{"id":26726,"date":"2020-11-26T08:29:09","date_gmt":"2020-11-26T08:29:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=26726"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:08:04","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:08:04","slug":"asi-es-como-me-recupere-del-desamor-que-casi-me-mata","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/asi-es-como-me-recupere-del-desamor-que-casi-me-mata\/","title":{"rendered":"As\u00ed es como me recuper\u00e9 de la angustia que casi me mata"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019ve survived two heartbreaks\u2014one <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/unrequited-love-not-deserve\/\">amor no correspondido<\/a> and a heartbreak that almost killed me. All of you who have gone or are going through the same will know what I\u2019m talking about.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s the feeling of emptiness. I felt like someone ripped out my heart and cut it into small pieces. I could barely breathe. I wasn\u2019t even aware of my own existence.<\/p>\n<p>If someone started making me laugh, it would take minutes for my lips to move and imitate a smile. Even then, I wasn\u2019t aware of myself smiling or what I was doing.<\/p>\n<p>I couldn\u2019t eat. I would chew on one bite for hours. My mother would keep preparing my favorite food in the hope that I would somehow come to my senses and start eating like I\u2019d never eaten before.<\/p>\n<p>Estaba enfadada conmigo misma por dejar que me pasara esto. Me dije a m\u00ed mismo: <i>You\u2019ll never love again. NEVER.<\/i><\/p>\n<p>Ver c\u00f3mo mis amigos y mi familia intentaban hacerme sentir mejor me hac\u00eda sentir a\u00fan peor. Un d\u00eda, me mir\u00e9 al espejo y empec\u00e9 a gritarme, tras lo cual acab\u00e9 llorando.<\/p>\n<p>Una noche entre l\u00e1grimas se convirti\u00f3 en mi mayor alivio. Las l\u00e1grimas fueron mi nana, mi mayor amigo y mi \u00fanica escapatoria de la miseria. Me dije a m\u00ed misma:<\/p>\n<p><i>Nunca m\u00e1s te dejar\u00e9 entrar en mi coraz\u00f3n. Borrar\u00e9 cada fragmento de tu amor ego\u00edsta. Exprimir\u00e9 mi coraz\u00f3n y se lo arrojar\u00e9 a alg\u00fan animal salvaje para que lo devore.<\/i><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-123868\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/woman-with-curly-hairstyle.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con peinado rizado\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/woman-with-curly-hairstyle.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/woman-with-curly-hairstyle-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/woman-with-curly-hairstyle-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/woman-with-curly-hairstyle-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/woman-with-curly-hairstyle-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/woman-with-curly-hairstyle-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/woman-with-curly-hairstyle-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/woman-with-curly-hairstyle-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/> Sab\u00eda que esto no eran m\u00e1s que ilusiones m\u00edas. Si quer\u00eda recuperarme, tendr\u00eda que encontrar otra forma, una forma m\u00e1s pr\u00e1ctica.<\/p>\n<p>So, I decided to force myself to feel better. I decided to fake my smile at the times when I couldn\u2019t smile. I decided to pretend that I was eating greedily at the times I couldn\u2019t eat. I decided to feel happy even though I was miserable.<\/p>\n<p>Perhaps if you pretend that you\u2019re good, you\u2019ll somehow start feeling good. I always believed that our mind is much stronger than our body.<\/p>\n<p>Si tu mente le ordena algo a tu cuerpo, tu cuerpo obedecer\u00e1 sus \u00f3rdenes.<\/p>\n<p>As\u00ed que dej\u00e9 que mi mente ordenara a mi cuerpo que me sent\u00eda bien. Al principio, no era tan f\u00e1cil, pero me esforzaba mucho.<\/p>\n<p>My biggest motivations were my friends and family. When you\u2019re in such a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/6-maneras-de-recuperarle-sin-parecer-desesperada\/\">desesperado<\/a> state, you don\u2019t care about yourself or what will happen to you.<\/p>\n<p>You only care about those who are watching you. I couldn\u2019t stand the fact that they were starting to feel miserable too, because of me. I promised myself that I would not let his poison reach my friends and family.<\/p>\n<p>I would suck out his poison like you do after you\u2019re bitten by a snake. I realized that he was not worthy of my pain or my endless, sleepless nights.<\/p>\n<p>No era digno de estar en el centro de mi mente.