{"id":30362,"date":"2020-05-19T08:29:43","date_gmt":"2020-05-19T08:29:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=30362"},"modified":"2021-12-20T17:22:47","modified_gmt":"2021-12-20T17:22:47","slug":"debo-enviarle-un-mensaje-o-no-10-reglas-de-oro-cuando-enviarle-un-mensaje-y-cuando-esperar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/debo-enviarle-un-mensaje-o-no-10-reglas-de-oro-cuando-enviarle-un-mensaje-y-cuando-esperar\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfDebo enviarle un mensaje o no? 10 reglas de oro: cu\u00e1ndo enviar mensajes y cu\u00e1ndo esperar"},"content":{"rendered":"

La famosa cita de Shakespeare: \u2018To be, or not to be, that is the question\u2019<\/i> puede aplicarse a casi todo lo que nos molesta a diario. Esta cita dice tanto, pero al mismo tiempo tan poco.<\/p>\n

It is the best example of something as beautifully complicated as a woman\u2019s mind. Women have this tendency to weigh everything before taking action, and the same applies to texting.<\/p>\n

Mandarle o no mandarle un mensaje, esa es la cuesti\u00f3n.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u00bfLe mando un mensaje? <\/i>\u00bfCu\u00e1ntas veces se ha hecho esta pregunta? \u00bfY cu\u00e1ntas veces has tenido realmente una respuesta a esta molesta pregunta?<\/p>\n

It is really hard to decide whether to text him or not (regardless of your status). He could be your crush, partner or some stranger you\u2019ve never met before, and the pressure always remains the same.<\/p>\n

Ese dilema de los mensajes de texto es algo que acaba con toda la alegr\u00eda de las nuevas relaciones, las existentes y las potenciales.<\/p>\n

I mean, if you don\u2019t text him, you will never know the answer. And if you text him, perhaps you will not be satisfied with the answer.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEst\u00e1s preparado para manejar la verdad?<\/b><\/p>\n

When it comes to texting, always think twice whether you\u2019re ready to handle the potential harsh truth. You need to have in mind that not all guys are polite and open-minded as you might have thought.<\/p>\n

There are some guys who will hurt your feelings by ignoring you (especially if they are not into you), while some of them will ignore you only because they enjoy playing a game called \u201cbeing hard to get\u201d.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, si decides enviarles un mensaje de texto primero, algunos chicos nunca te responder\u00e1n porque disfrutan de la sensaci\u00f3n de ser deseados por ti, lo que les hace superiores. Y si quieren conservar ese estatus, tendr\u00e1n que abstenerse de responderte.<\/p>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

I know it sounds sick, but it\u2019s the world we live in. And that is why you need to be ready for every single possible outcome if you decide to text him.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1les son sus motivos?<\/b><\/p>\n

Otra cosa a la que debes prestar atenci\u00f3n es a tus motivos para enviarle mensajes de texto.<\/p>\n

\u00bfRealmente te gusta ese chico y los mensajes de texto son s\u00f3lo una excusa para acercarte a \u00e9l? \u00bfRealmente tienes algo de lo que hablar con \u00e9l?<\/p>\n

Always think of your ulterior motives for texting, and you\u2019ll find the right answer.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re just texting him for no apparent reason, chances are that he will not text you back (especially if he doesn\u2019t know you).<\/p>\n

Pero, si tienes una raz\u00f3n v\u00e1lida para enviarle un mensaje, no deber\u00edas pens\u00e1rtelo dos veces antes de hacerlo.<\/p>\n

You need to know that there\u2019s a difference between having a valid reason and texting for no apparent reason.<\/p>\n

The biggest difference is that if you have a valid reason, you\u2019re simply trying to talk to him because the topic is relevant to you and to him, and it is not a waste of your time or time.<\/p>\n

But, if you\u2019re constantly finding excuses to text him, this behavior may turn into an obsession which is not healthy for your well-being.<\/p>\n

Antes de pensar en enviarle un mensaje de texto, preg\u00fantate siempre lo siguiente: \u00bfEstoy preparado para manejar la verdad y cu\u00e1les son mis motivos?<\/i> That way you\u2019ll get closer to the right answer whether you should text him or not.<\/p>\n

Also, pay attention to the following questions and rules regarding texting that will help you find the proper solution for a particular texting circumstance or a situation you\u2019re in.<\/p>\n

\u00bfDebo enviarle un mensaje o no? 10 reglas de oro: cu\u00e1ndo enviar un mensaje y cu\u00e1ndo esperar<\/strong><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

