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<\/p>\nLiving with a narcissist is painful and exhausting. It\u2019s a situation in which you\u2019ve entangled yourself, and no matter how bad you want out, it\u2019s not that easy to just leave.<\/p>\n
But after you\u2019ve hit rock bottom, after you were robbed of your self-esteem and self-love, you realize you have nothing else to lose. He has taken everything from you.<\/p>\n
As\u00ed que decides marcharte. Decides volver a tomar las riendas de tu vida y hacer con ella lo que te plazca. \u00a1Bien por ti!<\/p>\n
But the battle doesn\u2019t end there, not for you. <\/i><\/p>\n
This is an exciting time for you. You\u2019ve made a big decision.<\/p>\n
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You\u2019ve made the right decision. But the road ahead of you is full of bumps. You have to be ready to take them.<\/p>\n
Tienes que estar mental y emocionalmente preparado para el proceso de curaci\u00f3n que est\u00e1 a punto de producirse.<\/p>\n
Breakups are awful, but breaking up with a narcissist is especially hard. You\u2019re going to have mixed feelings, and your mood will change rapidly.<\/p>\n
In order to face the changes that are going to happen, it\u2019s better if you know what to expect and what is waiting for you.<\/p>\n
Here are some of the things you\u2019re going to experience after breaking up with a narcissist.<\/p>\n
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Breaking up with a narcissist doesn\u2019t have a happy end. Either he is going to discard you or you\u2019re going to leave him, but he will keep coming back, using all kinds of t\u00e1ctica del aspirador <\/a> s para recuperarte.<\/p>\n Either way, it\u2019s not going to be pretty.<\/p>\n You\u2019re not going to be okay. Breakups are bad, especially this one.<\/p>\n You know you won\u2019t get any closure ever, and you get nervous because you know he won\u2019t leave you alone.<\/p>\n You know he will disturb you in some way\u2014it doesn\u2019t even have to include contact.<\/p>\n Esto te vuelve loco y te obliga a vivir ansioso, asustado por lo que va a ocurrir a continuaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n \u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Make sure that it\u2019s really over. Try to go no contact with him.<\/p>\n If it doesn\u2019t work, just be as unappealing as you possibly can. Even if he is bothering you, once he realizes that you\u2019re no longer interested, he\u2019ll leave you alone.<\/p>\n Una vez que pongas las cosas en su sitio, la ansiedad tambi\u00e9n disminuir\u00e1. Dale tiempo.<\/p>\n V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: C\u00f3mo hacer que un narcisista te eche de menos: 9 formas secretas<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n You won\u2019t let go that easily. There are a million questions you want to know the answer to.<\/p>\n \u00bfQuieres saber si alguna vez te quiso de verdad? \u00bfLe importabas aunque fuera un poco? \u00bfC\u00f3mo pudo hacerte esto? \u00bfC\u00f3mo pudo olvidarte tan r\u00e1pido?<\/p>\n The ghost of your diciest relationship will haunt you because you didn\u2019t get closure and you never will.<\/p>\n You will hang on to the bits of the relationship you have left because you aren\u2019t still at ease with what happened.<\/p>\n \u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n You\u2019ll try to find answers to the questions that are bothering you, but eventually, you\u2019ll let go because you\u2019ll never understand what happened.<\/p>\n You are not a psycho like he is. You can\u2019t understand how his mind works and why he did what he did.<\/p>\n To be able to accept what has happened to you, you\u2019ll try to rationalize his behavior.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll try to find excuses for the name-calling, for the juegos mentales <\/a> and the abuse you\u2019ve experienced while you were with him.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll try to give yourself a good enough reason why you stayed with him, and that\u2019s why you\u2019re going to make excuses for his behavior\u2014to make that experience a less painful one.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll come to the point when you start missing him, so you\u2019ll start doing the same thing all over again.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll defend him and think that maybe he wasn\u2019t so bad after all. Don\u2019t fall for this. It\u2019s just your reason, trying to make it hurt a bit less.<\/p>\n \u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer? <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Don\u2019t fall for the tricks your mind plays on you. The truth is, you don\u2019t miss him; you never did.<\/p>\n Fuiste capturado por su hechizo durante tanto tiempo que te acostumbraste al entorno t\u00f3xico. Pensaste que era un entorno normal para vivir.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why you crave it. Ignore those feelings, and just remember all the horrible things he has done to you. If you take him back, he will do it again.<\/p>\n When you are with a narcissist, you\u2019re used to all the drama happening around you.<\/p>\n Siempre est\u00e1 pasando algo, y ahora que por fin est\u00e1s en paz, echas algo de menos.