{"id":29844,"date":"2020-03-12T09:39:30","date_gmt":"2020-03-12T09:39:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=29844"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:39:58","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:39:58","slug":"esta-es-la-razon-por-la-que-la-exposicion-al-abuso-narcisista-a-menudo-causa-ansiedad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/esta-es-la-razon-por-la-que-la-exposicion-al-abuso-narcisista-a-menudo-causa-ansiedad\/","title":{"rendered":"Esta es la raz\u00f3n por la que la exposici\u00f3n al abuso narcisista a menudo causa ansiedad"},"content":{"rendered":"

I don\u2019t know about you, but I never thought that someone else was guilty of the fact that I was<\/span> luchando contra mi ansiedad. <\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

I always thought that the problem was in me and that I was the one with some unsolved issues and that that\u2019s why I am anxious all the time. <\/span><\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t even pay attention to the people around me and how I felt because of them. And most of all, I didn\u2019t think what my partner makes me feel like. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pero ahora que soy mayor, en realidad veo que mi ansiedad ten\u00eda mucho que ver con la forma en que me trataba. O mejor dicho, la forma en que me maltrataba.<\/span><\/p>\n

Me llev\u00f3 mucho tiempo aceptar realmente que viv\u00eda con un maestro de la manipulaci\u00f3n, un narcisista disfrazado, el hombre que me convenc\u00eda de que \u00e9l era lo mejor que me hab\u00eda pasado mientras me golpeaba hasta matarme emocionalmente una y otra vez. <\/span><\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t even realize why he was doing all those things to me when he said he loved me. <\/span><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know why he abused me using all sorts of different tactics and tricks, so I didn\u2019t actually realize what he was doing all the time. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pero en alg\u00fan lugar de mi interior, sab\u00eda que mi ansiedad y mis ataques de p\u00e1nico no eran una parte normal de la vida. Sab\u00eda que hab\u00eda algo m\u00e1s que problemas superficiales en el trabajo que me hac\u00edan sentir mal. <\/span><\/p>\n

I knew it all, but I didn\u2019t want to accept it. <\/span><\/p>\n

The whole time I was living with him, my anxiety got even worse, and every new day with him was a roller coaster of emotions and fighting to be noticed. And in all that mess, I lost the most important person\u2014I lost myself. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/i>Y as\u00ed es como ocurri\u00f3 todo en realidad:<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Me puse ansioso porque<\/b> que me hab\u00eda estado enga\u00f1ando. <\/b>
\n<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Every day that I spent with him was some sort of fighting to get noticed. He was a man who did things his way or no way, and I wasn\u2019t strong enough to confront him. <\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, I loved him so much, and I didn\u2019t want to hurt him by expressing my opinion because I knew he wouldn\u2019t go along with it. <\/span><\/p>\n

And in not listening to what I had to say and obeying only his rules, my anxiety attacked me even more since I wasn\u2019t satisfied with my life. <\/span><\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t stand that the man I was doing the impossible for paid attention to someone who didn\u2019t even have to try to ask for it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Me volv\u00ed ansiosa porque me aisl\u00f3 de mis amigos y mi familia. <\/b>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

Supongo que todo formaba parte de su malvado plan. Me aisl\u00f3 deliberadamente de todos mis amigos y familiares, dici\u00e9ndome que \u00e9l es la \u00fanica persona a la que necesito. <\/span><\/p>\n

By trying to satisfy him, I was left without people who were my whole world. But he didn\u2019t see my sacrifice and continued to abuse me mentally. <\/span><\/p>\n

He blamed me for all the bad things that happened to us and when that happened, I didn\u2019t have anyone to call and to ask to be there for me. <\/span><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que cada d\u00eda estaba m\u00e1s ansiosa. Pensaba que me estaba volviendo loca mientras \u00e9l observaba tranquilamente c\u00f3mo me derrumbaba, sin hacer nada. En esas situaciones, vi lo peque\u00f1o que era su coraz\u00f3n. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/b>I became anxious because he couldn\u2019t feel empathy towards me. <\/b>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

No matter how much I tried to explain to him that he was doing me harm with his behavior, he didn\u2019t want to accept it. He would always do things his way, and he never listened to what I had to say. <\/span><\/p>\n

With him, I felt like I wasn\u2019t important and like he thought I am stupid. He never told me that he cherishes me and respects me, and all I felt while I was with him was pain. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pero de alguna manera pensaba que el dolor era lo que ten\u00eda que pasar para ser feliz. Ese tambi\u00e9n era uno de sus trucos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca quiso decir que era culpable de mi estado mental y que hab\u00eda hecho de una mujer completamente sana una mujer enferma. <\/span><\/p>\n