\u00bfSiempre eres t\u00fa quien le manda los mensajes primero?<\/h2>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re always the one texting him first and you\u2019re wondering whether you should continue doing so, the answer is \u2018No\u2019.  Are you constantly asking yourself the same question: Why won’t he text me back<\/a>? <\/em>Then it’s time to re-evaluate your texting patterns.<\/p>\n

Nunca debes esforzarte demasiado por alguien que nunca se molesta en ponerse en contacto contigo primero.<\/p>\n

Preg\u00fantate por qu\u00e9 haces esto en primer lugar y tendr\u00e1s la respuesta.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re doing it just because you really like him even though you see that he doesn\u2019t give a shit about you, you should not text him first.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re doing it just because you\u2019re afraid that he\u2019ll never text you first if you\u2019re not the one texting him first, you have a fear of being rejected, and it is a serious red flag that you should change something.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re always the one who texts first and you\u2019re always doubting whether you should do it or not, you will never be truly happy. <\/p>\n

If he\u2019s your boyfriend, you should try talking to him about it, and demand some valid explanations or if he\u2019s someone you\u2019ve just met or a potential boyfriend, you should stop texting him right now because chances are that he\u2019s already taking you for granted. So, don’t text him and he will text you<\/a>. To be more exact, don’t text him first for the time being and things will change.<\/p>\n

And if he doesn\u2019t text you first even when you wait, you\u2019ll know that his intentions were never serious or worthy of your time.<\/p>\n

\u00bfTe mand\u00f3 un mensaje primero?<\/h2>\n

\"linda<\/p>\n

If the guy texted you first, it is a perfect opportunity to respond. You don\u2019t have to worry about this one. Simply reply, and wait for him to text you back.<\/p>\n

Yet, the only thing you need to worry about is whether you like that guy or not? If you don\u2019t like him, you don\u2019t want to give him false hopes to think he has a chance with you.<\/p>\n

Nunca debes forzarte a hacer cosas s\u00f3lo porque quieres ser educado.<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t like the guy, you can always choose to send a brief reply, and tell him that you don\u2019t have time to text him.<\/p>\n

And if respects you, he will immediately stop texting because you\u2019ve told him politely that you\u2019re not interested.<\/p>\n

But, if he continues bombarding you with unnecessary texts even though he knows that you\u2019re not interested, you have every right to tell him openly to stop texting you or you can choose to ignore his texts and consider blocking him.<\/p>\n

Ten cuidado siempre que reconozcas este tipo de comportamiento porque puede ser un psic\u00f3pata en potencia que se alimenta de tu atenci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

This is the most dangerous situation you can experience regarding texting because if you don\u2019t intervene, it can quickly escalate into something bigger.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 12 razones por las que nunca te manda un mensaje primero (pero siempre responde cuando le mandas un mensaje)<\/a><\/p>\n

\u00bfEst\u00e1 bajo los efectos del alcohol?<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Alcohol and texting is a combination that should be avoided at any cost. When you\u2019re under the influence of alcohol, it is hard for you to make reasonable decisions and to understand the thoughts that are running through your head.<\/p>\n

So, if you\u2019re under the influence of alcohol, you should never text him.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter if he\u2019s your partner, your ex or someone else because the potential damage of texting him when you\u2019re drunk is the same in all situations.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re drunk, you\u2019re basically saying things that you are not able of saying when you\u2019re sober, and that is the main reason why you should nunca le env\u00edes mensajes de texto<\/a> en esa situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want to ruin things you\u2019ve been building for years with someone just because of two or three extra drinks.<\/p>\n

It is always better to turn off your phone or give it to someone else when you\u2019re about to drink (so that you don\u2019t feel tempted to text anyone). And if your thoughts are constantly burdening you, then you should think of talking to him about it instead of texting<\/p>\n

\u00bfHa hablado con \u00e9l (en persona) alguna vez?<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve never talked to him before, you should not text him. Let me explain why.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve never talked to him in person, it means you don\u2019t know the guy. And if you don\u2019t know the guy, you have no idea whether he\u2019s a commitment phobe<\/a>...emocionalmente inaccesible, un psic\u00f3pata o algo m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

You can never be too cautious to whom you\u2019re texting today because the world is full of unreliable people.<\/p>\n

Another argument why you shouldn\u2019t text him first is because he might think that you\u2019re too shy or socially awkward to meet him in person.<\/p>\n

You know the feeling when someone you\u2019ve never heard about all of a sudden texts you? You think of him as a creep who doesn\u2019t have the courage to approach you in person.<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s exactly what he\u2019ll think of you. And if you really like him, you should think of other ways to establish contact with him.<\/p>\n

