{"id":28320,"date":"2020-06-23T13:33:03","date_gmt":"2020-06-23T13:33:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=28320"},"modified":"2022-02-07T10:46:06","modified_gmt":"2022-02-07T10:46:06","slug":"como-superar-a-un-narcisista-10-pasos-para-el-exito","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/como-superar-a-un-narcisista-10-pasos-para-el-exito\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo superar a un narcisista (10 pasos para el \u00e9xito)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Lo m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil de superar cuando rompes con un narcisista es volver al lugar en el que una vez estuviste.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s almost impossible to quickly shift your mind and your heart from being abused and dwelling in pain to enjoy breathing the fresh air of freedom.<\/p>\n

There is nothing wrong going on with you if you don\u2019t know how to make the shift.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not crazy for still hanging on to the person who almost destroyed you. You\u2019re not the first nor the last to go through that much pain.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not stupid because you fell for his tricks, and most importantly, it\u2019s not your fault.<\/p>\n

The irresistible urge you have to come back to him every time he treats you like shit or thinking you\u2019re not good enough for anyone else\u2014so it\u2019s better to be with him than alone\u2014is all part of his mind games.<\/p>\n

Se supon\u00eda que deb\u00eda sentirse as\u00ed. Significa que llev\u00f3 a cabo cada uno de sus pasos como hab\u00eda planeado.<\/p>\n

But when you leave, when he goes one step too far\u2014and believe me narcissists will always try and go a bit further to get as much energy from you as possible up to the moment you reach your breaking point…<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que cuando te vas, acabas confusa y pregunt\u00e1ndote c\u00f3mo ha pasado todo. Pensabas que vuestra relaci\u00f3n significaba algo; pensabas que te quer\u00eda de verdad. <\/b><\/p>\n

You try to find reasons why he changed all of a sudden. Well, it didn\u2019t happen overnight.<\/p>\n

Los narcisistas son personas que padecen un trastorno de la personalidad, lo que significa que son as\u00ed todo el tiempo.<\/p>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t change<\/a> their behavior because something triggers their disorder. They\u2019ve been born like that, and they are like that from the moment you meet them. The fact you don\u2019t see it is because they hide it until they\u2019ve got you in their grip.<\/p>\n

Cuando te das cuenta de que tu pareja tiene un problema, surge la empat\u00eda y sientes pena por \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

Quieres ayudarle siendo comprensivo y compasivo. Eso s\u00f3lo funciona durante un breve periodo de tiempo.<\/em><\/p>\n

Soon enough you\u2019ll see that the abuse is still going on if not even getting worse.<\/p>\n

You keep giving him second chances because you believe he can change. You think it\u2019s not his fault. He just needs to learn to think before he speaks or to control himself.<\/p>\n

So you finally open your eyes, and you decide it\u2019s time to get away. But that is not as easy as it sounds.<\/p>\n

It seems like you\u2019re going around in circles. Whatever you do, you\u2019re not able to break the cycle.<\/p>\n

But healing takes a long time. It\u2019s excruciating and devastating. But every good deed you do for yourself, every act of kindness, takes you one step closer to being okay.<\/b><\/p>\n

Esto es lo que me pas\u00f3 a m\u00ed. Di peque\u00f1os pasos. Hice peque\u00f1as cosas insignificantes para m\u00ed y, despu\u00e9s de alg\u00fan tiempo, decid\u00ed que me gustaba esta nueva sensaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Decid\u00ed que quer\u00eda ser feliz. As\u00ed que, poco a poco, pas\u00e9 de sentirme desgraciada a volver a ser feliz como antes.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed es como super\u00e9 a mi ex narcisista:<\/p>\n

Accept he\u2019s a narcissist<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

He suffers from a Narcissistic Personality Disorder which basically means that your whole life with him was one big fat lie because he is a lie. Everything he has ever said to you or done wasn\u2019t at all honest.<\/p>\n

It was all carefully designed to capture you and use you as his narcissistic supply. He isn\u2019t that charming boy you think you know.<\/p>\n

That was all just love-bombing\u2014the enormous amount of love he showers you with before he starts abusing you and finally discarding you.<\/p>\n

Establecer l\u00edmites<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Sal del entorno que te hace sentir mal.<\/p>\n

Get rid of everything that reminds you of him. But, if it\u2019s impossible to get away from him physically, then try something called the \u201cGrey Rock Method\u201d.<\/p>\n

The idea of the \u201cGrey Rock Method\u201d is making yourself the least appealing to your narcissist as you can.<\/p>\n

You have to be boring as hell\u2014unattractive physically and mentally. If they don\u2019t find you interesting, they won\u2019t feed off of you.<\/p>\n

But the most important boundary you must learn to set is how to say \u2018no\u2019. you have to reject things you don\u2019t like.<\/p>\n

Tienes que aprender a defenderte ahuyentando a las personas y rechazando las cosas que no son buenas para ti.<\/p>\n

Ser m\u00e1s sano mentalmente<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de pasar tanto tiempo con un narcisista, su salud mental se deteriora. Su comportamiento puede destruir a una persona, especialmente si la persona tiene m\u00e1s fuerte rasgos emp\u00e1ticos<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Empaths tend to understand destructive people and put themselves in their shoes just to see how they\u2019re feeling.<\/p>\n

