{"id":31284,"date":"2020-08-14T13:18:11","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T13:18:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31284"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:26:47","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:26:47","slug":"dale-la-vuelta-a-la-regla-80-20-de-las-relaciones-y-haz-que-tu-vida-amorosa-sea-increible","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/dale-la-vuelta-a-la-regla-80-20-de-las-relaciones-y-haz-que-tu-vida-amorosa-sea-increible\/","title":{"rendered":"Haga girar la regla 80\/20 de las relaciones y convierta su vida amorosa en algo incre\u00edble"},"content":{"rendered":"

Understanding the concept of the 80\/20 rule of relationships can be a bit confusing or even unknown to some people, so let\u2019s start at the beginning and explain what it is exactly and then continue on to have you spin it and make your love life amazing.<\/p>\n

To put it simply, the 80\/20 rule of relationships states that in a healthy relationship, you only get 80 percent of the things you want and 20 percent of the things you don\u2019t like about the person you are with.<\/em><\/p>\n

It\u2019s like a fatal flaw in human DNA that makes us think that the grass is greener on the other side, so we crave more the 20 percent we don\u2019t have and take for granted all the rest.<\/p>\n

Nos peleamos con nuestra pareja, sentimos que nos da menos, incluso rompemos por culpa de ese 20 por ciento, sin ni siquiera tener en cuenta la parte mayor que, en general, es estupenda.<\/p>\n

To transfer things into a real-life situation, let\u2019s say you are dating someone que es leal<\/span><\/a>alguien que se esfuerza y se asegura de que sepas que le importas.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, he does really stupid little things that make you feel neglected, like spending too much time playing games, falling asleep really fast or he doesn\u2019t like to socialize as much as you do.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que en lugar de centrarte en la parte m\u00e1s importante y en el hecho de que tienes el 80% de las cosas que quieres, te obsesionas con la parte que te falta y se lo echas en cara hasta tal punto que tus problemas se hacen m\u00e1s profundos y grandes.<\/p>\n

Then you hear your friends talking about the 20 percent you don\u2019t have and you feel envious. You see it exists and you wonder why your significant other can\u2019t be more like that.<\/p>\n

Pero si te tomaras un momento para respirar y pensar las cosas, realmente pensarlas, ver\u00edas que les falta el 20% de las cosas que t\u00fa tienes.<\/p>\n

Algo parecido ocurrir\u00eda si conocieras a alguien nuevo, alguien que tuviera ese peque\u00f1o porcentaje que anhelas y que parece tan ideal y apetecible.<\/p>\n

But your mind is so clouded by that 20 percent that you don\u2019t see that they don\u2019t have all the other things you want. They don\u2019t have the 80 percent your partner already has.<\/p>\n

Remember what I told you about the grass looking greener on the other side? That\u2019s the point if something looks a certain way, it doesn\u2019t necessarily mean it actually is.<\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfc\u00f3mo aplicar la regla 80\/20 de las relaciones para arreglar la situaci\u00f3n en la que te encuentras y mejorar tu vida amorosa? <\/b><\/p>\n

# deja de esperar que tu pareja sea perfecta<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Aprecia lo que tienes en lugar de llorar por las peque\u00f1as cosas que te faltan. Tu pareja isn\u2019t perfect<\/span><\/a> y no se supone que lo sean.<\/p>\n

They can\u2019t do things like you imagined them in your head, they can\u2019t behave in every situation like you would like them to, they are not in your mind and they see things differently than you do.<\/p>\n

Admit to yourself that you are not perfect either, maybe you don\u2019t have 20 percent of what your partner wants but you surely have 80 percent they can\u2019t live without.<\/p>\n

You wouldn\u2019t like them holding that small percentage over your head, now would you?<\/p>\n

# dejar de comparar<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

They are your boyfriend or girlfriend, not your friend\u2019s. They can\u2019t behave in the same way or do things you think are great in your friend\u2019s relationship.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important you realize you are two completely separate individuals who are totally unlike your friend and their partner and that there is no way you would want the same things or react to certain situations the same way.<\/p>\n

Most importantly, you only get your friend\u2019s side of the story, which might be blown out of proportion or at least a bit embellished and you don\u2019t know what\u2019s under the perfect surface.<\/p>\n

Recuerda que nadie tiene todo al cien por cien, nunca nada es tan perfecto y todo el mundo tiene al menos ese 20 por ciento que siempre le faltar\u00e1.<\/p>\n

So start concentrating more on your own relationship and stop wasting your time on comparisons, it\u2019s irrelevant and useless and you are only doing more harm to your relationship than good.<\/p>\n

# empieza por ti mismo<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Muchas personas siempre ven el problema en su pareja, sin tener en cuenta que pueden ser ellos los culpables o menos perfectos en ciertas situaciones.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be one of those people. Be a realist and understand that none of us are saints. We are all flawed in our own way.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que antes de atacar a tu pareja y cargarle con toda la culpa, t\u00f3mate un tiempo para reflexionar y reevaluar tus pensamientos, deseos y acciones.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEres impulsivo, debes contar hasta diez antes de reaccionar? \u00bfHay cosas que puedas estar haciendo mal?<\/p>\n