Me puse ansiosa porque me manipulaba y me explotaba. <\/b>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

All narcissists have one thing in common\u2014they know how to get what they want with negative tactics but act like they are the positive ones. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s what he did to me. He manipulated me, trying to blame me for the things I didn\u2019t do. He did that so I felt bad in my own skin. He made me completely lose my mind. <\/span><\/p>\n

He made me believe I was the crazy one. With him, I didn\u2019t feel I was worthy. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sent\u00eda que yo era la antip\u00e1tica. Y todas esas emociones negativas se acumularon en mi interior. <\/span><\/p>\n

No es de extra\u00f1ar que explotara y que me convirtiera en una persona totalmente distinta. <\/span><\/p>\n

The one who overthinks, who isn\u2019t sure about her decisions, the one who thinks she isn\u2019t good enough. I totally lost myself over a man who didn\u2019t give a damn about me. <\/span><\/p>\n

Me puse ansiosa por su dominaci\u00f3n y su trato silencioso. <\/b>
\n<\/span>Le encantaba usar su tratamiento de silencio cada vez que no estaba de acuerdo conmigo. De ese modo, me hac\u00eda reflexionar sobre lo que hac\u00eda. <\/span><\/p>\n

And many times I apologized to him even if I wasn\u2019t guilty of anything. <\/span><\/p>\n

In that way, he was feeding on me. He was sucking me dry, and he didn\u2019t even pay attention to my feelings. <\/span><\/p>\n

Siempre me convert\u00eda en la principal causante de problemas mientras \u00e9l se convert\u00eda en v\u00edctima. <\/span><\/p>\n

And I didn\u2019t know what I would do in all that mess, so I obeyed his rules. I needed him like the air I was breathing, even if he was making a fool out of me. <\/span><\/p>\n

And no matter how much I wanted to change that, I simply couldn\u2019t. He had enormous power over me, and I felt the best thing was to just give up because I knew he would win in the end. <\/span><\/p>\n

Me puse ansiosa porque me hizo sentir que yo era la loca. <\/b>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

Una cosa que hizo repetidamente fue hacerme sentir que yo era la loca. Mientras estuve con \u00e9l, nunca dije mi opini\u00f3n porque ten\u00eda miedo de su reacci\u00f3n. <\/span><\/p>\n

I literally walked on eggshells trying to make him satisfied. But at that time, I didn\u2019t have any other option because if I confronted him, he would leave me alone with my kids. <\/span><\/p>\n

And I put up with all his shit because of them. I thought it is better they have some kind of father than that they don\u2019t have a father at all. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pero ahora lo veo todo muy claro. Me he dado cuenta de que deber\u00eda haberle dejado marchar hace mucho tiempo. Habr\u00eda sido mejor as\u00ed, tanto para mis hijos como para m\u00ed. <\/span><\/p>\n

If I had done that earlier, I wouldn\u2019t be so anxious and depressed. I wouldn\u2019t be falling apart like I am doing right now. <\/span><\/p>\n

My life would have been so much easier if I hadn\u2019t met him. <\/span><\/p>\n

Esto es s\u00f3lo una parte de la tortura por la que pas\u00e9 mientras intentaba mantener cerca a mi pareja. Ahora puedo ver que mi depresi\u00f3n y ansiedad graves se produjeron por su culpa y que la \u00fanica forma de volver a estar mejor era renunciar realmente a \u00e9l. <\/span><\/p>\n

Y gracias a Dios al final lo hice. Me di cuenta de que la \u00fanica persona a la que tengo que complacer soy yo y que nadie merece que me siente sola por la noche y me pregunte si soy lo bastante buena. <\/span><\/p>\n

Nadie merec\u00eda mis l\u00e1grimas y que perdiera la cabeza. <\/span>\u00a1Y el que lo vale nunca me har\u00eda algo as\u00ed!<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Esta<\/p>\n

Christine es autora de \u2018<\/span><\/span>Mirar fijamente a los ojos de la ansiedad y la depresi\u00f3n<\/span><\/a><\/span>\u2019<\/span>Un libro que cambiar\u00e1 tu forma de combatir la ansiedad y la depresi\u00f3n.<\/span><\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I don\u2019t know about you, but I never thought that someone else was guilty of the fact that I was struggling with my anxiety. I always thought that the problem was in me and that I was the one with some unsolved issues and that that\u2019s why I am anxious all the time. I didn\u2019t…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":29845,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-29844","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/StockSnap_BG7CZQ5JRN.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","parent":22911,"count":232,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29633,"category_count":232,"category_description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","cat_name":"narcissism","category_nicename":"narcissism","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29844","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=29844"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29844\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/29845"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=29844"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=29844"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=29844"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}