{"id":31310,"date":"2020-03-15T08:17:02","date_gmt":"2020-03-15T08:17:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31310"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:14:27","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:14:27","slug":"5-maneras-de-superar-un-vinculo-traumatico-y-dejar-una-relacion-abusiva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/5-maneras-de-superar-un-vinculo-traumatico-y-dejar-una-relacion-abusiva\/","title":{"rendered":"5 maneras de superar un v\u00ednculo traum\u00e1tico y dejar una relaci\u00f3n abusiva"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Un v\u00ednculo traum\u00e1tico es un tipo de din\u00e1mica caracter\u00edstica de <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/lecciones-aprendidas-relacion-abusiva\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> relaciones abusivas <\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>It happens when a victim becomes so emotionally tied to their abuser to the point where they can\u2019t seem to find a way to detach from them, even though deep down they know how toxic their partner really is.<\/p>\n<p>Aunque es lo \u00faltimo que cabr\u00eda esperar, cuando se produce el v\u00ednculo traum\u00e1tico, la v\u00edctima siente un intenso amor, lealtad y devoci\u00f3n por su agresor y dejar esta relaci\u00f3n y superar este v\u00ednculo parece misi\u00f3n imposible.<\/p>\n<p>Sin embargo, se puede hacer y aqu\u00ed hay 5 maneras a prueba de balas para hacerlo.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">Identificar el problema<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-80103\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-biting-nails.jpg\" alt=\"mujer triste mordiendose las u\u00f1as\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-biting-nails.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-biting-nails-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-biting-nails-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Lo primero que tienes que hacer si realmente quieres librarte de tu maltratador y ayudarte a sanar es mirar la verdad directamente a los ojos y aceptar que vuestra relaci\u00f3n es cualquier cosa menos sana.<\/p>\n<p>Ante todo, tienes que entender que tu percepci\u00f3n de c\u00f3mo debe ser el amor no es correcta y que tu pareja es en realidad tu maltratador.<\/p>\n<p>Adem\u00e1s, s\u00f3lo crees que les quieres cuando en realidad eres adicto a ellos y dependes emocionalmente de ellos.<\/p>\n<p>Realizing that you\u2019ve been sharing your life with a toxic person and that this, what the two of you have, is a trauma bond instead of love is quite difficult but once you do so, everything will be easier from that step onwards.<\/p>\n<p>Si tiene problemas para percibir su relaci\u00f3n sin darse cuenta de ello, intente mirarla desde fuera porque eso le dar\u00e1 una perspectiva m\u00e1s objetiva de las cosas.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfC\u00f3mo te sentir\u00edas si a uno de tus amigos o familiares le trataran como a ti? \u00bfQu\u00e9 les dir\u00edas que hicieran?<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Empezar a vivir en la realidad<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-80104\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-alone.jpg\" alt=\"mujer triste sentada en el sof\u00e1 sola\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-alone.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-alone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-alone-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>In addition to identifying the problem, you also have to stop living in the past or in the potential future if you really wish to get over this trauma bond you\u2019ve got yourself stuck in.<\/p>\n<p>Haz todo lo posible por centrarte en el momento presente y poner toda tu energ\u00eda en salvarte de tu relaci\u00f3n actual.<\/p>\n<p>Esto significa dejar de recordar c\u00f3mo tu pareja te trataba con amor y cari\u00f1o al principio de la relaci\u00f3n y desear que esos tiempos vuelvan.<\/p>\n<p>Deje de intentar averiguar d\u00f3nde fall\u00f3 todo o de culparse por no haber hecho algunas cosas de forma diferente cuando tuvo la oportunidad de hacerlo.<\/p>\n<p>Aparte de esto, tambi\u00e9n tienes que dejar de fantasear con el brillante futuro que ten\u00edas planeado en la cabeza junto a este hombre.<\/p>\n<p>Para dejar de so\u00f1ar con c\u00f3mo podr\u00edan o deber\u00edan ser las cosas, si tan s\u00f3lo actuara un poco diferente.<\/p>\n<p>Dejar de esperar <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/tu-amor-no-puede-cambiar-a-un-hombre-hasta-que-el-mismo-decida-hacerlo\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">tu amor para cambiar <\/a> a tu maltratador porque eso nunca ocurrir\u00e1.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Reconozca sus emociones<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-80105\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-crying.jpg\" alt=\"mujer joven llorando\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-crying.