# determina lo que quieres<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

La causa de todos nuestros problemas con ese 20 por ciento que percibimos como defectuoso en nuestra pareja podr\u00eda residir en nuestra incapacidad para ser sinceros con nosotros mismos sobre lo que queremos.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time you do just that. Literally take a pen and paper and write down all the things you want from your partner and your relationship.<\/p>\n

Escribe todas las cosas que crees que aportas. Escribe tambi\u00e9n todas las cosas que consideres que son culpa tuya o que podr\u00edas hacer mejor.<\/p>\n

Now take a really close look, are you getting most of the things you want from your partner and do they make up for the part that\u2019s missing? If you were him looking at your list, would you like him to ignore the negative and concentrate on the positive?<\/p>\n

Si la respuesta es afirmativa, en realidad no le falta gran cosa en ese 20%, \u00bfme equivoco?<\/p>\n

# se encuentra<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

This is the reason why most of us don\u2019t know what we want, we simply forget to ask ourself, we forget to get to know our wishes, preferences, and goals and actually dream our dreams.<\/p>\n

Para tener una relaci\u00f3n sana y que funcione, tienes que quererte a ti mismo. Tienes que amar tu vida y vivirla de verdad.<\/p>\n

No hay nadie m\u00e1s que t\u00fa para completar tu vida. La otra persona s\u00f3lo complementa tu vida y se suma a ella. As\u00ed que aseg\u00farate de tenerlo claro.<\/p>\n

# determina por qu\u00e9 entraste en tu relaci\u00f3n en primer lugar<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

To expand on the previous note, it\u2019s important to say that people have a habit of entering a relationship hoping (sometimes even unconsciously) they will get something from it.<\/p>\n

Mainly they are looking for somebody who will make them happy. Don\u2019t fall into that trap, there\u2019s nobody who can make you happy, at least not long-term, if you don\u2019t make yourself happy first.<\/p>\n

Ten en cuenta que las relaciones consisten en dar y recibir y que ambos segmentos tienen que estar incorporados. El amor fluye cuando ambas personas se implican por igual en el otro.<\/p>\n

# escuchar m\u00e1s y suponer menos<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

The way in which you interpret somebody\u2019s words or actions might have nothing to do with what they said and everything to do with negative experiences you had in the past.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let the carga emocional<\/span><\/a> que llevas dentro arruinan una relaci\u00f3n potencialmente buena. Tu pareja actual no es culpable de ninguna de las cosas que hicieron tu ex o tus ex.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que antes de ponerte a pensar en ese 20% de los problemas que tienes con \u00e9l, aseg\u00farate de que realmente tienen algo que ver con \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

# cuenta tus bendiciones<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"feliz<\/p>\n

Cuenta todo lo que tienes en la parte del 80%. Trata de ver el panorama general y s\u00e9 realista contigo mismo sobre lo que realmente necesitas.<\/p>\n

You probably have much more than you think but you are so concentrated on that 20% you don\u2019t have that you don\u2019t see how lucky you are.<\/p>\n

Espero que ahora tenga claro el significado de la regla 80\/20 de las relaciones. Seguro que ahora todo suena l\u00f3gico y bastante obvio.<\/p>\n

The most important thing to remember if you want to make your love life amazing is not to sweat the small stuff. Don\u2019t make problems where there aren\u2019t any. <\/b><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t brush anything under the carpet either, so if that 20 percent contains things that undervalue all the good things, try to solve them. Talk to your partner and ask them to work on something.<\/p>\n

Lo peor que puedes hacer es no comunicar c\u00f3mo te sientes, guardar rencor o acumular insatisfacci\u00f3n. Quedarse callado nunca ha solucionado nada.<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de que hayas le\u00eddo esto, espero que la pr\u00f3xima vez que quieras quejarte de tu pareja, te tomes un momento para respirar y pensar, y lo m\u00e1s obvio que recordar\u00e1s es ese valioso 80 por ciento que obtienes cada d\u00eda. <\/b><\/p>\n

The other 20 percent is something you should erase from your memory because all in all, it really isn\u2019t that important.<\/p>\n

Acknowledge the fact that you also give 80 percent that your partner wants and 20 percent they don\u2019t want but accept.<\/p>\n

Isn\u2019t life better when you concentrate on all the good stuff rather than spend your time dwelling on the things that aren\u2019t so important?<\/p>\n

So don\u2019t be petty by giving more value to something as small and insignificant as the 20 percent.<\/p>\n

Enjoy the good days and storm through the bad ones without reflecting too much about them. As I said, don\u2019t create problems where there aren\u2019t any.<\/p>\n

Time flies so quickly and it\u2019s important we seize as many great, breathtaking, sweet moments as we possibly can.<\/p>\n

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