Summarized, if you don\u2019t know the guy, don\u2019t text him first because it will save you nerves and time as well.<\/p>\n

And life\u2019s too short to spend it living in a delusion while texting someone whose personality might be totally opposite in the real world.<\/p>\n

\u00bfSe esfuerza en la conversaci\u00f3n?<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Recuerda la regla de oro de los mensajes de texto: If he\u2019s not making an effort in the conversation, you shouldn\u2019t make an effort to text him. <\/b><\/p>\n

It is as simple as that. If a guy is not interested in making an effort to have a quality conversation with you, he\u2019s not worth your time. Period.<\/p>\n

And how will you know whether he\u2019s making an effort in the conversation?<\/b><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll know that he\u2019s making an effort if he always responds within a decent amount of time (you don\u2019t have to wait for hours for his reply), if his responses are full sentences (and not only one or two words), if he sends you emojis, etc.<\/p>\n

If he does all of these things, it means he genuinely cares about you and the conversation you\u2019re having. It means he wants you to know that he\u2019s there for you, and he\u2019ll do anything to make you feel comfortable when texting him.<\/p>\n

It means he\u2019s not egocentric, thinking only of himself and replying or texting you only when he needs you.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s a big difference between a selfish guy and selfless guy. A selfish guy will do anything to appease himself, whereas selfless guy will do anything to appease you.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ntas veces le has mandado mensajes hoy?<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve already texted him and he didn\u2019t reply to your text, don\u2019t send another text.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re wondering why, the answer is simple. If you send multiple texts to a guy who is simply not responding, he will think of you as desperate.<\/p>\n

I know that there\u2019s nothing worse than the feeling of anticipation whether he\u2019s going to finally text you back or not, but, please, stop yourself from texting him again.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re a beautiful, confident woman, and you should never make him question your confidence and self respect.<\/p>\n

Si tu deseo de enviarle un mensaje es muy fuerte, intenta ocuparte de otras cosas para evitar enviarle mensajes.<\/p>\n

You should never make him a priority if he\u2019s treating you as an option. You\u2019re not an option, and you\u2019ll never be.<\/p>\n

So, if he doesn\u2019t text you back, turn off your phone if needed, and go enjoy your life without thinking of him.<\/p>\n

Remember that your happiness is the first thing that you should be worrying about and not some guy who didn\u2019t text you back.<\/p>\n

\u00bfTienes una relaci\u00f3n con \u00e9l?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re in a relationship and you\u2019re questioning whether you should text him or not, you need to ask yourself why is it so? Do you think that your partner has become reserved all of a sudden?<\/p>\n

Or that there\u2019s something wrong with him and because of that you\u2019re afraid of texting him?<\/p>\n

When you have doubts whether you should text someone with whom you\u2019re in a relationship, this is a potential red flag that something needs to be changed.<\/p>\n

Is he neglecting your needs lately and you would like him to notice you more? If that is the case, you\u2019re probably scared that he has lost feelings for you, and you\u2019re not sure if texting him is the right thing to do. You\u2019re not sure if that will fix things or make them even worse.<\/p>\n

Sea cual sea el motivo y si tienes dudas sobre vuestra relaci\u00f3n, la mejor opci\u00f3n es hablar con \u00e9l en persona en lugar de mandarle mensajes.<\/p>\n

Demand that he tell you what\u2019s on his mind because that is the only healthy way of dealing with relationship issues.<\/p>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

\u00bfHas discutido con tu novio?<\/b><\/p>\n

Arguments are really tricky when it comes to relationships. When an argument finishes, you can never know what the other person is thinking, and it is really frustrating when you\u2019re not sure exactly what to do in that situation.<\/p>\n

Should you text him or wait for him to text you first? Should you forget everything that happened and tell him how much you love him and that you don\u2019t want to fight anymore? Should you text him, or, not?<\/p>\n

If you had an argument with your boyfriend and now you\u2019re not sure whether you should text him or wait for him to text you back, the best solution is to think of the reason why you wanted to text him in the first place.<\/p>\n

Is it because you want to tell him to fuck off or you want to apologize for something you\u2019ve said to him? If you only want to show him your rage, you should never text him. But, if you feel that you should apologize, feel free to text him if that will make you feel better.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQuieres compartir algo divertido con \u00e9l?<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve found something funny that reminded you of him and now you don\u2019t know whether you should share it with him, you have the green light to do it. Guys love humor.<\/p>\n

It is something that is deeply rooted within their beings, and it\u2019s simply how they function.<\/p>\n

If you see a funny picture, video or something else, you should not hesitate to send it to him because it will make his day. And who doesn\u2019t like to laugh?<\/p>\n

