{"id":26433,"date":"2018-10-22T08:31:46","date_gmt":"2018-10-22T08:31:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=26433"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:54:47","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:54:47","slug":"los-tres-principales-estilos-de-apego-y-como-afectan-a-la-relacion-de-pareja","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/los-tres-principales-estilos-de-apego-y-como-afectan-a-la-relacion-de-pareja\/","title":{"rendered":"Los 3 principales \"estilos de apego\" y c\u00f3mo afectan a la relaci\u00f3n de pareja"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00bfAlguna vez ha sentido que repite o revive el mismo escenario en lo que respecta a su vida amorosa? La que va cuesta abajo. Aquella en la que tienes los mismos patrones de comportamiento. La causa principal puede ser tu estilo de apego.<\/p>\n

Attachment style is something we develop in our early childhood and it affects our further adult life immensely. It\u2019s caused by the relationship we have with our parents or caregivers.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 es importante para ti y para tu relaci\u00f3n conocer tu estilo de apego? <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Identificar su estilo de apego le ayuda a determinar si es realmente compatible con su pareja.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, tu estilo de apego marca la forma en que eliges a tu pareja y el modo en que progresa tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

The bad thing is that you can\u2019t know your partner’s attachment style until you are in a relationship with them.<\/p>\n

For instance, a lot of toxic manipulators will be charming at the beginning of the relationship and you won\u2019t discover their true nature until it\u2019s too late.<\/p>\n

Para poder entender mejor este concepto, vamos a echar un vistazo a los tres principales estilos de apego y a los efectos que tienen en tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

1. Fijaci\u00f3n segura<\/h2>\n

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Comportamiento relacional:<\/b><\/p>\n

People who belong to this attachment style are able to fully trust their partner. They don\u2019t show any signos de celos<\/span><\/a> o posesividad hacia su pareja.<\/p>\n

They and their partner are sure of each other and in their relationship. They don\u2019t have to text or call when they are out with friends. They have their own, which is a great thing.<\/p>\n

But what\u2019s even better is that they also have the life they share together, things to do alone and mutual friends to hang out with.<\/p>\n

Their relationship is healthy. It\u2019s not suffocating in any way. They love in such a way that makes them feel free but nevertheless strongly bonded.<\/p>\n

Influencia de la infancia:<\/b><\/p>\n

Crecieron en un entorno seguro y cari\u00f1oso. Sus padres o cuidadores les ense\u00f1aron que siempre estar\u00edan ah\u00ed cada vez que volvieran a ellos.<\/p>\n

Inconscientemente, aplican este comportamiento a su relaci\u00f3n. No importa cu\u00e1nto tiempo pasen haciendo algo sin su pareja, siempre pueden contar con volver a ella.<\/p>\n

2. Apego ansioso<\/h2>\n

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Comportamiento relacional:<\/b><\/p>\n

Este estilo se caracteriza por personas llenas de inseguridades y faltas de confianza, principalmente en s\u00ed mismas y luego en la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Querr\u00e1n pasar todo el tiempo en su apartamento y cada vez que su pareja no est\u00e9 con ellos, se sentir\u00e1n abrumados por el sentimiento de los celos. Son posesivos y controladores.<\/p>\n

They fear that they will lose their loved one if they are out of sight, that\u2019s why they don\u2019t leave them be. They are on their case at every given moment.<\/p>\n

They text and they call when you are hanging out with someone else. They don\u2019t really understand why you need other people besides them in your life.<\/p>\n

En el peor de los casos, este estilo de apego puede derivar en un comportamiento t\u00f3xico y abusivo y puede llegar a ser muy peligroso tanto para su salud mental como f\u00edsica.<\/p>\n

Influencia de la infancia:<\/b><\/p>\n

Las personas vinculadas a este estilo de apego tuvieron una infancia un poco dura. Nunca recibieron realmente lo que necesitaban de sus padres o cuidadores.<\/p>\n

They didn\u2019t feel safe or heard. They lacked attention and most probably affection. They are scared that their romantic relationship won\u2019t give them what they need either.<\/p>\n

3. Apego evitativo<\/h2>\n

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Comportamiento relacional:<\/b><\/p>\n

Como su nombre indica, las personas que tienen este estilo de apego evitan las relaciones. Evitan acercarse demasiado a alguien.<\/p>\n

Even if they enter into a relationship, it took a lot from them to surpass their fears and take a leap of faith. But usually, due to their deeply rooted trust issues, those relationships don\u2019t last long.<\/p>\n

They enter a relationship believing or fearing that it will fail and it usually happens that way. It\u2019s like a self-fulfilling prophecy. They attract what they believe in.<\/p>\n

So in a way, they are sabotaging their own relationships. They are not sure of themselves and deep down they just think they are not good enough. That\u2019s why they are often pegajoso<\/a> o necesitados.<\/p>\n

Influencia de la infancia:<\/b><\/p>\n

Por alguna raz\u00f3n, las personas de este estilo estaban realmente desvinculadas de sus padres o cuidadores. Pod\u00eda ser tanto f\u00edsica como emocionalmente.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t have to be that their parents abandoned them exactly\u2014they might have spent a lot of time in a hospital or somewhere where they couldn\u2019t see their parents as much as they needed.<\/p>\n

They might have been living in the same house but had parents who were workaholics or even addicts and didn\u2019t pay enough attention to them.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer al respecto? <\/b><\/p>\n

Just because your attachment style is anxious or avoidant, that doesn\u2019t mean it cannot be helped. You can still be in a happy, healthy and long-lasting relationship even though it\u2019s not going to be easy.<\/p>\n

Lo mejor es buscar asesoramiento profesional, confiar en el proceso y ser paciente. Cuanto m\u00e1s extremo sea el apego, m\u00e1s tiempo tardar\u00e1 en curarse.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s really hard to do anything on your own but the sole fact that you know your attachment style is taking you one step closer to solving your issues.<\/p>\n

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