{"id":31502,"date":"2019-01-18T12:16:39","date_gmt":"2019-01-18T12:16:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31502"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:34:06","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:34:06","slug":"una-carta-al-hombre-toxico-que-no-queria-irse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/una-carta-al-hombre-toxico-que-no-queria-irse\/","title":{"rendered":"Una carta al hombre t\u00f3xico que no quer\u00eda irse"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It took me more time than I would like to admit, but I&#8217;ve finally accepted the awful truth\u2014you were, are, and always will be a toxic, narcissistic and selfish asshole. I\u2019ve come to terms with the fact that you were never right for me and that giving you a huge part of my life was the biggest mistake I could ever have made.&nbsp;<b>Sin embargo, durante mucho tiempo no consegu\u00ed llegar al fondo de una cuesti\u00f3n; durante mucho tiempo segu\u00ed pregunt\u00e1ndome si alguna vez me quisiste o no.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>On the one hand, there were days when you were doing everything in your power to hurt me as much as possible, as if breaking my heart was your only final goal. Days when you were trying hard to make my life a living hell and when you acted like you can\u2019t stand my guts.<\/p>\n<p>Hubo momentos en los que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/to-the-guy-who-tried-to-make-me-feel-worthless\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">haci\u00e9ndome sentir tan in\u00fatil<\/span><\/a>Momentos en los que abusaste de m\u00ed de todas las formas posibles, sin pensar en c\u00f3mo me hac\u00eda sentir todo eso. Momentos en los que me tratabas como a tu peor enemigo y en los que parec\u00eda que torturarme era tu mayor placer.<\/p>\n<p>Moments when you made me wonder why I wasn\u2019t enough for you to love me for real and what had I done to deserve you treating me like that. When you managed to enter my head, making me question myself and my own worth, while believing you that I really had all of this coming.<\/p>\n<p><b>Sin embargo, tambi\u00e9n exist\u00eda la otra cara de la moneda. Adem\u00e1s de maltratador, a veces tambi\u00e9n eras el hombre m\u00e1s cari\u00f1oso y atento del planeta.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Every time I begged you to end things because I didn\u2019t have the strength to do so and every time I threatened to leave you, you would turn into the man I had fallen in love with. You would beg me to give you just one more chance and that everything between us would turn out for the better.<\/p>\n<p>And silly me believed your empty promises every single time. I guess I couldn\u2019t grasp how it was possible for a man who doesn\u2019t want to leave you at all costs to not give a damn about you.<\/p>\n<p>Entonces, deb\u00edas de quererme, \u00bfno? Si no, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 habr\u00edas luchado tanto por quedarte a mi lado cada vez que yo quer\u00eda poner fin a nuestra relaci\u00f3n? \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 habr\u00edas actuado como si nunca pudieras imaginar tu vida sin m\u00ed y como si te arrepintieras sinceramente de todas las cosas horribles que me hac\u00edas?<\/p>\n<p><b>Debes haberme amado de alguna manera. Si no, me habr\u00edas dejado hace tiempo.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>BULLSHIT! Now, after all this time and after I\u2019ve finally gotten rid of you, I see the real truth. Now I know that <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/deja-honesto-nunca-realmente-amado\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><b>nunca me quisiste<\/b><\/a><b>ya que no eres capaz de amar.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>S\u00f3lo te quedabas a mi lado porque yo era una v\u00edctima conveniente para tus abusos. Todo ese tiempo, solo disfrutabas de tener a alguien que te subiera el ego, alguien que te quisiera hicieras lo que hicieras y alguien que siempre estuviera a tu lado como red de seguridad.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00f3lo te aprovechabas del hecho de que yo estaba tan loca por ti que no ve\u00eda tus verdaderos colores. Te quedaste a mi lado porque te hac\u00eda sentir mejor contigo misma y porque era la \u00fanica persona en todo el mundo que a\u00fan ve\u00eda algo bueno en ti.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00ed, me llev\u00f3 un tiempo comprender todo esto, pero cuando por fin lo hice, en cierto modo me liber\u00f3. Darme cuenta de esto me ayud\u00f3 a ver las cosas con m\u00e1s claridad y a llegar al fondo de nuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>Me ayud\u00f3 a dejar de culparme por todo el da\u00f1o que me hiciste, y me ayud\u00f3 a ver que no hab\u00eda nada que pudiera haber hecho para que me quisieras como yo te quise. A dejar de considerarme una tonta por no haber cortado antes todos los lazos contigo y por no haberte echado de mi sistema a tiempo.<\/p>\n<p><b>Y lo que es m\u00e1s importante, me ayud\u00f3 a ver que tener la <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/ser-lo-suficientemente-fuerte-como-para-alejarse-de-un-manipulador-toxico\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><b>fuerza para alejarse<\/b><\/a><b> alejarme de ti fue la mejor decisi\u00f3n de mi vida. Tu toxicidad me hizo darme cuenta de que nunca me mereciste, y me hizo no querer volver a ti nunca m\u00e1s.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-31451 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/4-Surprising-Reasons-Why-Overthinking-Is-Your-Strongest-WeaponHomemaking-2-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Una carta al hombre t\u00f3xico que no quer\u00eda irse\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/4-Surprising-Reasons-Why-Overthinking-Is-Your-Strongest-WeaponHomemaking-2-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/4-Surprising-Reasons-Why-Overthinking-Is-Your-Strongest-WeaponHomemaking-2-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/4-Surprising-Reasons-Why-Overthinking-Is-Your-Strongest-WeaponHomemaking-2.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It took me more time than I would like to admit, but I&#8217;ve finally accepted the awful truth\u2014you were, are, and always will be a toxic, narcissistic and selfish asshole. I\u2019ve come to terms with the fact that you were never right for me and that giving you a huge part of my life was&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":31450,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29653],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-31502","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-letters"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29653,"label":"letters"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/01\/tobi-oluremi-428810-unsplash.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Martha Sullivan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/martha-sullivan\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29653,"name":"letters","slug":"letters","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29653,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. 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