{"id":31552,"date":"2020-04-21T11:55:47","date_gmt":"2020-04-21T11:55:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31552"},"modified":"2022-02-27T13:55:21","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T13:55:21","slug":"carta-abierta-a-mi-ex-gracias-por-enganarme","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/carta-abierta-a-mi-ex-gracias-por-enganarme\/","title":{"rendered":"Carta abierta a mi ex: Gracias por enga\u00f1arme"},"content":{"rendered":"

A pesar de que el enga\u00f1o se ha convertido tristemente en algo com\u00fan en las citas modernas, ser enga\u00f1ado por la persona amada sigue siendo una de las cosas m\u00e1s devastadoras que alguien pueda experimentar.<\/p>\n

Deber\u00eda saberlo porque lo sent\u00ed en mi piel.<\/p>\n

Cuando t\u00fa, a quien yo cre\u00eda amor de mi vida <\/a>me enga\u00f1\u00f3, me sent\u00ed traicionada, humillada y decepcionada, adem\u00e1s de con el coraz\u00f3n roto.<\/p>\n

I felt like the person I trusted the most backstabbed me in the most awful way. Also, I couldn\u2019t help but wonder how come I didn\u2019t see it before.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo es que fui tan tonta de permitir que algo as\u00ed siguiera ocurriendo delante de mis ojos, sin que me diera cuenta de nada?<\/p>\n

De la noche a la ma\u00f1ana, mi autoestima desapareci\u00f3.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I asked myself what you missed in our relationship that you had to search for in someone else. What did this girl have that I didn\u2019t?<\/p>\n

Every single one of these thoughts and questions ran through my head the moment I found out that you weren\u2019t faithful.<\/p>\n

Even though staying by your side was never an option, leaving you didn\u2019t ease my pain.<\/p>\n

Me sent\u00eda como si quisiera morir y como si nada ni nadie pudiera ayudarme a sentirme mejor. Como si fuera el fin del mundo y como si nunca fuera a recuperarme de todo lo que me hiciste.<\/p>\n

Me pregunt\u00e9 c\u00f3mo hab\u00eda podido malgastar tantos a\u00f1os de mi vida viviendo en una mentira. <\/b><\/p>\n

Obviously, you never loved nor respected me the way you should have because you don\u2019t do a thing like this to someone you love.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Lo entender\u00eda si fueras tan sincera como para decirme que te has desenamorado de m\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Pero lo que nunca pude entender y perdonarte fue que violaras mi confianza y me mantuvieras como tu plan de respaldo mientras ten\u00edas una aventura y mientras me convenc\u00edas de que me quer\u00edas m\u00e1s que a nada.<\/p>\n

After some time spent grieving, I\u2019ve decided it is time to recomponerme<\/a> de una forma u otra.<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de todo, t\u00fa estabas en alg\u00fan lugar viviendo tu vida, como si nada hubiera pasado, y aqu\u00ed estaba yo, aferr\u00e1ndome a este dolor y permitiendo que mi desamor me definiera.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve decided that I wasn\u2019t to blame for everything that went on and that you are the only one responsible for your trampas <\/a>.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Carta a mi ex-novio<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Sab\u00eda que hab\u00eda hecho todo lo posible para que nuestra relaci\u00f3n funcionara, y si hab\u00eda algo que te molestaba, deber\u00edas haberlo confesado en lugar de tontear a mis espaldas.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve decided that hating the girl you had an affair with was pointless, as well.<\/p>\n

Yes, my first instinct was to blame her for everything, but then it hit me\u2014she wasn\u2019t the one who promised commitment to me.<\/b><\/p>\n

She wasn\u2019t the one who would lay in bed next to me every night as if everything was alright, the one who continued to make future plans with me, knowing what was happening, and the one who kept on swearing that she loved me, even though the truth was completely different.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, despite all of this, I learned that I shouldn\u2019t be hating you either. I\u2019ve realized that holding grudges and being bitter was only impacting me negatively.<\/p>\n

My desire for revenge was only making me a prisoner of my own pain, and it didn\u2019t affect you in any way whatsoever.<\/p>\n

So, this is not me cursing you or wishing you all the worst. This is not me resenting you or swearing that I\u2019ll never forgive you for everything you\u2019ve done.<\/p>\n

No, this is me thanking you. Yes, you\u2019ve heard it right: I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for cheating on me. <\/b><\/p>\n

Because if you hadn\u2019t done it, I wouldn\u2019t be the person I am today. I wouldn\u2019t know how strong of a woman I am, and I wouldn\u2019t know how much I could take.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t know that a simple heartbreak can\u2019t break me completely. That time really does heal all wounds and that every pain is temporary, no matter how devastating it might feel.<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t know that I could make it without you or without anyone else to hold my hand. If you hadn\u2019t cheated on me, I wouldn\u2019t have become my own hero and savior.<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t understand some verdades reveladoras sobre el amor <\/a> y la gente en general.<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t know that there are some insensitive and toxic people, such as yourself, who don\u2019t give a damn about hurting others and that my love can\u2019t change those people, as much as I would like it to.<\/p>\n

Lo m\u00e1s importante, if you hadn\u2019t cheated on me, I wouldn\u2019t have loved and respected myself the way I do now.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t know how much I deserve, what love isn\u2019t or what to expect from a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t be this proud of my strength and my capacity to overcome all miseries.<\/b><\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t have known better than not to let people who don\u2019t deserve me into my life, and I would continue thinking that there is nothing wrong with settling for less.<\/b><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que.., gracias por romperme el coraz\u00f3n<\/a>. Thank you for cheating on me because if you hadn\u2019t done it, I would have never learned a valuable life lesson.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Una<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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