{"id":27675,"date":"2020-04-13T10:56:48","date_gmt":"2020-04-13T10:56:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=27675"},"modified":"2021-12-03T22:30:10","modified_gmt":"2021-12-03T22:30:10","slug":"8-etapas-de-curacion-tras-escapar-del-gaslighting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/8-etapas-de-curacion-tras-escapar-del-gaslighting\/","title":{"rendered":"8 etapas de la curaci\u00f3n tras escapar del gaslighting"},"content":{"rendered":"

No me averg\u00fcenza decirlo, ya no. Fui abusada emocionalmente. Fui gaslighted todos los d\u00edas en mi relaci\u00f3n del infierno.<\/p>\n

Se esforzaba tanto en convencerme cada d\u00eda de que la loca era yo. Mov\u00eda cosas en el apartamento y me convenc\u00eda de que yo lo hab\u00eda hecho.<\/p>\n

He told stories about me, about things which I\u2019d never done and he convinced me that I had done but I was too embarrassed so I buried them deep inside my mind.<\/p>\n

He isolated me from all of my friends so I don\u2019t get any support whatsoever. He apologized, although he never meant it; it was just to get me back into the relationship.<\/p>\n

And if that didn\u2019t work, he insulted me and put me down. He wanted me to feel insignificant. He needed that to control me.<\/p>\n

Neg\u00f3 mi realidad. Me menospreciaba y me hac\u00eda dudar de m\u00ed misma. Siempre dec\u00eda que \u00e9l ten\u00eda raz\u00f3n y yo estaba equivocada.<\/p>\n

Me dijo que ten\u00eda que confiar en \u00e9l porque no ten\u00eda buen juicio. Que estaba loca y que necesitaba ayuda y que \u00e9l estaba all\u00ed para ayudarme.<\/p>\n

Su abuso era perfectamente \u00fanico. El luz de gas<\/a> que realizaba era la forma perfecta de controlarme y abusar emocionalmente de m\u00ed. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Consigui\u00f3 cambiar mi visi\u00f3n del mundo, mi sentido del yo y mi creencia en m\u00ed mismo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I ended up questioning everything and everyone. I didn\u2019t have a voice of my own and even when it appeared, I\u2019d silence it because I didn\u2019t trust it. I didn\u2019t trust myself.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t make the simplest choices. I couldn\u2019t decide what was right and what was wrong.<\/p>\n

Estaba traumatizada y necesitaba encontrar una salida.<\/p>\n

I wish I could tell you that I found a clear solution to finding peace at last but I didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Luch\u00e9 y cada d\u00eda era m\u00e1s duro que el anterior.<\/p>\n

But the one thing I can tell you is the fact that you\u2019ve realized you\u2019ve fallen too deep into the pit and that you need help is the best start you could wish for.<\/p>\n

Healing from gaslighting is a terribly bumpy road. I\u2019ve had ups and downs but along the way, I rediscovered myself.<\/p>\n

I remember who I used to be and I\u2019ve probably learned so much more than I ever would have if it wasn\u2019t for my complete breakdown.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t tell you what to do exactly or how to heal and forget about the pain. No one could tell me either. But I can show you how I rediscovered myself.<\/p>\n

Puedo contarte algunas cosas inesperadas que por el camino me ayudaron a recuperarme.<\/p>\n

Corr\u00ed tan lejos como pude de mi gaslighter<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

This can be horrific. Some people have to cut off family bonds, some people need to move away. I had to go no contact. And you may think it\u2019s an easy thing to do.<\/p>\n

One should think it\u2019s perfectly logical. If someone causes you pain, you leave them.<\/p>\n

But you can\u2019t even begin to imagine what it feels like to leave someone who has made you believe you\u2019re emotionally and physically dependent on him.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re scared to make a move without that person. You\u2019re scared that he was right all along and you\u2019re not going to make it without him.<\/p>\n

Admit\u00ed que abusaron de m\u00ed<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Dej\u00e9 de huir de la realidad. Me enfrent\u00e9 a lo horrible que me hab\u00eda pasado.<\/p>\n

Me dije que me hab\u00edan maltratado emocionalmente y me hab\u00edan enga\u00f1ado haci\u00e9ndome creer que estaba loca.<\/p>\n

No hab\u00eda nada malo en m\u00ed y nunca fue culpa m\u00eda. Mi visi\u00f3n del mundo estaba torcida y mis sentimientos retorcidos.<\/p>\n

Me hab\u00edan enga\u00f1ado y ten\u00eda que aceptarlo.<\/p>\n

Me permit\u00ed cometer errores<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de dejarlo, necesitaba estar segura de que todo lo que hac\u00eda estaba bien. Significaba mucho para m\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Because when you\u2019ve been trapped in a relationship where your abuser is constantly telling you you\u2019re no good, you\u2019re incompetent, that you don\u2019t do anything right, it takes its toll on you.<\/p>\n

Empiezas a creer en ello.<\/p>\n

Pero todos cometemos errores y era imposible que lo hiciera todo bien.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, despu\u00e9s de alg\u00fan tiempo, me di cuenta de que mi necesidad de hacerlo todo perfectamente no era m\u00e1s que el resultado de un trauma.<\/p>\n

