{"id":27147,"date":"2020-06-05T08:47:06","date_gmt":"2020-06-05T08:47:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=27147"},"modified":"2023-01-04T09:29:22","modified_gmt":"2023-01-04T09:29:22","slug":"5-razones-ultimas-por-las-que-sigues-atrayendo-a-los-fobicos-al-compromiso","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/5-razones-ultimas-por-las-que-sigues-atrayendo-a-los-fobicos-al-compromiso\/","title":{"rendered":"5 razones definitivas por las que sigues atrayendo a los f\u00f3bicos al compromiso"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>We all know how it goes. You start dating him, and everything seems idyllic\u2014until you find out that it is not. In the beginning, he\u2019ll do anything to show you how much he cares about you.<\/p>\n<p>Te llama diez veces al d\u00eda, te dice cu\u00e1nto <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/como-distanciarte-de-el-para-que-te-eche-de-menos-y-vuelva\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> te echa de menos <\/a> and he makes plans weeks in advance. Then all of a sudden\u2014he\u2019s gone!<\/p>\n<p>Deja de llamarte y de responder a tus llamadas como antes. Empieza a poner excusas, deja de mostrarte afecto y ya sabes el resto.<\/p>\n<p>You realize that he\u2019s afraid of commitment and whatever you do or say will only make it worse.<\/p>\n<p>If you end up with a commitment-phobe once, it\u2019s not a big deal. But, if you constantly keep attracting them, then you should start questioning why it is so.<\/p>\n<p>Here are 5 reasons why you keep attracting commitment-phobes that even you yourself weren\u2019t aware of.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">You don\u2019t have boundaries<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-108698\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-looking-through-window.jpg\" alt=\"mujer atenta mirando por la ventana\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-looking-through-window.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-looking-through-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-looking-through-window-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-looking-through-window-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-looking-through-window-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-looking-through-window-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-looking-through-window-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-looking-through-window-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Perhaps you keep attracting commitment-phobes because you didn\u2019t set boundaries. You keep accepting their bad behavior regardless of the situation.<\/p>\n<p>For example, he regularly lets you wait for him to show up on a date, and you\u2019re not telling him that it bothers you. You keep waiting, and he keeps coming when he wants.<\/p>\n<p>If you don\u2019t set boundaries, he\u2019ll <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/not-rebuild-take-granted\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> darte por sentado <\/a> just because he can. He\u2019ll see that you\u2019re eager to accept anything he gives you, and that way, you\u2019ll lose respect.<\/p>\n<p>Once he sees you won\u2019t tolerate his bullshit, he\u2019ll know that he can\u2019t act the way he wants because he\u2019ll be afraid of losing you.<\/p>\n<p>When you have firm boundaries, he\u2019ll appreciate them and will make an effort to show you how much he cares.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Crees que puedes cambiarlos<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-108702\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-the-floor.jpg\" alt=\"mujer atenta sentada en el suelo\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-the-floor.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>One of the main reasons why women keep attracting men who are afraid of commitment is because women think they can change them. Believe me, you can\u2019t.<\/p>\n<p>Una persona con fobia al compromiso s\u00f3lo cambiar\u00e1 si \u00e9l lo decide. No lo har\u00e1 porque usted lo quiera o porque otra persona lo desee.<\/p>\n<p>The only thing that you\u2019ll surely accomplish is to waste your time on him even though he doesn\u2019t deserve it.<\/p>\n<p>La mejor soluci\u00f3n es <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/day-fell-love-day-shouldve-run-life\/\">corre por tu vida<\/a> y ni siquiera intentar salvarlos.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">You\u2019re the one doing most of the work<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-108706\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-and-hugging-pillow.jpg\" alt=\"mujer triste sentada en el sof\u00e1 y abrazando la almohada\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-and-hugging-pillow.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-and-hugging-pillow-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-and-hugging-pillow-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-and-hugging-pillow-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-and-hugging-pillow-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-and-hugging-pillow-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-and-hugging-pillow-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-and-hugging-pillow-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re the one doing most of the work, he\u2019ll get bored because he\u2019ll think he doesn\u2019t have to fight to win your attention.<\/p>\n<p>He\u2019ll just wait for you to do all the work, and when you think you\u2019ve got him, he\u2019ll run away.<\/p>\n<p>Para evitarlo, exige siempre reciprocidad. Si le das un beso, \u00a1exige lo mismo! Si le preparas una taza de caf\u00e9, \u00a1exige lo mismo!<\/p>\n<p>Whatever you do, demand the same to be done for you. You shouldn\u2019t be the one doing most of the work because relationships are all about reciprocity, mutual respect and appreciation.<\/p>\n<p>If you show him that you don\u2019t have a problem with doing everything he asks, he will not take you seriously.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">You think you don\u2019t deserve love<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-108708\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-scaled.jpg\" alt=\"mujer triste sentada en el sof\u00e1 \" width=\"1600\" height=\"1067\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-scaled.jpg 2560w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-scaled-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-2048x1365.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-scaled-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-scaled-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you think you don\u2019t deserve love, you\u2019ll subconsciously act like it. When you feel unworthy of love, you accept every kind of it without hesitation.<\/p>\n<p>Perhaps you\u2019ve been hurt before, and they made you feel like you don\u2019t deserve love and commitment. You know it\u2019s not true.<\/p>\n<p>Si alguien merece experimentar el amor, el compromiso y el aprecio de verdad, ese eres T\u00da. Nunca aceptes menos y nunca dejes que te digan lo contrario.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Maybe you\u2019re the one who\u2019s afraid of commitment (without even knowing it)<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-108710\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-wearing-hoodie.jpg\" alt=\"mujer triste con capucha\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-wearing-hoodie.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-wearing-hoodie-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-wearing-hoodie-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-wearing-hoodie-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-wearing-hoodie-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-wearing-hoodie-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-wearing-hoodie-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-wearing-hoodie-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Perhaps you\u2019re the one who\u2019s afraid of commitment and that is the main reason why you keep attracting the same.<\/p>\n<p>Ask yourself whether you\u2019re ready for something serious or you\u2019re just into casual dating.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re just into casual dating, there\u2019s no need to blame them for being commitment-phobes.<\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re one hundred percent sure what you want, you\u2019ll find a way to get it, and the amount of men who are afraid of commitment will decrease.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-108716\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/5-Ultimate-Reasons-Why-You-Keep-Attracting-Commitment-Phobes-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"5 razones definitivas por las que sigues atrayendo a los f\u00f3bicos al compromiso\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/5-Ultimate-Reasons-Why-You-Keep-Attracting-Commitment-Phobes-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/5-Ultimate-Reasons-Why-You-Keep-Attracting-Commitment-Phobes-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/5-Ultimate-Reasons-Why-You-Keep-Attracting-Commitment-Phobes-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/5-Ultimate-Reasons-Why-You-Keep-Attracting-Commitment-Phobes-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/5-Ultimate-Reasons-Why-You-Keep-Attracting-Commitment-Phobes-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We all know how it goes. You start dating him, and everything seems idyllic\u2014until you find out that it is not. In the beginning, he\u2019ll do anything to show you how much he cares about you. He calls you ten times a day, tells you how much he misses you and he makes plans weeks&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":108712,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29625],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-27147","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-toxic-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29625,"label":"toxic relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/5-Ultimate-Reasons-Why-You-Keep-Attracting-Commitment-Phobes-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29625,"name":"toxic relationship","slug":"toxic-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29625,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? 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