{"id":31145,"date":"2019-01-11T08:48:31","date_gmt":"2019-01-11T08:48:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31145"},"modified":"2022-02-10T02:13:52","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T02:13:52","slug":"tienes-que-dejar-de-culparte-por-su-incapacidad-para-amarte","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/tienes-que-dejar-de-culparte-por-su-incapacidad-para-amarte\/","title":{"rendered":"Tienes que dejar de culparte por su incapacidad para quererte"},"content":{"rendered":"

No estoy diciendo que seas perfecta porque la verdad es que tienes tus defectos, igual que el resto de nosotros. Pero para el chico adecuado, ser\u00e1s perfectamente imperfecta tal y como eres y, al fin y al cabo, eso es lo \u00fanico que realmente importa.<\/p>\n

Clearly, this guy we are talking about isn\u2019t the right one for you. And you know why that is so?<\/p>\n

Because he obviously can\u2019t seem to give you back all the love he\u2019s been getting from you. Because he obviously can\u2019t love you the way you love him and the way you deserve to be loved.<\/b><\/p>\n

Well, it\u2019s time for you to understand that this unrequited love is anything but your fault. His lack of emotions and the way he\u2019s been treating you are not things you are responsible for in any way whatsoever.<\/b><\/p>\n

Tienes que entender que hay algunas personas que son simplemente no es capaz de amar<\/span><\/a> y no hay nada que puedas hacer al respecto, por mucho que lo intentes. Y este tipo es obviamente una de esas personas.<\/p>\n

Puedes darle todo el amor de este mundo y podr\u00edas esperar que este amor eventualmente cambie su forma de ser, pero tristemente, eso nunca suceder\u00e1. Porque este hombre nunca te dar\u00e1 lo que necesitas, por mucho que intentes ganarte su coraz\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, por favor, deja de dudar de ti misma y de tu val\u00eda.<\/b> Deja de compararte con otras chicas<\/a>, including his ex-girlfriends, and wondering what it was that they had and you don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Deja de permitir que alimente tus inseguridades, que rebaje tu autoestima y que te convierta en alguien que no eres. Deja de cuestionar y dudar de uno mismo<\/span><\/a> y tu val\u00eda porque estas son las \u00faltimas cosas que deber\u00edas estar haciendo.<\/p>\n

Deja de preguntarte si eres la mala de la historia o si podr\u00edas haber hecho algo m\u00e1s para que se interesara por ti. Deja de intentar cambiarte a ti misma para gustarle m\u00e1s a este chico y de pensar que ese es el camino hacia su afecto.<\/p>\n

Deja de releer tus mensajes antiguos, intentando averiguar si dijiste algo malo que le hizo alejarse de ti. Deja de repetir toda la relaci\u00f3n en tu cabeza, intentando recordar cu\u00e1ndo y por qu\u00e9 las cosas se torcieron.<\/p>\n

Deja de buscar la validaci\u00f3n y la aceptaci\u00f3n de este hombre. Deja de pensar que \u00e9l necesita aprobar tu valor para que sea real y para que t\u00fa misma lo veas.<\/b><\/p>\n

Stop seeing yourself through his eyes because he\u2019ll never see all of your qualities. Stop asking yourself if you are enough because this is something the right guy would never make you wonder.<\/p>\n

And most importantly\u2014stop waiting for this guy to change and to become the man you need him to be. Face the harsh truth and finally accept that you can\u2019t save him and that he\u2019ll always remain the same selfish douchebag he\u2019s always been.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, en lugar de conformarte con las migajas de su amor y en lugar de esperar que las cosas sean diferentes en el futuro, por favor, s\u00e1lvate a ti misma alej\u00e1ndote de esta relaci\u00f3n destructiva. Empieza a ser consciente de que te mereces mucho m\u00e1s y espera a que llegue ese m\u00e1s.<\/b><\/p>\n

Remember that you are in no way to blame for everything that\u2019s been going on in your relationship. It is not your fault that this guy never managed to see your true beauty and all the qualities you have as a person.<\/p>\n

You are not to blame for choosing him and for not knowing better because we all make mistakes. You are not guilty of trying to find love where it clearly doesn\u2019t exist. And you are definitely not to blame for this man never being able to love you back the way you deserve.<\/p>\n

But I have to tell you something that you probably don\u2019t want to hear\u2014you will be responsible for your own destruction if you consciously choose to stay next to this man, knowing all of this. You will be to blame if you choose to waste more years of your life waiting to get all the love you keep giving him back.<\/p>\n

Because sadly, that will never happen. And it\u2019s about time you understand this.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about time you walk away from this man and give your best to move on from all of this pain he\u2019s been causing you. To understand that you don\u2019t need him and never did.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about time you empieza a quererte<\/span><\/a> more than you ever loved him. And most importantly\u2014for you to start respecting the woman you are, without allowing this guy or anyone else to diminish your worth anymore.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I am not saying that you are perfect because the truth is that you have your flaws, just like the rest of us. But to the right guy, you will be perfectly imperfect exactly the way you are and at the end of the day, that is the only thing that really matters. Clearly, this…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":31150,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-31145","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/jayson-hinrichsen-713147-unsplash.jpg",800,535,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31145","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31145"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31145\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/31150"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31145"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31145"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31145"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}