Making mistakes was the most humane thing I could do. I accepted it and it taught me that it\u2019s perfectly fine to make mistakes.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t make me special, it doesn\u2019t make me stand out from the rest of the world. I was just like everyone else. I was human.<\/p>\n

Me permit\u00ed sentir<\/h2>\n

\"na<\/p>\n

Cuando deje un relaci\u00f3n emocionalmente abusiva<\/a>, you feel relieved, maybe even happy. But that feeling doesn\u2019t last for long.<\/p>\n

Detr\u00e1s de esa falsa apariencia de felicidad a\u00fan se esconden a\u00f1os de dolor, rabia y frustraci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

It takes a lot of time to deal with all those emotions that haunt you still because you\u2019re not over them yet.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve not fully accepted all the pain you\u2019ve felt or why, because of him.<\/p>\n

Tom\u00e9 mis propias decisiones<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I had no clue what was right and what was wrong and I couldn\u2019t make a decision. Whichever road I took, it seemed wrong.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s because I didn’t trust myself.<\/p>\n

Since I didn\u2019t have a voice of my own in the relationship, I didn\u2019t even know what it was exactly that I wanted, which made the decision-making process even harder.<\/p>\n

Decid\u00ed ponerle fin y empec\u00e9 con peque\u00f1as cosas. Empec\u00e9 a tomar peque\u00f1as decisiones, como cu\u00e1ndo irme a la cama o qu\u00e9 ponerme para una reuni\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Al principio, era aterrador. Siempre estaba segura de haber tomado la decisi\u00f3n equivocada.<\/p>\n

Pero, al cabo de un tiempo, todas esas peque\u00f1as elecciones empezaron a sentarme bien. Y despu\u00e9s de un tiempo, era perfectamente capaz de empezar a tomar decisiones m\u00e1s grandes e importantes.<\/p>\n

Decid\u00ed buscar ayuda<\/h2>\n

\"madre<\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo necesitaba una persona de confianza con quien hablar. Necesitaba a alguien que me escuchara. Necesitaba apoyo. Al principio me daba miedo dar este paso.<\/p>\n

Porque admitir el abuso emocional significaba que hab\u00eda fracasado. Significaba que dej\u00e9 que alguien me tomara por tonta, que dej\u00e9 que alguien me humillara.<\/p>\n

Pero si tienes un amigo, un familiar o quieres ayuda profesional, acude a ellos.<\/p>\n

Te ayudar\u00e1n a lidiar con todos esos sentimientos encontrados que sientes. Te ayudar\u00e1n a ordenar el caos que hay dentro de tu cabeza.<\/p>\n

Acept\u00e9 mis vulnerabilidades<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

People see strong people as people who don\u2019t take any bullshit from anyone. But that\u2019s not true. Strong women can get abused too.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not a choice you make.<\/p>\n

Saying that you\u2019ll never let anyone hit you is not something that depends on you. It depends on the violent side of your relationship.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, you don’t even have to be physically abused to call it abuse.<\/p>\n

El maltrato psicol\u00f3gico, el gaslighting y la negligencia son tambi\u00e9n formas de maltrato a\u00fan m\u00e1s dif\u00edciles de demostrar o superar.<\/p>\n

Entonces, pens\u00e9 que debido a mi agradable personalidad, yo era la culpable de que abusaran emocionalmente de m\u00ed. Pensaba que era demasiado amable y dejaba que la gente me pisoteara.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

But that is not true. The fact that I\u2019m too nice is not my disadvantage. It\u2019s a personality trait that proves I\u2019m an empath<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Significa que me preocupo por la gente.<\/p>\n

After being gaslighted, I realized that I have to accept who I am. I decided I wouldn\u2019t be ashamed of being loving or compassionate.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not my fault that I\u2019ve had to deal with an abuser who decided to take advantage of that.<\/p>\n

Podr\u00eda haber conocido f\u00e1cilmente a alguien que amara eso de m\u00ed, alguien que me atesorara y me mantuviera a salvo el resto de mi vida.<\/p>\n

But, this time, I wasn\u2019t that lucky.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve accepted that he is not the last abuser I\u2019m going to meet<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It\u2019s possible I\u2019m going to meet another abuser in my life. It\u2019s possible that I\u2019m going to be abused one more time but in a different way.<\/p>\n

Maybe this time it\u2019s going to be different and I won\u2019t be able to recognize it.<\/p>\n

Emotions are unpredictable and they can be very uncomfortable and it\u2019s easier for me now that I\u2019ve faced the fact it can happen again.<\/p>\n

It won\u2019t be as horrible as the first time but at least I\u2019ll know how to find a way out.<\/p>\n

Lo \u00fanico que s\u00e9 ahora mismo es que tengo que ser sincera conmigo misma.<\/p>\n

Necesito ser sincera con mis sentimientos y no volver a reprimirlos.<\/p>\n

Embrace your truth like I did and don\u2019t focus on being happy all the time. Let time do its thing and in the meantime, discover yourself. Eventually, you\u2019ll heal.<\/p>\n

\"8<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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