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-crying-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-crying-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/8-senales-de-emociones-reprimidas-formas-de-manejarlas-con-exito\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> Reprimir las emociones <\/a> and running away from them, no matter how painful they are, won\u2019t get you anywhere.<\/p>\n<p>They won\u2019t magically disappear just because you act like they are not there.<\/p>\n<p>De hecho, lo \u00fanico que conseguir\u00e1s intentando ocultar tus verdaderos sentimientos es que se acumulen y sean m\u00e1s dif\u00edciles de manejar en el futuro.<\/p>\n<p>Besides, you\u2019ll have to face each one of your emotions sooner or later, so why not start now?<\/p>\n<p>Otra cosa importante es no permitir que tu pareja t\u00f3xica te manipule haci\u00e9ndote creer que est\u00e1s exagerando o exagerando por sentir ciertas cosas.<\/p>\n<p>No, you are not crazy\u2014he just wants to make you think that so you become easier to control.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Comprometerse a cambiar<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-80106\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-meditating-with-closed-eyes.jpg\" alt=\"mujer joven meditando con los ojos cerrados\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-meditating-with-closed-eyes.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-meditating-with-closed-eyes-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-woman-meditating-with-closed-eyes-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Cambiar nuestros patrones de conducta y h\u00e1bitos es dif\u00edcil para todos y especialmente para las personas que se encuentran atrapadas en un c\u00edrculo interminable de violencia emocional.<\/p>\n<p>Sin embargo, es algo que tienes que hacer y es un paso necesario en el proceso de autocuraci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>Haz una lista de tus comportamientos autodestructivos y prom\u00e9tete a ti mismo que cambiar\u00e1s cada uno de ellos lo antes posible.<\/p>\n<p>For example, you may always find yourself replying to your abuser\u2019s texts or answering his phone calls when he wants to apologize.<\/p>\n<p>O tienes la costumbre de ir a los sitios donde podr\u00edas verle cada vez que te fantasmea.<\/p>\n<p>Estas son algunas cosas que puede que ni siquiera seas consciente de hacer, pero un poco de auto-introspecci\u00f3n te ayudar\u00e1 a identificar estos patrones de comportamiento. Posteriormente, una vez que consigas hacer esto, tu poder de libre albedr\u00edo te ayudar\u00e1 a cambiar estos patrones y finalmente te ayudar\u00e1 a salir de esta relaci\u00f3n para siempre.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Consigue ayuda<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-80107\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-friends-talking-in-the-living-room.jpg\" alt=\"amigos tristes hablando en el sal\u00f3n\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-friends-talking-in-the-living-room.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-friends-talking-in-the-living-room-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-friends-talking-in-the-living-room-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Lo \u00faltimo pero definitivamente no lo menos importante que debes hacer para superar un v\u00ednculo traum\u00e1tico y <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/8-cosas-que-pasan-dejar-una-relacion-abusiva\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> dejar una relaci\u00f3n abusiva <\/a> es buscar ayuda.<\/p>\n<p>Remember\u2014none of these things you\u2019ve experienced is your fault and you have nothing to be ashamed of.<\/p>\n<p>Aunque hablar con un profesional siempre es una buena idea, tambi\u00e9n puedes intentar compartir tus problemas con tus amigos y familiares m\u00e1s cercanos.<\/p>\n<p>Besides having the opportunity to hear other people\u2019s opinions, which can serve you as a reality check, reaching out to your loved ones will also help you know that you are not alone in all of this.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-80102\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/5-Ways-To-Get-Over-A-Trauma-Bond-And-Leave-An-Abusive-Relationship-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"5 maneras de superar un v\u00ednculo traum\u00e1tico y dejar una relaci\u00f3n abusiva\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/5-Ways-To-Get-Over-A-Trauma-Bond-And-Leave-An-Abusive-Relationship-pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/5-Ways-To-Get-Over-A-Trauma-Bond-And-Leave-An-Abusive-Relationship-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A trauma bond is a type of dynamic which is characteristic of abusive relationships . It happens when a victim becomes so emotionally tied to their abuser to the point where they can\u2019t seem to find a way to detach from them, even though deep down they know how toxic their partner really is. 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