{"id":31783,"date":"2019-01-24T11:02:22","date_gmt":"2019-01-24T11:02:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=31783"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:28:51","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:28:51","slug":"lee-esto-si-crees-que-la-relacion-termino-por-tu-culpa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/lee-esto-si-crees-que-la-relacion-termino-por-tu-culpa\/","title":{"rendered":"Si crees que tu relaci\u00f3n termin\u00f3 por tu culpa, lee esto"},"content":{"rendered":"

Las rupturas nunca son f\u00e1ciles, pero cuando sabemos que la otra parte es la culpable y que, a pesar de lo que sentimos, sabemos que estamos mejor sin ella, nos tranquiliza. <\/span><\/p>\n

But, when we know we are the ones to blame, it\u2019s a whole different story. Our wounds and pain are deepened by the feeling of guilt that consumes us. <\/span><\/p>\n

Para m\u00ed, lo m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil fue aceptar que fue culpa m\u00eda que todo acabara as\u00ed. Fui yo quien meti\u00f3 la pata. Yo fui quien <\/span>demasiado pegajoso<\/span><\/a> y demasiado celosa, y b\u00e1sicamente asfixi\u00e9 nuestra relaci\u00f3n. <\/span><\/p>\n

Este l\u00edo en mi cabeza nos hizo da\u00f1o a los dos. <\/b><\/p>\n

Tard\u00e9 mucho tiempo en aceptar que se hab\u00eda acabado para siempre y que, en gran parte, era por mi culpa. Pero sea cual sea el motivo de tu ruptura, debes saber tambi\u00e9n que se necesitan dos para mantener una relaci\u00f3n, as\u00ed como se necesitan dos para arruinarla.<\/span><\/p>\n

When it comes to love wrecks, nothing is ever black or white. And I am not saying that to justify myself or anyone else in a similar situation. It\u2019s just the reality of things. <\/span><\/p>\n

Soy plenamente consciente de d\u00f3nde me equivoqu\u00e9, y lo pagu\u00e9 con l\u00e1grimas, un coraz\u00f3n roto y noches sin dormir. Pero tambi\u00e9n aprend\u00ed mucho. Toda la experiencia me hizo crecer como persona. <\/span><\/p>\n

You see, time gives you clarity, and once I took a step back, I realized that there was a reason I unconsciously sabotaged my relationship: it wasn\u2019t going to last anyway, and I just kept on fooling myself. <\/span><\/p>\n

I wasn\u2019t ready for the relationship I was in because I came into it carrying baggage from my last relationship. I was filled with trust issues and insecurities, and I just couldn\u2019t shake them off so easily. <\/b><\/p>\n

On the other hand, he couldn\u2019t understand me. He couldn\u2019t understand what I had gone through and why I behaved the way I did. I don\u2019t blame him for that, though. It wasn\u2019t his job to heal me and make me happy. That was always in my hands. I just didn’t realize that at the time. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I am trying to do that now. I am rebuilding my life brick by brick. I am learning to love myself. I am learning to depend on myself. \u00a0I am learning to forgive myself. <\/span><\/p>\n

I kept on wishing to turn back time and do everything differently. Sadly, that can\u2019t be done. That\u2019s why I did the only thing that was left for me to do. I made peace with the situation. I accepted that the damage can\u2019t be undone.<\/span><\/p>\n

Still, I wanted him to know that I am sorry. I wanted him to know that I know now what I didn\u2019t know back then and that my intention wasn\u2019t to hurt him. It was good to get that off my chest. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t wait too long to say you are sorry. It won\u2019t fix anything, but it will benefit you, and it will let other people know that you care for their feelings. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be too hard on yourself. We all screw up from time to time. We are only human, and mistakes are the ones that make us grow. Learn from them; don\u2019t be their prisoner. <\/b><\/p>\n

Al final todo saldr\u00e1 bien, te lo juro. Solo tienes que ver el lado bueno debajo de todas esas nubes negras que tienes encima.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sea lo que sea lo que hayas hecho, perd\u00f3nate. Date la oportunidad de enmendarlo. Crea una vida de la que te sientas orgulloso. <\/span>Trabaja en ti mismo<\/span><\/a>, by yourself for yourself, and make sure you don\u2019t make the same mistakes next time around.<\/span><\/p>\n

And there will be a next time; don\u2019t doubt that for a second. So start the work immediately and be the best version of yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Lee<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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