{"id":3179,"date":"2020-08-03T08:57:20","date_gmt":"2020-08-03T08:57:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=3179"},"modified":"2022-03-17T01:33:57","modified_gmt":"2022-03-17T01:33:57","slug":"asi-es-como-me-case-con-mi-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/asi-es-como-me-case-con-mi-ex\/","title":{"rendered":"As\u00ed es como me cas\u00e9 con mi ex"},"content":{"rendered":"

Decid\u00ed llamar a mi ex despu\u00e9s de tres a\u00f1os de silencio de radio.<\/b> Pens\u00e9 que era el momento adecuado para darnos el cierre apropiado que nunca tuvimos.<\/p>\n

Nos separamos de una forma extra\u00f1a y nunca pudimos seguir adelante. No sal\u00ed con nadie m\u00e1s durante tres a\u00f1os. Ten\u00eda relaciones que se neg\u00f3 a etiquetar<\/a> porque usaba a esas chicas para desahogarse y enfriar la rabia que ten\u00eda tras nuestra ruptura.<\/p>\n

Until he found a girl that made him forget about me\u2014or that\u2019s what I thought at first.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t even have his number<\/b>As\u00ed que le ped\u00ed a nuestro amigo com\u00fan que me diera su n\u00famero. Quer\u00eda llamarlo y hablar de lo que hab\u00edamos tenido.<\/p>\n

I wanted him to tell me why was he angry all the time and why couldn\u2019t we manage to work it out.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que llam\u00e9 y dej\u00f3 que sonara. <\/b>That night he didn\u2019t pick up and I broke into million pieces. I thought he\u2019d be happy to hear from me\u2014the emotions should be cooling off by now.<\/p>\n

My phone call wasn\u2019t answered and I went to sleep beating myself up for thinking I meant something to him. I was hurt.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

My heart was broken one more time and my ego\u2026 well, my ego was devastated. I thought I\u2019d feel better if I\u2019d just sleep it off.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n:<\/strong> Gracias por no coger el tel\u00e9fono cuando llam\u00e9<\/a><\/p>\n

A la ma\u00f1ana siguiente mis sentimientos eran los mismos que la noche anterior. Me odiaba por haber llamado. <\/b><\/p>\n

I hated myself for thinking he\u2019d still smile upon seeing my name on the screen of his phone. Well, he was, but it turned out that I called at the wrong moment. <\/b><\/p>\n

His fiance had his phone and she didn\u2019t appreciate my call. That\u2019s why it was left unanswered. <\/b><\/p>\n

The moment he got a chance he wrote me a message. I felt he was mad but happy at the same time. That\u2019s what we did to each other.<\/p>\n

He was happy to see my name on the screen of his phone, but he was so mad to see it only after three years. I had no explanation for that\u2014although, it\u2019s not like my phone died from his missed calls.<\/p>\n

\"Joven<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Cuando tu mayor amor se casa con su mayor amor<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

It was the most awkward talk I had until it wasn\u2019t anymore.<\/b> Una vez que la ira se desvaneci\u00f3, entraron las emociones felices. Y Dios, era tan bueno recordar lo que ten\u00edamos.<\/p>\n

Hablamos durante casi una hora hasta que decidi\u00f3 conducir 112 millas para verme. <\/b>It was already night. I\u2019d be lying if I said that I had seen this coming, but I\u2019d be lying as well if I said I was surprised.<\/p>\n

Sol\u00edamos hacer locuras as\u00ed el uno por el otro. No hab\u00eda forma de convencerle de que no lo hiciera, as\u00ed que me dej\u00e9 llevar.<\/p>\n

At first I couldn\u2019t believe he drove all that distance just to see me<\/b>. At some point, I thought he was just playing me. But he wasn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Nunca fuimos as\u00ed. Estaba muy nerviosa, aunque hice todo lo que pude para estar lo m\u00e1s guapa posible.<\/p>\n

We both knew there wouldn’t be anything but the talk happening that night and yet, I had the need to look the best I could. I still don\u2019t know if it was for me or for him.<\/p>\n

\"Una<\/p>\n

En cuanto lo vi se me par\u00f3 el coraz\u00f3n.<\/b> I couldn’t believe it was him before my eyes. It was so real and I just wasn’t ready for it.<\/p>\n

Yo estaba preparado y tuve las pelotas de llamarle para hablar por tel\u00e9fono, pero \u00e9l tuvo las agallas de presentarse en persona. Ten\u00eda tan buen aspecto como siempre.<\/p>\n

It didn’t surprise me at all\u2014what is your ex going to do after a breakup other than get better looking.<\/p>\n