Una mujer con sentido del humor es autom\u00e1ticamente diez veces m\u00e1s atractiva.<\/p>\n

Si entiendes el tipo de bromas que prefiere, deber\u00edas hacerle saber que los dos ten\u00e9is algunas cosas en com\u00fan.<\/p>\n

Pero, el problema surge si te pasas. Nunca es buena idea abrumarle con miles de fotos, v\u00eddeos u otras cosas graciosas porque, si te pasas, dejar\u00e1 de tener gracia.<\/p>\n

Instead, he will think that you\u2019re trying too hard to entertain him which is not that sexy.<\/p>\n

Siempre hay que ser sutil a la hora de enviar estas cosas porque m\u00e1s siempre es menos.<\/p>\n

If you try too hard to send ten videos every single day only to make him laugh, he will know that you\u2019ve been searching for them in order to send them to him. And it will seem like you have no business other than keeping him entertained.<\/p>\n

\u00bfAcabas de tener una primera cita con \u00e9l?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Las primeras citas siempre est\u00e1n llenas de esperanza y, al mismo tiempo, de posibles decepciones.<\/p>\n

Y los mensajes de texto desempe\u00f1an un papel importante en este sentido. La eterna pregunta que se hacen todas las mujeres despu\u00e9s de una primera cita es: \u00bfLe mando un mensaje?<\/b><\/p>\n

And the answer depends on the type of guy you\u2019re dating. Has he treated you like a real gentleman? If he did, chances are that he\u2019s going to text you first, and you just need to wait a little bit more.<\/p>\n

Real gentlemen never forget to text the woman they are interested in. So, if he had a good time with you and if you\u2019re sure of his gentlemanly manners, be sure that he will text you sooner or later.<\/p>\n

But, if the guy you\u2019ve dated has treated you poorly (no gentlemanly manners at all) and he didn\u2019t care about your feelings, you should never even think of texting him. And if he does text you, think of an excuse to keep him away from you.<\/p>\n

Nunca debes aceptar menos de lo que te mereces, y siempre debes darle un poco de espacio para que te env\u00ede un mensaje primero.<\/p>\n

And if he doesn\u2019t, you can consider texting him instead, but only if you\u2019re sure that the guy is right for you.<\/p>\n

And you\u2019ll know it if you observe his body language and the way he treats you in person. Our body language reveals more than our words, and you would be surprised what you can discover if you only observe his behavior.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEst\u00e1s pensando en mandarle un mensaje a tu ex?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

The answer is \u2018No\u2019. Don\u2019t even think about texting your ex because it will only bring you more problems than happiness. Always remind yourself that there\u2019s a reason why he is ex and not a current boyfriend.<\/p>\n

Texting your ex is like walking on the minefield of your past, and if you don\u2019t have a specific reason for doing so, don\u2019t do it. It is okay if you still have feelings for him because that is completely normal.<\/p>\n

Date tiempo para superarlo y dejar atr\u00e1s tu pasado. Y si las ganas de enviarle mensajes persisten, piensa en hablar con \u00e9l en persona. Nunca utilices los mensajes de texto para expresar tus emociones o para sonsacarle informaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Instead, focus on the present and devote yourself to the people who love you and who need you. You are not your past, and there\u2019s no need to suffer the agony of not knowing whether you should text your ex or not.<\/p>\n

Yet, if he texts you, don\u2019t immediately show him how much you\u2019re thrilled because of it (even if you are). Act like you don\u2019t really care about it, and if he is still persistent, then think of giving him a second chance. But, only if he proves you that he\u2019s making a real effort to win you again.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re still not sure, trust your gut!<\/b><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re still not sure whether you should text him or not, listen to your inner voice that will tell you what is the right thing to do. Always trust your intuition because it is something you shouldn\u2019t take for granted.<\/p>\n

If you hear that little voice inside you, telling you that you should text him, then text him! But, if you feel like it\u2019s not a really good idea, then better not. You can also ask your friends for their opinions on this.<\/p>\n

Also know that if you\u2019re constantly overly anxious about texting him, maybe that means that the problem lies in you. If you\u2019re an introvert, chances are that you\u2019ll find texting and talking to him really stressful.<\/p>\n

If that is the case, you should consider meditating, exercising or something similar to get rid of the anxiety and find the courage to text him (if you think it\u2019s the right thing to do).<\/p>\n

Whatever you do, just don\u2019t let the anxiety rule your mind. After all, \u2018If you don\u2019t try, you\u2019ll never know\u2019<\/i>.<\/p>\n

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