{"id":30308,"date":"2018-12-18T08:56:54","date_gmt":"2018-12-18T08:56:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=30308"},"modified":"2021-08-11T09:36:58","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T09:36:58","slug":"al-final-estoy-agradecido-por-mi-casi-relacion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/al-final-estoy-agradecido-por-mi-casi-relacion\/","title":{"rendered":"Al final, estoy agradecido por mi casi relaci\u00f3n"},"content":{"rendered":"

No ten\u00eda la intenci\u00f3n de estar en una relaci\u00f3n casi; simplemente me met\u00ed en ella sin darme cuenta. Abr\u00ed las puertas que llevaron mi coraz\u00f3n al hombre equivocado. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tuvimos una cita y otra y otra m\u00e1s. Habl\u00e1bamos sin parar y nos divert\u00edamos mucho, las emociones se iban acumulando, hab\u00eda qu\u00edmica y la relaci\u00f3n avanzaba de forma natural. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pensaba que est\u00e1bamos en el buen camino hacia algo m\u00e1s significativo hasta que empec\u00e9 a notar todas las se\u00f1ales habituales de que estaba en una relaci\u00f3n casi. <\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca me llam\u00f3 su novia, nunca conoc\u00ed a sus amigos ni a su familia, pas\u00e1bamos la mayor parte del tiempo en mi apartamento, segu\u00eda evitando todas las conversaciones serias y la realidad me golpe\u00f3 de repente<\/span>\u2014<\/span>Estaba en una casi relaci\u00f3n. <\/span><\/p>\n

Llevaba unos meses saliendo conmigo y lo iba a dejar as\u00ed, sin avanzar nunca a algo m\u00e1s. <\/span><\/p>\n

I confronted him about it and he just went on and on about how things were not as easy as it seemed, how he needed more time, how we should take it slow\u2026 and I played along. <\/span><\/p>\n

Fui paciente, intent\u00e9 ser comprensiva, pero me estaba enamorando cada vez m\u00e1s y \u00e9l segu\u00eda manteniendo las distancias. Al darle tiempo, solo consegu\u00ed empeorar las cosas para m\u00ed. <\/span><\/p>\n

And let me tell you this; a heart breaks just as much after an almost relationship as it does after a real one. A heart can\u2019t tell the difference, it just loves. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Supongo que me aferr\u00e9 a la esperanza de que algo cambiar\u00eda. Eleg\u00ed ver lo bueno en \u00e9l e ignor\u00e9 lo malo. Ignor\u00e9 todas las banderas rojas que ondeaban frente a m\u00ed y segu\u00ed esperando y esperando a que \u00e9l estuviera listo. <\/span><\/p>\n

He never was. I don\u2019t know if he will ever be. Maybe men like him never mature, maybe they are never ready and they never evolve, they never allow themselves to wholeheartedly love another human being. <\/span><\/p>\n

Fue tan dif\u00edcil superarlo. Superar todos los \"y si...\" y todo el potencial que vi en nuestra relaci\u00f3n. Pero el tiempo sigui\u00f3 su curso y consegu\u00ed curarme. <\/span><\/p>\n

En realidad consegu\u00ed hacer m\u00e1s que eso y ahora doy gracias a Dios por mi casi relaci\u00f3n porque, aunque fue m\u00e1s que dolorosa, tambi\u00e9n fue una experiencia de aprendizaje por la que tuve que pasar. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Now I know how to read the signs. I won\u2019t shut my eyes and hope for the best anymore. I will ask the right questions sooner and I won\u2019t allow anybody else to <\/span>ensartarme<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Presto m\u00e1s atenci\u00f3n a lo que hace un hombre que a lo que dice. Porque cuando estaba detr\u00e1s de la pantalla escribi\u00e9ndome mensajes, me dec\u00eda las palabras m\u00e1s dulces y las cosas que me hac\u00edan pensar que nos est\u00e1bamos acercando. <\/span><\/p>\n

In person, it was a whole different story. He wasn\u2019t as vocal. He kept dodging all the personal topics, he asked more about me than he ever shared about himself.  <\/span><\/p>\n

No paraba de hacer promesas que nunca cumpl\u00eda. Me dijo las palabras m\u00e1s bonitas para que me quedara a su lado y lo dej\u00f3 as\u00ed, nunca hizo nada que demostrara que \u00e9ramos m\u00e1s que casi. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I know better now. I know how to listen to my gut that\u2019s telling me something\u2019s wrong. I know how to leave in time and save myself further pain. <\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Porque cuanto m\u00e1s me quedaba, m\u00e1s me preocupaba por \u00e9l. Creamos m\u00e1s recuerdos imposibles de olvidar. Se convirti\u00f3 en alguien m\u00edo sin serlo realmente. <\/span><\/p>\n

I stayed where I wasn\u2019t appreciated, where I wasn\u2019t treated as enough, where I started to ask myself if I was <\/span>material de novia<\/span><\/a>, asked what was wrong with me and why he wasn\u2019t stepping up his game. <\/span><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t ask myself those questions anymore because I realized it was never about me. It was always about him and his emotional unavailability. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ahora tengo m\u00e1s confianza en m\u00ed misma, porque mi confianza se vio sacudida por una relaci\u00f3n que estuvo a punto de romperse. Casi la perd\u00ed por completo y tuve que construirla desde cero. <\/span><\/p>\n

I had to reinvent myself and I learned what I am made of. Now I don\u2019t allow anyone to take me for granted and I ask for what I deserve. <\/span><\/p>\n

And for starters, I deserve to be someone\u2019s girlfriend, I deserve someone who is sure about me and isn\u2019t afraid to feel. <\/span><\/p>\n

I took all the pain he left behind him and I turned it into something good. I turned it into self-love and that\u2019s where it all begins.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Al<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I didn\u2019t intend to be in an almost relationship; I simply stepped into it without even noticing. I opened the doors that led my heart to the wrong man. We went out on one date and one more and one more. We talked endlessly and we had so much fun, the emotions were building up,…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":40514,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-30308","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/shutterstock_1023418663.jpg",800,532,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30308","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=30308"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30308\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/40514"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=30308"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=30308"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=30308"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}