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-123869\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-window.jpg\" alt=\"mujer triste mirando por la ventana\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-window.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-window-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-window-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-window-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-window-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-window-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-window-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Decid\u00ed deshacerme de todas las cosas que me recordaban a \u00e9l. Me deshice de todas las cartas, de los ositos de peluche y de algunas figuritas con formas de animales diferentes.<\/p>\n<p>Me asegur\u00e9 de borrarlo de mis redes sociales y tambi\u00e9n borr\u00e9 sus n\u00fameros de tel\u00e9fono.<\/p>\n<p><b>Lo borr\u00e9.<\/b><b><br \/>\n<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Sent\u00ed que me hab\u00eda quitado un gran peso de encima. Sent\u00ed que estaba preparada para empezar a vivir de nuevo.<\/p>\n<p>Me centr\u00e9 \u00fanicamente en el presente y en lo que estaba haciendo en ese momento. No dej\u00e9 que mi mente divagara y pensara en el pasado porque as\u00ed nunca podr\u00eda empezar a vivir el presente.<\/p>\n<p>And if you don\u2019t live in the present, you\u2019ll never get rid of your past. During the day was easy because I\u2019d always make sure that I was occupied with something.<\/p>\n<p>Pero las noches eran mi enemigo mortal. Durante la noche, empezaba a vagar por las calles m\u00e1s oscuras de mi cerebro y ten\u00eda que escuchar m\u00fasica hasta que la sensaci\u00f3n se desvanec\u00eda.<\/p>\n<p>Pronto me di cuenta de que ya no fing\u00eda. Poco a poco, mi sonrisa se volvi\u00f3 genuina y mis amigos y mi familia se convirtieron en las personas m\u00e1s felices del mundo.<\/p>\n<p>Estaba muy orgullosa de m\u00ed misma. El vac\u00edo se llen\u00f3 de alegr\u00eda. Mi coraz\u00f3n volv\u00eda a estar vivo.<\/p>\n<p>I would pinch myself for five seconds to be sure that it was not a dream. I wasn\u2019t dreaming. I was alive again.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-123867\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Heres-How-I-Recovered-From-The-Heartbreak-That-Almost-Killed-Me-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"As\u00ed es como me recuper\u00e9 de la angustia que casi me mata\" width=\"1587\" height=\"2245\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Heres-How-I-Recovered-From-The-Heartbreak-That-Almost-Killed-Me-Pinterest.jpg 1587w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Heres-How-I-Recovered-From-The-Heartbreak-That-Almost-Killed-Me-Pinterest-212x300.jpg 212w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Heres-How-I-Recovered-From-The-Heartbreak-That-Almost-Killed-Me-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg 724w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Heres-How-I-Recovered-From-The-Heartbreak-That-Almost-Killed-Me-Pinterest-768x1086.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Heres-How-I-Recovered-From-The-Heartbreak-That-Almost-Killed-Me-Pinterest-1086x1536.jpg 1086w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Heres-How-I-Recovered-From-The-Heartbreak-That-Almost-Killed-Me-Pinterest-1448x2048.jpg 1448w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Heres-How-I-Recovered-From-The-Heartbreak-That-Almost-Killed-Me-Pinterest-150x212.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1587px) 100vw, 1587px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019ve survived two heartbreaks\u2014one unrequited love and a heartbreak that almost killed me. All of you who have gone or are going through the same will know what I\u2019m talking about. It\u2019s the feeling of emptiness. I felt like someone ripped out my heart and cut it into small pieces. I could barely breathe. I&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":123870,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-26726","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Heres-How-I-Recovered-From-The-Heartbreak-That-Almost-Killed-Me-1024x683.jpg",1024,683,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26726","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=26726"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26726\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/123870"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=26726"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=26726"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=26726"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}