{"id":30846,"date":"2020-06-08T11:51:40","date_gmt":"2020-06-08T11:51:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=30846"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:45:55","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:45:55","slug":"a-la-chica-que-tiene-miedo-de-acercarse-a-alguien","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/a-la-chica-que-tiene-miedo-de-acercarse-a-alguien\/","title":{"rendered":"A la chica que teme acercarse a alguien"},"content":{"rendered":"

S\u00e9 que tienes miedo. En realidad, te aterroriza conocer gente nueva y dejar entrar a cualquiera. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not just that you are scared of tearing down your walls and getting close to new people; your heart trembles at the mere thought of allowing someone to break it all over again.<\/span><\/p>\n

Y lo entiendo porque yo fui t\u00fa. Todo lo que sientes ahora tiene un trasfondo profundo y muy buenas razones. Y yo sent\u00ed todo lo mismo.<\/b><\/p>\n

The truth is that you\u2019ve been hurt more times than you can count. Your soul has been shattered into pieces, you\u2019ve been betrayed, humiliated and disappointed. <\/span><\/p>\n

Entregaste tu coraz\u00f3n y tu <\/span>energ\u00eda a algunas personas equivocadas<\/span><\/a> y todo lo que hicieron fue usarte de todas las maneras posibles.<\/span><\/p>\n

And after a while, you reached breaking point. You saw that you couldn\u2019t continue living like that.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tras el \u00faltimo desenga\u00f1o, te hartaste y viste que necesitabas salvarte si quer\u00edas sobrevivir. <\/span><\/p>\n

Y en ese momento, pensaste que la \u00fanica forma de hacerlo era poni\u00e9ndote en guardia.<\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo quer\u00edas que todo el dolor desapareciera y pensabas que ten\u00edas que construir un chaleco antibalas alrededor de tu alma llena de cicatrices para mantener alejados a todos los que tuvieran la intenci\u00f3n de hacerte da\u00f1o. Pensaste que la \u00fanica manera de <\/b>protege tu coraz\u00f3n<\/b><\/a> era empezar a actuar sin coraz\u00f3n.<\/b><\/p>\n

All that you\u2019ve been through left enormous consequences on you. It changed the essence of who you were as a person and it made you become bitter and sarcastic when it comes to love.<\/span><\/p>\n

Te hizo perder la fe en el amor y te hizo dejar de creer en la gente. <\/span><\/p>\n

After everything you went through, now you are left convinced that everyone will treat you the same and that there doesn\u2019t exist a man who deserves for you to open up to him and for you to love him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Con el tiempo, abrazaste tu vida de soltero. <\/span>Your walls became your comfort zone and the armor around your heart became something you couldn\u2019t imagine living without.<\/b><\/p>\n

With time, you\u2019ve mastered the art of putting a brave girl mask on your face. You caged your vulnerable heart because you thought it was the only way to protect yourself from going through another emotional breakdown.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even though I completely understand everything you\u2019re feeling right now, I have to tell you that you are wrong. Because this, what you are doing, won\u2019t bring you any good.<\/span><\/p>\n

Being guarded and closed will only cause you harm. You won\u2019t affect the people who have hurt you and you won\u2019t heal your broken heart.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lo que har\u00e1s ser\u00e1 privarte de la posibilidad de encontrar el amor. Lo que har\u00e1s ser\u00e1 perder la oportunidad de conocer a alguien que merezca tu tiempo, tu energ\u00eda y tus esfuerzos. Lo que har\u00e1s ser\u00e1 perderte a ti mismo.<\/b><\/p>\n

Y cuando eso ocurra, todos los que te han tra\u00eddo hasta aqu\u00ed ganar\u00e1n. Significar\u00e1 que te has vuelto igual que ellos y esa ser\u00e1 su mayor victoria.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong<\/span>\u2014<\/span>I don\u2019t expect you to change your ways overnight because that would be impossible. <\/span><\/p>\n

I know that opening your heart to someone new seems frightening after everything you\u2019ve been through.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pero, por favor, al menos int\u00e9ntalo. Da peque\u00f1os pasos e intenta volver a ser la persona que eras antes de sufrir todos esos desenga\u00f1os.<\/b><\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de todo, ahora eres mucho m\u00e1s inteligente. Todo lo que te ha ocurrido puede y debe servirte de experiencia y de valiosas pero duras lecciones.<\/span><\/p>\n

Todas tus relaciones fallidas estaban ah\u00ed para ense\u00f1arte a ser m\u00e1s fuerte.
\nYou know better now and your gut won\u2019t allow you to repeat the same mistakes. You\u2019ve had some toxic people in your life and trust me<\/span>\u2014<\/span>you won\u2019t let in anyone similar to them ever again.<\/span><\/p>\n

No te pido que empieces a creer en el amor en este momento. S\u00f3lo te pido que tengas fe en ti mismo y todo lo dem\u00e1s vendr\u00e1 por a\u00f1adidura.<\/span><\/p>\n

I am asking you to believe in your judgment-making skills and in your intuition. To have faith that destiny will send you someone who won\u2019t be like those who have done you harm.<\/span><\/p>\n

Porque ese hombre llegar\u00e1 cuando menos te lo esperes. \u00c9l curar\u00e1 todas tus heridas y te devolver\u00e1 la fe en el amor. <\/span><\/p>\n

And when he comes along, you\u2019ll be happy that you didn\u2019t miss out on him just because you were too scared of putting yourself out there.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I know that you are scared. Actually, you are terrified of meeting new people and of letting anyone in. It\u2019s not just that you are scared of tearing down your walls and getting close to new people; your heart trembles at the mere thought of allowing someone to break it all over again. And I…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":30847,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-30846","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/11111-1.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30846","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=30846"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30846\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/30847"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=30846"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=30846"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=30846"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}