Esto hace que un emp\u00e1tico intente comprender a un narcisista, lo que acaba destruyendo a la persona que s\u00f3lo intenta ayudar.<\/p>\n

Intenta desahogarte de esos sentimientos t\u00f3xicos. Intenta algo relajante para olvidarte de \u00e9l y del abuso que sufriste todo ese tiempo.<\/p>\n

La mente es algo milagroso. Cu\u00eddala, s\u00e9 amable con ella y pronto volver\u00e1 a la etapa en la que no exist\u00edan esos pensamientos y sentimientos t\u00f3xicos.<\/p>\n

Perm\u00edtete estar enfadado y decepcionado el tiempo que necesites<\/h2>\n

\"pelo<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll want to destroy his life. You\u2019ll want to make him suffer and get even for every little thing he did to you.<\/p>\n

But you\u2019ll also be scared which will thankfully prevent you from taking any action.<\/p>\n

If you did, it would backfire on you, and he would attack you with everything he\u2019s got.<\/p>\n

But, it\u2019s better that you don\u2019t do anything. Leave the self-destruction up to them. It\u2019s what they do best anyway.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t try to get closure<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Es in\u00fatil que intentes hacerles entender c\u00f3mo te sientes.<\/p>\n

No son capaces de comprender ese tipo de emociones. Tienen la madurez emocional de un ni\u00f1o de cinco a\u00f1os.<\/p>\n

So, please don\u2019t even bother. You\u2019ll end up getting even more annoyed, and for some reason, he\u2019ll probably see your need for closure as a cry to get back together.<\/p>\n

Perd\u00f3nate a ti mismo<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Learn the truth, and accept it. You\u2019ve been lied to. You\u2019ve been manipulated and tricked.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not your fault for any of the things a narcissist did to you. So don\u2019t blame yourself for going to hell and back.<\/p>\n

Perd\u00f3nate porque algo as\u00ed le puede pasar a cualquiera.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve fallen into a narcissistic trap, and he used every one of your positive traits as a weapon of destruction against you. It\u2019s not your fault.<\/p>\n

No tener contacto<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

No es f\u00e1cil deshacerse de los narcisistas. Puedes bloquearlos en las redes sociales.<\/p>\n

You can try to avoid them, but you won\u2019t succeed on the first try because they will keep bombarding you with their abuso narcisista<\/a> t\u00e9cnicas.<\/p>\n

They will haunt you by using your common friends. They\u2019ll try to find out information about you via your friends.<\/p>\n

They will spread rumors. Don\u2019t be surprised if you \u201caccidentally\u201d bump into them on the road. All those encounters were planned to happen.<\/p>\n

They will make sure you know every happy detail about their life. They need you to know that they moved on the second you left. That\u2019s why it\u2019s important to them to keep in contact with you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s their final try to lure you back in by destroying you a bit more, by trying to prove they are the mature ones and you\u2019re acting like a child.<\/p>\n

Sin contacto<\/b><\/a> es la \u00fanica salida.<\/b> You\u2019ll have to at least try to keep it. No matter what anyone says about you, you know that you\u2019re not the crazy ones.<\/p>\n

Esos siguen siendo restos de sus juegos mentales, y lo sabes.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t answer your phone. Don\u2019t answer your emails, and discard anyone who tries to blame you for narcissistic behavior. At this point, you can only trust yourself.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let the past get to you<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

El pasado intentar\u00e1 perseguirte. Eso no es m\u00e1s que una se\u00f1al de que you\u2019re not over him yet<\/a>.<\/p>\n

It means that you\u2019re halfway there, but not quite there yet. Just keep on doing what you\u2019re doing because you\u2019re doing a good job.<\/p>\n

D\u00e9se un sentido a su vida y conc\u00e9ntrese en hacer realidad sus sue\u00f1os.<\/p>\n

Conc\u00e9ntrate en el futuro y no en el pasado. Pensar en el futuro y fijarte metas te ayudar\u00e1 sin duda a superar antes el pasado.<\/p>\n

Ten paciencia con tus amigos<\/h2>\n

\"Dos<\/p>\n

Dale tiempo a esos amigos. Volver\u00e1n en s\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Se dar\u00e1n cuenta de que tambi\u00e9n han sido v\u00edctimas de abuso narcisista<\/a>. The narcissist\u2019s mask will fall sooner or later, and by that time, everyone will know that you aren\u2019t the person that man presented you to be.<\/p>\n

Hazte un favor y deshazte de todas y cada una de las personas que se ponen de su lado.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s an act of kindness to yourself. You really want to clean your life out of toxic people.<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 feliz.<\/h2>\n

\"Hermosa<\/p>\n

You\u2019re finally free! You\u2019re finally able to do whatever you want to do, and meanwhile, that narcissist of yours is repeating the same thing he did with you\u2014only this time he is hiding under a new mask.<\/p>\n

He is ruining someone\u2019s life, but that person will see right through him and get out of that relationship the same way you did. In the end, that person is also going to be happy.<\/p>\n

\u00bfY \u00e9l? Seguir\u00e1 siendo el mismo pedazo de mierda vac\u00eda que ha sido toda su vida.<\/p>\n

Maria Parker es tambi\u00e9n autora del libro Her Way \u201cOn Getting Over A Narcissist\u201d<\/a><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

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