<\/p>\n It\u2019s a cruel thing to say, but actually, you miss your narcissist. You don\u2019t miss him for the love or the way he treated you.<\/p>\n You miss him because now that he\u2019s gone, there is no more craziness around you.<\/p>\n It\u2019s all too quiet, and after dating a narcissist this may come as a surprise: You\u2019re not used to having things in order.<\/p>\n \u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Encuentra algo que hacer. Encuentra un hobby. Encuentra la pasi\u00f3n que falta en tu vida.<\/p>\n Start doing anything that makes you happy, even if it\u2019s the most trivial thing. It\u2019s one step further to actually being happy.<\/p>\n What happened to you is not that common. It\u2019s not like a regular breakup.<\/p>\n A lot of people who have just gone through a regular breakup can relate to each other, but there aren\u2019t a lot of people who\u2019ve escaped narcissistic claws, so you don\u2019t have a lot of people to relate to.<\/p>\n That makes you lonely like you\u2019re the only one out there. That makes you ask questions such as: Why me? But, you\u2019re not alone.<\/p>\n There are so many people around you who\u2019ve been through the same as you and are quiet, the same as you.<\/p>\n \u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Join support groups, and talk about your problem. Don\u2019t keep things to yourself because you\u2019ll crack open.<\/p>\n You can\u2019t keep those emotions inside and deal with them alone.<\/p>\n Habla con tus amigos o con grupos de apoyo, quiz\u00e1 con un terapeuta. Sea lo que sea, elige algo porque necesitas apoyo ahora mismo.<\/p>\n You were gaslighted in your relationship with a narcissist. You were told you\u2019re crazy; you\u2019re making things up.<\/p>\n Te han dicho que exageras y que eres la causa de todos los problemas, incluso la raz\u00f3n principal por la que la relaci\u00f3n se vino abajo.<\/p>\n Por eso, cuando te encuentras en momentos de soledad, te pones a pensar. Dudas de ti mismo. Empiezas a pensar que tal vez tu narcisista ten\u00eda raz\u00f3n.<\/p>\n Maybe you really overreacted to some things. Maybe you should have been more understanding. Maybe it\u2019s your fault you broke up.<\/p>\n \u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Can\u2019t you see? He is still manipulating you in your mind even though you broke up. This is just the result of all the abuse and mind games you\u2019ve been through.<\/p>\n La mentalidad que sembr\u00f3 en ti sigue pataleando de vez en cuando, y te alimenta los pensamientos rid\u00edculos que rondan por tu cabeza.<\/p>\n Ahora que por fin ves con claridad lo terrible que era, ahora que ves todas las cosas horribles que te hizo, te sientes avergonzada por no haberlo dejado antes.<\/p>\n You feel like a fool because you didn\u2019t leave a long time ago, but no one who was in your situation left right away.<\/p>\n Todos pensamos que podemos ayudar a alguien, que podemos cambiar a la persona porque en el fondo de nuestro coraz\u00f3n creemos que hay algo bueno en todos.<\/p>\n Por desgracia, no ocurre lo mismo con las personas que padecen un trastorno de la personalidad. No pueden curarse.<\/p>\n They cannot be convinced to do anything different than what they\u2019ve imagined.<\/p>\n \u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Just let go. It\u2019s not your fault. His manipulations were designed to completely obliviate you.<\/p>\n Su objetivo era hacer que su v\u00edctima permaneciera el mayor tiempo posible con la impresi\u00f3n de que las cosas iban a mejorar.<\/p>\n Despu\u00e9s de alg\u00fan tiempo, la tristeza y el sufrimiento empiezan a desvanecerse, y todo se convierte en resentimiento y odio. Canalizas tu dolor en odio.<\/p>\n You couldn\u2019t do this while you were in a relationship, so you\u2019re doing it now when you\u2019re finally free to think by yourself and act the way you feel.<\/p>\n \u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Be angry. Let it all out because you will feel better. After some time, you\u2019ll realize that hatred is not going to get you anywhere, and you\u2019ll calm down.<\/p>\n S\u00f3lo ten mucho cuidado de no buscar venganza.<\/p>\n Tienes que saber que no hay manera de vencer a un narcisista<\/a>. La \u00fanica manera de herir a un hombre narcisista<\/a> es cortarle el suministro.<\/p>\n Ign\u00f3ralo por completo y no est\u00e9s disponible.<\/p>\n Just don\u2019t do something stupid in the attempt to hurt him because he will use it against you, and you\u2019ll end up being the hurt one.<\/p>\n Living with a narcissist is painful and exhausting. It\u2019s a situation in which you\u2019ve entangled yourself, and no matter how bad you want out, it\u2019s not that easy to just leave. But after you\u2019ve hit rock bottom, after you were robbed of your self-esteem and self-love, you realize you have nothing else to lose. 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<\/p>\nYou\u2019re defending him<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nYou don\u2019t feel the excitement<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nTe sientes solo<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nTienes dudas<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nTe averg\u00fcenzas<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nYou\u2019re angry<\/h2>\n
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