberme permitido pensar que no lo merec\u00eda. Doy gracias por haber aprendido a abrir los ojos y cerrar la puerta (de una vez por todas) a tus maneras manipuladoras.<\/p>\n

5. Yo elijo con qui\u00e9n paso mi vida<\/h2>\n

El hecho de que manipularas tu camino hacia mi coraz\u00f3n y enmascararas tus verdaderas intenciones hasta gan\u00e1rtelo, no significa que te deba mi felicidad. La persona de la que me enamor\u00e9 no es la persona que resultaste ser. Es repugnante c\u00f3mo me enga\u00f1aste haci\u00e9ndome creer que te amaba y me hiciste sentir que eras mi \u00fanica opci\u00f3n. NUNCA LO FUISTE y ahora que por fin lo s\u00e9, estoy HARTA de Ti. Merezco encontrar a alguien que me aprecie y me ame por lo que soy, aunque eso signifique estar sola mientras tanto.<\/p>\n

See, I\u2019ve finally realized something. I would much rather spend the following years of my life alone (read: single) than to spend a minute more with a <\/b>maestro manipulador<\/b><\/a> como t\u00fa mismo.<\/b><\/p>\n

I am no longer the naive, self-conscious young girl You once knew. You\u2019d be surprised to see how much I\u2019ve learned since finding the courage to leave You. I have never felt more alive and I cannot wait to see what life has planned for me. One thing is for sure… YOU made me who I am today, and for that, I thank You.
\nEspero que tengas todo lo que te mereces, y m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Xoxo,
\nEl que se escap\u00f3<\/p>\n

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