Mi primer instinto fue abrazarle y nos abrazamos. Fue un abrazo largo. Fue un abrazo de dos personas que se echaban de menos con locura. <\/b><\/p>\n

He had the same smile he always had when he saw me. Nothing had really changed. I didn’t think it would have anyways.<\/b><\/p>\n

I sat in the car and he drove us to the coffee shop out of the town. It was on top of a mountain\u2014far away from anything that could cause our attention to wander from each other.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

It was just me and him, and that’s what we needed that night. I sat next to him because I knew he was here with me\u2014so why sit across the table?<\/p>\n

Empezamos a hablar. Fue como con heridas de tres a\u00f1os, como si nunca hubi\u00e9ramos roto.<\/p>\n

Era tan real como si hubi\u00e9ramos viaj\u00f3 en el tiempo<\/a> but something in the back of my mind was telling me it wasn’t real.<\/p>\n

We talked for hours. I didn’t look at my watch\u2014not once. The time was irrelevant. It felt so good to sit next to him to talk and talk. <\/b><\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo para sentarme y preguntarme qu\u00e9 habr\u00eda pasado si yo hubiera sido un poco menos yo y \u00e9l un poco menos \u00e9l. <\/b><\/p>\n

Me dijo que le hab\u00eda hecho da\u00f1o. Me dijo que le hab\u00eda roto el coraz\u00f3n al elegir a todos los dem\u00e1s en vez de a \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

He told me he hasn\u2019t been able to sleep peacefully all these years and that each time when he’d close his eyes, he’d see me.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

He said that he found a girl that respects him and makes him feel he’s at home. He said he’s not mad at me anymore.<\/b><\/p>\n

He also said that he understands why I did the things I did. He knows things can’t change between us and things are really just too different at this point in our lives. He pointed out that he’s happy I called and he can’t believe his eyes.<\/p>\n

Nunca pens\u00f3 volver a vernos as\u00ed sentados uno al lado del otro. <\/b>And then he pulled me closer and hugged me. I said I’m sorry for everything.<\/p>\n

I said how I’d punished myself and told myself not to have anybody else next to me because of the things I did to him.<\/p>\n

I thought I don’t deserve love and I don’t want to leave broken people behind me. I figured it out that I can’t love because that’s not what I was taught in life.<\/p>\n

\"adorable<\/p>\n

He said he’ll never love anybody the way he loved me and he loves me now\u2014no matter how much time passes, no matter what distance and how many miles are between us. <\/b><\/p>\n

Seguir\u00e9 estando en su coraz\u00f3n y siendo su persona favorita en este mundo. Siempre supo quererme<\/b>.<\/p>\n

Siempre eleg\u00eda las palabras adecuadas, pero a veces optaba por castigarme y hundirme s\u00f3lo para sentirse mejor.<\/p>\n

Necesitaba demostrarle a \u00e9l y a todos los dem\u00e1s que I’m strong and that I’m independent.<\/a> Entonces, nos dimos cuenta de que nos am\u00e1bamos en un momento equivocado.<\/p>\n

I couldn’t say I loved him even though I did\u2014even though I do. I couldn’t do it because I’m still as broken as I was before.<\/p>\n

I didn’t do it because I knew nothing would change by saying those words out loud.  So, I just smiled. I smiled because I didn’t want to ruin what he had with another girl.<\/p>\n

I smiled because I knew if I said I loved him, he would try and give us another chance\u2014and we\u2019d blow that chance as well.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

He asked me if I\u2019d marry him. He said he\u2019d leave everything in a second and run away with me. <\/b><\/p>\n

He\u2019d forget every single person in his life if I decided to stay with him. But I couldn\u2019t do it\u2014the same as I couldn\u2019t kiss him. I know I\u2019ll be sorry years from now since I\u2019m sorry already.<\/p>\n

But the girl he was with didn\u2019t deserve any of this. He didn\u2019t deserve to tie the rest of his life to a toxic person such as me.<\/p>\n

Where I grew up, the phrase \u2018I married someone\u2019 has a double meaning. One is that I am the person that got married and the second one is that I made it possible for somebody to get married. <\/b><\/p>\n

No, I wasn\u2019t the one to get married.<\/b> I wasn\u2019t the one to wear white today. It was his fiancee. By saying \u2018no\u2019 to him, I made it possible for her to say \u2018yes\u2019 to him today. That\u2019s how I married my ex.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry for not giving you a happy-ending. I\u2019m just not that type of a person.<\/p>\n

\"As\u00ed<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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